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I'm having a hard time telling myself no when it comes to grains. My kids make cake and I want "just one bite" or I make them Alfredo and I have to leave the room while they eat it and make sure to throw the leftovers away right away so I don't eat them. It seems like the fridge is my only "safe zone" I keep nothing I can't eat in there. It's my go to when I'm hungry. But I cant seem to get a grip on the snacks left out. Does anyone have any useful ways for a beginner like me to say NO to myself and to overcome this bad habit and cravings?

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5 · February 19, 2014 at 9:43 AM

What you have may be emotional. Black/green/white tea aren't much healthy in my opinion, here's a long reading about it:

http://poisonfluoride.com/pfpc/html/green_tea___.html

Yerba mate also is a better option besides coffee. Traditional smoking is probably not a good process of drying yerba mate but I guess most brands now use a short high heat process that is much better, that's what Amanda representatives told me they did.

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0 · February 19, 2014 at 12:41 AM

Unfortunately I live with 5 other people. Two of which are happy to try new things with me. Sharing new paleo creations has seemed to help. As for the other three they are die hard junk food junkies who still try to offer me cake and bread and then when I refuse they say oh my gosh I forgot sorry. I'm slowly getting better at saying no. I guess I just need practice. Thanks for the tips :)

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0 · February 19, 2014 at 12:38 AM

I actually had to cut coffee out completely. A few days ago I noticed it was triggering cravings for things I should not have. It's like every sip of black coffee only made me dream of the sweet and creamy coffee I used to drink. So I have it the boot. Black tea for me now. :)

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17101 · February 17, 2014 at 6:29 PM

Plus, activated charcoal pills before drinking voda/whiskey/tequilla is a very good way to prevent hangovers the next day... tee hee!

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17101 · February 17, 2014 at 6:28 PM

Ditto. Evolution's a bitch as they say, one drop of gluten in anything I consume, and I feel cold immediately, shivering even in 75'F, queasy stomach, and a big dose of acid/bile reflux at night when I try to sleep. So like you, I've a built in mechanism to keep me clean. That said, the occasional (once every few months) coconut flour pancakes with maple syrup or tapioca flour pizza with buffalo mozz are fine (I'm also allergic to cow casein). I do keep activate charcoal pills nearby whenever I go out, just incase I get glutened. They help, though not 100%

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690 · February 06, 2014 at 1:04 AM

"Gluten free" processed foods are the "lowfat" foods of the new millennium. :(

When all the data's in, I'm sure they'll be equally bad.

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1005 · February 05, 2014 at 7:25 PM

Well, come to me if you need any advice

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0 · February 04, 2014 at 11:23 AM

I gave up a lot to be on this gluten free diet. Eating a little junk food that is organic and gluten free is okay in my book!

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519 · February 03, 2014 at 11:17 PM

Im sorry but why would you eat all of that junk?

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519 · February 03, 2014 at 5:55 PM

There is always tomato sauce :D

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0 · February 03, 2014 at 5:52 PM

I think I'll buy a few paleo cookbooks and try this. I'm not the most creative cooker so maybe with some guidance things will turn out tasting good

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0 · February 03, 2014 at 5:51 PM

I've been incorporating the "have this instead" method. If I want something sweet I'm going for fruit. If it's creamy I'm teaching for avacado or mango etc. it seems to be working pretty well. Thank you.

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0 · February 03, 2014 at 5:50 PM

I have a dairy allergy and a sensitive to grains. I think they are causing my chronic sinus/ear infections.

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208 · January 31, 2014 at 6:23 PM

Try a Cauliflower & Cheese bake - it is far better than mac/cheese, especially the boxed kind. Start making some of the Paleo type desserts to replace the junk.

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0 · January 31, 2014 at 6:10 PM

I've been slowly incorporating this in the house. Slowly the junk has been filtering out but unfortunately I started this health journey late in my kids life. They are 13,12, and 9 so the sudden shock of no Oreos and Mac and cheese would not be a good situation. I've made the rule that they have to at least try the new things I cook or new fruits and veggies I buy. To their surprise they have liked quite a few.

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20 · February 23, 2014 at 3:42 AM

Blood chemistry is the way to say 'NO' and finding a way to eat that brings about your best chemistry is the method. There is no 'proper' way to eat, only the way that is best for you - so it is upon you to find this way. For me a high animal fat diet works well. I have NAFLD, gallbladder disease, skin issues, depression, mental fog, energy fluctuation etc. Eating a VLC Diet helps each of these temporal processes in such a way that willpower, common sense or fear could never do. Being a type that loves♥loves♥loves ice cream, donuts and chocolate chip cookies as I do you might think I would never have the willpower to avoid it...well, I don't. I do however have the blood chemistry to walk up to each of my tormentors; i.e. donuts etc. and admire how nice they look without being tempted in any way. Take your time don't go to extremes, make small changes and start eliminating all processed foods, anything in a package, box or wrapper. Eventually through experimentation you will find your personal chemistry via real food that works for you. 61 years of bad habits on this planet could not stop good blood chemistry from healing the mess created by bad eating @Saundrarose

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5 · February 18, 2014 at 2:49 PM

Coffee may help with its anti-opioid activity to beginners, in my opinion. Other keywords are discipline and motivation, creativity may help with them.

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0 · February 19, 2014 at 12:38 AM

I actually had to cut coffee out completely. A few days ago I noticed it was triggering cravings for things I should not have. It's like every sip of black coffee only made me dream of the sweet and creamy coffee I used to drink. So I have it the boot. Black tea for me now. :)

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0 · February 18, 2014 at 1:49 PM

Simply....if it's not in the house, can't be eaten! Learn how to make at least some paleo cakes, Alfredo, etc. If I'm cooking, I'm in charge of ingredients. I am sensitive to their needs too. I like cauliflower Alfredo best, they like the cashew kind. I tried the Alfredo on white pizza and was still denied....no biggie! Small batches then. Make, freeze, heat, use.

Second...don't say no! Make yourself options too. Freeze paleo muffins. Have zoodles on reserve when they want macncheese, make dairy free cheese powder that just needs water added when you need it. SUBSTITUTE! Small leads to big. Allow a month to set a new habit, then alter again if needed.

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0 · February 18, 2014 at 3:23 AM

I had a pretty hard time giving up sugar until I publicly announced to all my friends and family that if I ate any during a three week time period I would have to contribute a fairly painful amount of money to a political party I can't stand. Worked like a charm :-)

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0 · February 17, 2014 at 8:47 AM

Its all about choice. I am a Coeliac so gluten is a big no no. However that doesn't mean I don't feel hugely deprived when the family have something I can't. What I've learnt to do is see it as a choice. I can choose to eat the gluten and feel rotton/throw up/feel ill for two days after or I can choose to feel healthy and pick something gluten free.

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17101 · February 17, 2014 at 6:28 PM

Ditto. Evolution's a bitch as they say, one drop of gluten in anything I consume, and I feel cold immediately, shivering even in 75'F, queasy stomach, and a big dose of acid/bile reflux at night when I try to sleep. So like you, I've a built in mechanism to keep me clean. That said, the occasional (once every few months) coconut flour pancakes with maple syrup or tapioca flour pizza with buffalo mozz are fine (I'm also allergic to cow casein). I do keep activate charcoal pills nearby whenever I go out, just incase I get glutened. They help, though not 100%

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188 · February 06, 2014 at 1:38 AM

Your putting yourself through a constant battle with yourself, you've got to make your whole home a grain free zone otherwise it can be a struggle.

Also make sure you have irresistable paleo alternatives prepared at least a day before hand.

Victory loves preparation.

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0 · February 19, 2014 at 12:41 AM

Unfortunately I live with 5 other people. Two of which are happy to try new things with me. Sharing new paleo creations has seemed to help. As for the other three they are die hard junk food junkies who still try to offer me cake and bread and then when I refuse they say oh my gosh I forgot sorry. I'm slowly getting better at saying no. I guess I just need practice. Thanks for the tips :)

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2178 · February 04, 2014 at 2:46 PM

I have a very hard time just having one bite - it always turns into a gorge-fest. So if I find myself wanting something that I know I really shouldn't eat, I remind myself that "I want to be proud of myself." If I leave a party not having had any chocolate chip cookies, or pass the office kitchen and all of the donuts inside, I feel great and strong, and I just remember that I want to keep that feeling going for as long as I can.

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0 · February 03, 2014 at 11:14 PM

I buy gluten free chips, dips, and cookies. Just bought a gluten free cake mix! As long as I get my fix, I don't bother with my kids snacks!

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0 · February 04, 2014 at 11:23 AM

I gave up a lot to be on this gluten free diet. Eating a little junk food that is organic and gluten free is okay in my book!

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519 · February 03, 2014 at 11:17 PM

Im sorry but why would you eat all of that junk?

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519 · February 01, 2014 at 7:12 PM

What's wrong with zoodles and good homemade Alfredo sauce? I eat it once in a while but there is nothing wrong with homemade Alfredo unless you don't tolerate dairy

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0 · February 03, 2014 at 5:50 PM

I have a dairy allergy and a sensitive to grains. I think they are causing my chronic sinus/ear infections.

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519 · February 03, 2014 at 5:55 PM

There is always tomato sauce :D

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1523 · February 01, 2014 at 7:01 PM

Dear @Saundrarose,

I once went through that same thing! It really is awful but there are ways to overcome it. These are the ways I used when I couldn't stifle grain cravings:

1: You can buuuuuut . . .

This is the starter way. If you're just getting onto paleo but you just can't go cold turkey, give this a shot; Tell yourself that you CAN have just a bite of something but you don't NEED it. And that, if you do, you'll have to go bike or run for 20 minutes. I may be crazy but telling myself these things usually worked for me and made me decide against my cravings. YOU have the power.

2: Have this instead!

Whenever I get a craving and I know that I shouldn't, no matter how good the food looks, I just substitute it! For instance, if you're having a craving for just one slice of pie, have a handful of raisins instead! Or maybe a diet soda. If you're distracting yourself with a different food then you aren't going to crave the other thing anymore.

And finally . . .

3. SUBSTITUE FOOD

No matter how sweet that plum pie smells, or how yummy that apple tart is, you can ALWAYS bake paleo substitutes. If you are really craving a specific food (For me, cookies! ALL THE TIME I want COOKIES!), Then just google a paleo recipe for that food. Paleo desserts are not that different from the real things and you'll get used to the taste and start craving those instead (Which is fine since they're healthier).

And if none of this works, just try going cold turkey. lol

Hope this helps!

- Girl_Gone_Primal

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1005 · January 31, 2014 at 7:47 PM

Instead of depriving yourself, make a healthy paleo tread like coconut flour based cake. Instead of having pasta with the alfredo sauce, have it with sauteed spinach or spaghetti squash (one of my favorites). Try substituting unhealthy ingredients with healthy ingredients. It's not about deprivation, it's about health-ifying old recipes.

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0 · February 03, 2014 at 5:52 PM

I think I'll buy a few paleo cookbooks and try this. I'm not the most creative cooker so maybe with some guidance things will turn out tasting good

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0 · January 31, 2014 at 6:06 PM

Thank you for all of the great ideas. I can't wait to try them and see which ones work best for me. I've taken the whole I'll have just one bite approach but that often triggers the craving and it turns into me devouring the entire thing. I must say this has got to be the most helpful website yet that I've come across. You guys are simply amazing!

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208 · January 31, 2014 at 2:31 PM

Don't keep it in the house. If it isn't good for your health then it shouldn't be something for your kids to eat at home. If they want to eat that way they can do it when you aren't around, at school or friends homes. Our house is mostly clean of junk, but I wouldn't eat it anyway as I've finally overcome!

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0 · January 31, 2014 at 6:10 PM

I've been slowly incorporating this in the house. Slowly the junk has been filtering out but unfortunately I started this health journey late in my kids life. They are 13,12, and 9 so the sudden shock of no Oreos and Mac and cheese would not be a good situation. I've made the rule that they have to at least try the new things I cook or new fruits and veggies I buy. To their surprise they have liked quite a few.

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3217 · January 31, 2014 at 2:24 PM

I replace it with other high-satisfaction "yes" foods, like a spoonful of almond butter. Over time, those cravings wane, so it's not like I'm downing tons of almond butter. I also am back on the wagon (Whole 30, day 29!) after several months of eating what was, for me, really poorly. I went to the doctor and my thyroid was totally out of whack again, my cholesterol had shot through the roof, and I had gained over 10 lbs. That's been enough to motivate me this time around.

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17101 · January 31, 2014 at 2:16 PM

It gets easier as long as you turn it into a habbit. The hard part is catching yourself when you're about to make a mistake. Thinking "Oh, that doughnut looks tasy" and answering immediately with "Oh yeah? Watch me NOT eat it" and walk away from it.

At first it's hard, but the more you do it, the more will power you gain. Over time, as you realize those items are damaging to your health and cause you hurt, you'll stop recognizing them as food, and people who eat them will seem as weird as people who would try to eat a bar of soap, or a rock.

After about a year or even less for some, the problem just goes away.

I hate to say this, but there are substitutes out there. You can make cake with almond/rice/coconut flour, and there are other types of noodles than from grains out there. Those types of high carb or nut flour foods will absolutely stall or reverse fat loss, but at least they won't damage your health to as great an extent.

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8100 · January 31, 2014 at 2:13 AM

Here's my trick:

I tell myself I can have it in 30 minutes if I still want it. Then I get busy doing something else OUT of the kitchen. If, after 30 minutes I think I still want it, I try to put it off for another 30. If it's close to bedtime, I just brush my teeth and go to bed early. Sometimes, I STILL want the thing really badly after that time so I have a bite or two. And then move on with my life. I don't want to let it have total power over me.

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245 · January 31, 2014 at 2:07 AM

I heard on a podcast that you can break a bad habit by simply interupting it each time you feel temptation.

The example given was, each time that you want a non-paleo food simply do 10 pushups and if after that interupt you still want the item then go ahead and eat it. After a period of time you will find non-paleo foods less and less appealing as you begin to assosiate it with the initial pushups more than the reward of the food.

That obviously is not the only way it can be done, but the point was just put some steps between you and the undesired outcome. Either way you will have to exhibit some form of self control in actually doing the action each time. Personally I find that after I educate myself on the downsides of a specific habit, I find it far easier to avoid the action. I'm not terribly impulsive though.

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