most recent 30 from http://paleohacks.com 2013-05-21T01:04:22Z http://paleohacks.com/feeds/question/97225 http://www.creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc/2.5/rdf http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down Ivan 2012-02-12T23:43:38Z 2012-05-07T00:40:53Z

<p>I recently learned about the Paleo way of life and although its been tough to explain and I've faltered a few times, I'm loving it.</p> <p>Problem is that I can't get my wife on board.</p> <p>I've sent her the literature online, explained the benefits, etc. but she's just really, really bad when it comes to healthy eating.</p> <p>Unfortunately, she doesn't see her poor eating is ruining her life and although she realizes she's not eating healthy, she's of willing to make any changes.</p> <p>Is anyone in a similar situation?</p> <p>I really want her to change her unhealthy habits. Besides her health, we have two children that I don't want to pick up any more bad eating habits.</p> <p>Any advice would be greatly appreciated.</p> <p>Thanks!</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97229#97229 A at Grain Free Diet 2012-02-12T23:50:27Z 2012-02-12T23:50:27Z

<p>Do it by yourself. Lead by example. Either she'll see the changes in you and want to jump on board, or she won't. When it comes down to it, you really can't make her do anything, but you can be a prime example of how awesome it is.</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97230#97230 Austin 2012-02-12T23:53:36Z 2012-02-12T23:53:36Z

<p>When I cook my wife is happy to eat whatever I prepare and I cook most of the time ... everything I make is Paleo/Primal :-)</p> <p>Good luck,</p> <p>Austin</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97231#97231 Saxon 2012-02-13T00:02:18Z 2012-02-13T00:02:18Z

<p>I have learned you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Family is the absolute hardest to convince to eat healthier. I have lost 85lbs going Paleo, and am a new person. I have given my family all the information they need. They are just too stuck in their archaic beliefs. If anything, they resist far more than any friend or stranger that you try to get on board. I have to deal with an ex-wife who feeds my children processed food at every meal, leaving my children sick and grumpy. All they want to eat is garbage, instead of the healthy whole foods I give them because they are used to hyperpalatable (overly salty and sweet) foods. </p> <p>Just do the best you can, and lead by example. Do not waiver in your beliefs, and sometime in their life when all this becomes common knowledge, they might change their mind. </p> <p>For me, I don't care about about my ex, but just hope that once my young children are older they will see the value in eating a healthy balanced diet, devoid of grains and excessive dairy and make the decision themselves. </p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97233#97233 delirious_nomad 2012-02-13T00:18:07Z 2012-02-13T00:18:07Z

<p>attraction rather than promotion and lead by example.</p> <p>you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to.</p> <p>you do what you gotta do and let her do what she has to do.</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97234#97234 Joshua 2012-02-13T00:19:09Z 2012-02-13T00:19:09Z

<p>Get some decent cookbooks (Everyday Paleo is ok, some of the recipes are good, but Well Fed is awesome) and start cooking some of those meals. Let her eat how she wants but if you take the effort to make delicious and healthy food, she won't reach for the cheezy poofs. </p> <p>You have to win some battles before you win the war. </p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97235#97235 Matt 2012-02-13T00:19:45Z 2012-02-13T00:19:45Z

<p>Even half-assed paleo is better than none at all. Minimizing wheat is nearly as good as eliminating it, particularly if you're not extremely sensitive to it (most folks aren't too sensitive to wheat). Replacing seed oils with healthier alterantives is a huge step. Increasing vegetable content, another biggie. </p> <p>Going cold turkey isn't the only way to do paleo. Ease her into it, she won't likely quibble over little changes like she would with larger changes. The larger changes aren't always necessary anyway. </p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97238#97238 DThoris 2012-02-13T00:24:32Z 2012-02-13T00:24:32Z

<p>My son and I are the household. He's 12, and eats everything in sight. He loves the Paleo diet, and has commented on the positive differences he notices on the days he sticks more with it as opposed to the days he does not. When I started, I never said to him that he was going to do it, and I have never told him he can't eat something he wants. However, I have told him I'm not cooking those foods that I no longer eat. He can cook them, if he's up to it, or he can have them outside the home. And he's ok with that. </p> <p>You didn't say who does most of the cooking. If you do, just don't make the foods you don't eat. If she really wants them, she'll have to make them. If she does the bulk of the cooking, perhaps taking over a portion of the cooking would go a long way to leading her to better eating. Also, if she does get on board with it, help her plan a cheat day once a week. My first cheat was mac and cheese. And man, did I feel awful after! But I allowed myself to have it, because I was craving it! My last major cheat was homemade ice cream with stevia. Big change there for me. My friends and I have noticed how much our cheats have changed over time.</p> <p>Also, most people I have spoken to about Paleo initially assume that the diet is low carb/low fat and thereby unsustainable, which it would be, were it low carb/low fat. Perhaps she's not seeing it for what it is yet. Give her time. Be awesome in your new life. Don't flaunt it. She'll likely at least try it down the road. Especially if you help with the cooking!</p> <p>Good luck!</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97262#97262 Sarah 2012-02-13T01:55:56Z 2012-02-13T01:55:56Z

<p>The BEST cookbook I have seen (and I have checked them ALL out from our library) is Paleo Comfort Foods. Make a few of those recipe for her and I think she'll be hooked! </p> <p>Also, if she's making more of the food for the family, consider taking over dinners by loading up a programmable crockpot before you leave for work in the morning with a paleo meal to slow cook all day long. When you get home for dinner, I bet you that you'll find a happy wife (because she didn't have to cook dinner!) and a happy family ready to eat a delicious meal. </p> <p>If she's pouring cereal for the kiddos for breakfast, get up early and make a crustless quiche or homemade breakfast sausage with scrambled eggs. </p> <p>I do most of the cooking, shopping and food prep for our family. Going paleo was my idea; my husband didn't care because he still got fed. Because I pretty much just put food in front of my husband, he's never complained and now he loves the way he feels on our paleo diet! </p> <p>I would bet that if you just started cooking more, feeding everyone good meals and letting them come to their own conclusions... you might really make some headway. :-)</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/97494#97494 Michael 2012-02-13T23:21:24Z 2012-02-13T23:21:24Z

<p>You also should remember that if your wife is non-paleo for another few months or years, or even a decade or two (depending on her age), it's probably not the end of the world. It's a bummer that I'm starting paleo at age 50, and it would have been much better if I had started at 20, or 2. We'll see what damage I've done but I've been at it for a year or two now and I'm doing quite well and I think I'm not deluding myself in believing I have a shot at a resonably long, healthy life, despite blowing it royally for 50 years. So, yes, like everybody says: lead by example and learn to cook. But also remember that she'll probably come around eventually, and she will probably get by fine in the meanwhile. It won't be optimal, but with a modicum of luck, she'll do alright until she comes around.</p> <p>And as she grows less healthy and you grow more healthy, she will come around … eventually.</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/98118#98118 Keto-jen 2012-02-16T17:03:34Z 2012-02-16T17:03:34Z

<p>My biggest gripe with Paleo is that not only do I have to shop more often, I Leo have to cook every night and morning AND pack my husband lunch. He is the one who wanted to do it, but I would be much happier if he took over planning, shopping, and cooking for at least 2 dinners a week. I no longer have what I consider a mothers right to call for a pizza night. I am with the people who say cook for her and I'll bet she eats it.</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/98148#98148 Sally 2012-02-16T18:26:55Z 2012-02-16T18:26:55Z

<p>My husband was also resistant. I ordered Robb Wolf's book and he happened to be the one who was home when the package came, so he decided to read it. He finished the book before I ever got to see it, and Robb's science convinced him to try it, whereas my internet info and anecdotal evidence had failed. He's still not anywhere near 100% paleo, but he tries to live by the principles and, since reading about it, is much more understanding when I won't eat the rice or cornbread that he makes.</p> <p>If science or a voice of "authority" speaks to your wife more than things you find on the internet, I highly recommend Robb Wolf's book. Maybe even framing it as you wanting her to understand your motivation so she can support you, not trying to get her to change. If she doesn't care about or claims not to understand science, leading by example is probably your best bet. </p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/117636#117636 Cristy 2012-05-07T00:25:40Z 2012-05-07T00:25:40Z

<p>Robb Wolf is a paleo god lol. I have never read a diet book from start to finish, I always get half way and go, Ef this shite!</p> <p>My son is gluten and dairy intolerant, happy to go along for the healthy life style too (lazy town rules in teaching him healthy active ways). (he's fussy but we are working on it).</p> <p>My Fiance on the other hand seems to resent me at the moment, retorting with "WTF, I have to stop eating dairy too now?" "I'll just stop eating at work he snarled this morning at me, cant believe I HAVE TO GIVE UP EVERYTHING IVE EATEN FOR THE PAST 35 YEARS BLAH BLAH RANT RANT".</p> <p>He even took it out on our son, needless to say I didnt stand for that so retorted back.</p> <p>I have read on here that a lot of the people on this site are eating dairy, but dairy isnt paleo? So now Im confused.</p> <p>But I will take a note from you all and let him do what he wants outside the house, but at home we model the best diet for our son.</p> <p>He gets the benefits, because when I did say "eat what you want at work then!" he said "but wont that defeat the whole purpose of this paleo shite?"</p> <p>I wont be preaching anymore, he is a science person and I so wish he would stop being LAZY and read the damn book!</p> <p>Maybe getting her to read the book or some blogs on it written by mums is the best way to get her educated and put that education to use?</p>

http://paleohacks.com/questions/97225/my-wife-isnt-down/117639#117639 HippiPaleo 2012-05-07T00:40:53Z 2012-05-07T00:40:53Z

<p>Drip feeding articles about the adverse health of certain foods I'm trying to get my husband to stop eating is working for me. </p> <p>I was trying for ages to get him to go Paleo, but we was very resistant. But since I have shown him one article at a time, he's like "oh wow that's really bad for you I'll try and eat less" and he does.</p> <p>Veggies and meats was easy. We are currently working on his sugar &amp; wheat consumption. He now doesn't eat cereal (wheat or corn) for breaky and has stopped adding sugar to coffee and tea. I haven't been able to stop the bread yet - but hey, baby steps. He used to eat I'd estimate a 50% wheat diet. Now it's closer to 20%.</p>