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Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T20:45:38Z

My younger sister is having her first child (my first ever nephew) any second now (she's due today) and I want both of them to be as healthy and happy as possible. I've already threatened her with the hellfire of my older brother wrath if she doesn't breast feed the kid and I've pointed her to a lot of awesome resources that she'll probably never read. She's not paleo at all and probably won't be for a longgg time, if ever.

That being said, talking to a non-paleoer, what would be the single piece of advice you'd give a brand new Momma?

Answer by Travis Culp for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T20:50:26Z

Find some way to get her to eat liver every week. Have a butcher make sausage where 1/4 of the meat is liver and it's heavily spiced, put it into chili...whatever it takes. That alone is probably going to make the biggest difference for the health of both of them. Pregnancy and breast-feeding leach out a lot of vitamins and minerals that need to be constantly replenished.

Answer by Dragonfly for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T20:54:56Z

Get her D level checked and sun/supplement to sufficiency. Supplement magnesium citrate as well.

Answer by Efaitch for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T21:02:38Z

First of all, I'd advise her NOT to take antibiotics during delivery unless it's a life or death situation... They're routinely prescribed for women who've been labouring for over 18 hours after their waters have broken in the UK!

Obviously, interventions sometimes are necessary during birth, but trying to birth naturally (in a squatting position) rather than on ones back on a bed etc. helps with the birth and the recovery after birth.

Good breastfeeding support is a MUST!!! I'm in the UK and we have breastfeeding support networks, but it's hard to find good support after birth on hospital wards when mother is feeling very vulnerable - especially if the birth wasn't great.

So, breastfeeding support - if a supplement needs to be given, then try not to give by mouth or certainly not by bottle - a supplementary feeding system or a cup will be better than a feeding teat.

Invest in a sling/baby carrier as baby benefits from skin to skin contact as well as being able to get stuff done while baby is attached (it's amazing what you can do with a baby on the front of you :-).

Rope in as much support as possible to get some food cooked and frozen ready to defrost and shove in the oven/reheat. This is major issue! It is so hard to get much done when there's a baby around. Are you able to help out by making any meals that she can store for reheating/cooking?

Answer by Kewpie for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T21:26:22Z

I know you've already mentioned it in your post, but it would absolutely be breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed! For as long as possible. I would also advise acquiring some method to wear your baby. I loved my sling, but whatever she likes and will use is the best choice.

Answer by staceychev for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T23:00:04Z

As a mama who nursed her first for several years and is going strong with the second (20 months), I'd agree with the above advice. I'd also tell her to perfect her smile and nod. People ask all sorts of annoying and/or dumb questions ("is she a good baby?" "does she sleep through the night?" "have you started cereal yet?"), and they also love to give advice, so a good solid smile-and-nod can go a long way!

Answer by Thumper for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T23:01:30Z

Whoa - hard question - just one piece of advice...

Hmmm for the next few days my biggest piece of advice is what goes in must come out - and it will come out - no matter how it happens it will happen! Hydrate and moisturize before during and after.

For motherhood - listen to yourself - and figure out how to do it as you go. You can plan all you like - but the little person coming out has no use for your plans.

DON'T stress (too much) and ask for help when you need it - and take help when people offer, even if you don't think you need it.

Try to take a breath and enjoy it and take too many pictures.

Answer by Chris Antenucci for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T23:26:47Z

Make sure the baby is breastfed. This along with going through the birth canal is how we get the good bacteria that have a huge impact on our health. IMO a lack of these two things is responsible for many of the diseases we see in this country, especially autoimmune diseases and inflammatory bowel diseases as this compilation of research shows http://courses.washington.edu/nutr526/news/biospec.htm#_Toc516479386. Some studies have also shown that our good bacteria affect brain development http://blog.autoimmunetherapies.com/gut_buddies/2011/03/30/gut-bacteria-may-influence-brain-development-and-behaviour/. Also, it's important for the mother to have a stress-free pregnancy and do as much as possible to keep her cortisol levels in check (see questions on PH about how to do that) because research shows that this has an effect on how children respond to stress for the rest of their lives http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4286512.stm.

Answer by Ambimorph for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T23:28:09Z

With an infant, no matter how tempting it is to try to get something done, sleep when s/he sleeps, you need it!

Answer by NewPaleoMamaAz for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-17T23:30:40Z

Aside from breastfeeding, proper nutrition from the very start of life is so important. If I had it to do all over again, I would've never let my kids get a taste of sugary, salty, crap foods. I would've fed them right from the beginning to hopefully avoid them craving and becoming addicted to that kind of junk. Fresh fruits, vegetables, and meats/eggs/fish etc would've been given from the start of solid foods. Also, I would've made sure that water, coconut water/milk, and occasional fresh squeezed juice were the main options for hydration after cessation of breastfeeding. No soda, Gatorade, koolaid crappy drinks.

Answer by Aughra for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-18T00:03:56Z

Babywearing and cosleeping. Basically LOTS of skin to skin.

Answer by blueballoon for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-18T00:25:08Z

Every family is different, so don't stress about other people's judgmental remarks. Because there will be plenty. Not feeding my kids gluten, doing lots of baby-wearing (instead of using a stroller), co-sleeping... Whatever you do people will judge you because parenting is about as personal as it gets. Ignore it ALL, and do the right thing for YOUR family.

Answer by goodgravymissmaisy for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-18T03:31:11Z

Truthfully? New moms get PLENTY of advice. It's almost always well-intentioned, but it can be pretty freaking stressful (hello! cortisol!) and annoying to be bombarded by people -- even your beloved brother -- telling you that you MUST do X and you must NEVER do Y with they sometimes explicit, but nearly always implicit, suggestion that if you fail to do so, you clearly don't love your child and/or the advice-giver.

I would suggest that most new moms need unconditional love and practical support from their loved ones a hell of a lot more than they need advice.

Answer by Dorado Galore for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-18T04:28:23Z

Oh, goodness. One of the main things New Mom needs to learn to do, is ignore the well-meaning counsel of adults who will invariably tell her things like: "Enjoy this particular phase of your child's development, because it's just so precious and it goes by so fast, and what follows isn't as..."

Sheer gibberish. Every phase of this child's life is glorious, and must be seen as such. My son is now 13. He's a fantastic 13. When he was 3 months old, that too was marvelous. I spent my share of time with my baby son in my arms at 2:00 in the morning, walking around the living room singing and cooing during his various periods of discomfort. I remember thinking: "This is life, this is amazing, this is beautiful, I'm so tired, this will pass, I hope I never forget it, I thank Life in all its myriad forms...."

One thing that isn't clear from your question. Is there a dad in the equation? I hope so. I mean, a father who's up for the whole shebang? And I don't mean a mere sperm donor. Too many kids now don't have a functional one, or one who's even there are at all.

Answer by free3337 for Single greatest piece of advice you'd give a brand new mother.

2011-11-18T20:15:02Z

give her a copy of 'Nutrition and physical degeneration'.