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Paleo dating: How important is good nutrition in your date/mate?

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Created June 25, 2011 at 11:29 PM

If I see an attractive woman eating a corn dog I grow repulsed. It's merely an involuntary response that is impossible for me to filter. I think such reactions show on my face so I can't hide it.

For me, I've grown really picky about the ladies I date. Since going Paleo I tend to pick out health-conscious dates/mates who are interested in optimizing their health.

I feel like it's difficult to enhance the life of someone if you are operating in a negative energy balance. Those types tend to drag down other people over time and they can make lame partners.

I want someone who generates energy so that we can both make life better for each other. Without proper diet, relationship (or family for that matter) seems like a precarious proposition.

How do you feel about this?

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1881 · July 19, 2012 at 9:07 AM

It's making me feel like we need a paleo dating service. Problem solved.

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1000 · July 19, 2012 at 6:17 AM

I'm your man. I live near you.

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7292 · July 18, 2012 at 7:10 PM

Too much self promotion

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4258 · January 19, 2012 at 5:41 PM

mm, this makes me feel pretty good about me and my mate. Well said!

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839 · January 19, 2012 at 5:16 PM

If you liked "Feed Your Genes Right", you should check out Dr Shanahan's book "Deep Nutrition"... a large part of the book is about epigenetics and the influence of nutrition on gene expression. It's a good read too.

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17402 · December 29, 2011 at 1:57 PM

Have to agree with you there. There's nothing but strife between me and the wife right now as she's still a SAD eater and wants to stay that way. The worst part is she encourages the kids to eat pizza, oatmeal, and bagels. The older kid sort of gets it, but still gives in. I've had very little luck with this. :(

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2153 · July 08, 2011 at 12:27 AM

@ BAMBAM- are you in NC? Brevard is a SWEET place to live. I lived in Cedar Mountain, just outside of Brevard, for two summers. Its beautiful with great weather and there is tons of climbing.

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125 · June 28, 2011 at 8:10 PM

I would DEFINITELY check out CrossFit. It's not for everyone and many people only do it for a month before they decide that it's too much for them. I, on the other hand, have thrived in it and is the reason I've stuck with paleo. I love the challenge and the community; the people there are the best and push you beyond your limits. It is honestly, the best thing to happen to me since getting my career/graduating college. Great way to meet people, have your fitness challenged, and "talk" paleo :-)

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930 · June 28, 2011 at 7:06 PM

Yes! It would be more expensive to have to make 2 separate meals as well!

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3313 · June 28, 2011 at 4:36 PM

Cross-fit training centers....hmmm. I have a friend here who knows a guy who owns one in Brevard, NC...might have to check out those digs. I am a nightmare to dine with for the non-Paleo types. I once inquired at a restaurant, "Do you have well-water here?" LOL.

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2231 · June 28, 2011 at 1:12 AM

hahaha i do this too with guys!

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125 · June 27, 2011 at 9:07 PM

Haha! You are hilarious! It is difficult to find someone who is passionate about paleo. However, I also am I crazy CrossFitter, which makes it easier to meet men who share my passion for fitness and paleo. However, that does not mean I have found someone there, but it's nice to have options. Plus, it's SO much easier going out on a date to help each other find a paleo meal :-)

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3313 · June 27, 2011 at 4:34 PM

Totally true. I read "Feed Your Genes Right" which explores Nutrigenomics and talks about how our diet turns different genes on and off. I should probably read it again now that I am back in school. Since reading it, people have attacked me about some of the claims I've made about Nutrigenomics so I have to brush up. It's fascinating science.

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1623 · June 27, 2011 at 5:52 AM

100% agreed. especially if you start researching nutrigenomics/epigenetics- you want someone for your partner that is taking their health (and the health of multiple future generations) seriously... besides, if they're healthy they'll have a healthier libido- and that can't be a bad thing!

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3313 · June 27, 2011 at 4:24 AM

Gorgeous brainy girls are not my primary motivation for pursuing a career as an R.D. but definitely a PALEO PERK! ;)

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78422 · June 27, 2011 at 1:41 AM

BamBam. I"m sure they do, but taking a class just for that reason is never a good idea.

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78422 · June 27, 2011 at 1:40 AM

actually, I'd rather meet someone in real life than online, I'm just sayin

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12174 · June 27, 2011 at 12:49 AM

Reminds me of th'ol, "Wait, this isn't a dating site...!??" comment from last year.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 3:52 PM

Excellent point about future mothering of children. It would be difficult for me to entrust someone with life if they show signs of abusing their own biology. I've read that our Omega 3 fat deficits are so great that it can require up to 6 months to restore them. Since 60% of the brain is comprised of DHA and IQ development is linked to prenatal Omega 3 consumption, it's probably a wise idea for a woman to get an early start on her health before conceiving a child. That means eliminating the omega-6's that prevail throughout the SAD and boosting the 3's. That's just one example of planningl

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406 · June 26, 2011 at 3:33 PM

I think its a good thing to discriminate. If your relationship goes further there won't be issues over what foods to have in the house for shared meals. Plus you want to have a healthy mother for your future "healthy" children.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:06 PM

Mark, take a science course at a nearby college. I'm surrounded by future RN's, RD's, MD's so they trend healthy. They tend to make easy converts.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:02 PM

Gettin' hot in hurrrrrr

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2854 · June 26, 2011 at 7:52 AM

PANTS OFF, DANCE OFF!!

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15229 · June 26, 2011 at 4:31 AM

^^^^ i sense a love connection.

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78422 · June 26, 2011 at 4:01 AM

Sammi. How you describe a guy you'd date, is how I'd describe a girl. Paleo is a passionate thing, and very intricate, and I've given up on finding a paleo girl in real life.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 3:13 AM

This site would be so much better if we could ALL get half naked. We need a Master-of-ceremonies to kick off this shindig. IT'S PALEO PARTY TIME!

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209 · June 26, 2011 at 3:02 AM

Me too I'm relly passionate about this lifestyle, I can't stand cheat meals or others thinking "whole grains"are healthy.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:56 AM

"I didn't realize how important being on the same page nutritionally with someone was until now. I hope I never have to date someone again who doesn't have the same outlook on diet and lifestyle as I do." I wish I could uprate this 1000x.

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16131 · June 26, 2011 at 2:56 AM

Nice! And a torso pic!

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:50 AM

Excellent point! Growing food, food shopping, preparing food, cooking food, eating food is such an intimate part of the human experience. To me it feels so much more romantic to share food and flavor. I don't want to have to live in a separate food world as my partner.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:46 AM

hahaha...beard not mandatory? What about back hair? Knuckles that drag?

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:44 AM

There was a gorgeous girl in my introductory nutrition course this past semester. Tall, thin, tan, blue eyes, light blonde hair, confident, domineering. She ate cheetos in class and drank Dr. Pepper. To other guys in the room she was the hottest girl in there. To me, she was a slob. Just hearing the sound of the cheetos crunching grossed me out, never mind the orange-dyed speckles of MSG particles lining her mouth. The most attractive girl in the room was a brainy girl who was very radical and bold in her nutrition. Not the hottest but the most attractive to me anyways.

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3808 · June 26, 2011 at 1:26 AM

Similar here - my husband smoked when we met, though he quit before we had kids. Totally not my thing, but the relationship worked out, because other things are more important than details like smoking and diet. Now... he's the one who got us started on this paleo thing. I wouldn't hesitate to date someone with a different diet as long as they were respectful and accommodating of my choices.

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970 · June 26, 2011 at 12:17 AM

and forgive me for judging- I have no idea what you've eaten in your life, just saying, some people are ignorant to this stuff and it doesn't mean they are a bad person. I'm sure many ladies would be willing to hear out the ways of paleo eating and give it a shot. Especially a health conscious girl stuck in the conventional way.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 12:10 AM

True, I know there's more to life than good nutrition. I've just seen bad nutrition cause too much chaos. I want to see my dates Omega fatty acid profile. Exaggeration but still. If she takes fish oil pills its a major turn on. Met a celiac girl in school here who can't eat gluten. BONUS!

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125 · June 26, 2011 at 12:25 AM

As a single female in my mid-twenties, I have to say that although I would not judge someone for not eating paleo, it is just so much more attractive to have someone who is health conscious. However, in my life, not just looking for someone to date, but for a relationship, if there's one thing that I've learned, it's that you have to take someone for where they are at, not for where you want them to be. If I were dating someone who refused to eat paleo or another health conscious way, I could not foresee that relationship going anywhere. Although I've only been eating paleo for 4 months, it has become and incredibly important part of my life and I'm very passionate about it. It would be difficult to be in a relationship with someone who does not share that passion.

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15229 · June 26, 2011 at 4:31 AM

^^^^ i sense a love connection.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:06 PM

Mark, take a science course at a nearby college. I'm surrounded by future RN's, RD's, MD's so they trend healthy. They tend to make easy converts.

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78422 · June 27, 2011 at 1:41 AM

BamBam. I"m sure they do, but taking a class just for that reason is never a good idea.

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78422 · June 26, 2011 at 4:01 AM

Sammi. How you describe a guy you'd date, is how I'd describe a girl. Paleo is a passionate thing, and very intricate, and I've given up on finding a paleo girl in real life.

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12174 · June 27, 2011 at 12:49 AM

Reminds me of th'ol, "Wait, this isn't a dating site...!??" comment from last year.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:02 PM

Gettin' hot in hurrrrrr

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209 · June 26, 2011 at 3:02 AM

Me too I'm relly passionate about this lifestyle, I can't stand cheat meals or others thinking "whole grains"are healthy.

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78422 · June 27, 2011 at 1:40 AM

actually, I'd rather meet someone in real life than online, I'm just sayin

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3313 · June 27, 2011 at 4:24 AM

Gorgeous brainy girls are not my primary motivation for pursuing a career as an R.D. but definitely a PALEO PERK! ;)

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125 · June 27, 2011 at 9:07 PM

Haha! You are hilarious! It is difficult to find someone who is passionate about paleo. However, I also am I crazy CrossFitter, which makes it easier to meet men who share my passion for fitness and paleo. However, that does not mean I have found someone there, but it's nice to have options. Plus, it's SO much easier going out on a date to help each other find a paleo meal :-)

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125 · June 28, 2011 at 8:10 PM

I would DEFINITELY check out CrossFit. It's not for everyone and many people only do it for a month before they decide that it's too much for them. I, on the other hand, have thrived in it and is the reason I've stuck with paleo. I love the challenge and the community; the people there are the best and push you beyond your limits. It is honestly, the best thing to happen to me since getting my career/graduating college. Great way to meet people, have your fitness challenged, and "talk" paleo :-)

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3313 · June 28, 2011 at 4:36 PM

Cross-fit training centers....hmmm. I have a friend here who knows a guy who owns one in Brevard, NC...might have to check out those digs. I am a nightmare to dine with for the non-Paleo types. I once inquired at a restaurant, "Do you have well-water here?" LOL.

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2153 · July 08, 2011 at 12:27 AM

@ BAMBAM- are you in NC? Brevard is a SWEET place to live. I lived in Cedar Mountain, just outside of Brevard, for two summers. Its beautiful with great weather and there is tons of climbing.

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2435 · June 26, 2011 at 2:09 AM

This question is slightly biased. I'm fat, but eat healthy food (at least most of the time). I have some pretty hot friends who eat a bunch of crap, don't work out, and are totally hot. I have another friend who's bulky, but not fat, gets lots of exercise, and is open minded with eating Paleo but will generally eat anything someone puts in front of her, and peanut butter is arguably her favorite food.

Who would you choose? Or would you look elsewhere? Do you want someone smart and strong-willed and determined that grains are good for her, or someone who's dumb and weak and will do whatever you tell her? There is so much more than their current diet you should be looking at.

I agree, the corndog implies that she doesn't seem to give a crap about her health. But would a Vegan be better?

I would suggest looking for someone you connect with, and if that connection includes a passion for health, then great!

I was striving to be healthy when I met my husband. I knew he was a fast food junky when I married him, and while I hated it, I loved so many other things about him enough to deal with it and health-wash him later.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:44 AM

There was a gorgeous girl in my introductory nutrition course this past semester. Tall, thin, tan, blue eyes, light blonde hair, confident, domineering. She ate cheetos in class and drank Dr. Pepper. To other guys in the room she was the hottest girl in there. To me, she was a slob. Just hearing the sound of the cheetos crunching grossed me out, never mind the orange-dyed speckles of MSG particles lining her mouth. The most attractive girl in the room was a brainy girl who was very radical and bold in her nutrition. Not the hottest but the most attractive to me anyways.

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2854 · June 26, 2011 at 1:26 AM

SWF seeking dreamy caveman. Passion required, beard optional.

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16131 · June 26, 2011 at 2:56 AM

Nice! And a torso pic!

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2854 · June 26, 2011 at 7:52 AM

PANTS OFF, DANCE OFF!!

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:46 AM

hahaha...beard not mandatory? What about back hair? Knuckles that drag?

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 3:13 AM

This site would be so much better if we could ALL get half naked. We need a Master-of-ceremonies to kick off this shindig. IT'S PALEO PARTY TIME!

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4258 · January 19, 2012 at 5:41 PM

mm, this makes me feel pretty good about me and my mate. Well said!

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1000 · July 19, 2012 at 6:17 AM

I'm your man. I live near you.

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2640 · June 26, 2011 at 1:59 AM

My current boyfriend naturally eats a very low carb/no processed food diet even though he's always been thin and healthy. His viewpoint on the SAD is one of the things that attracted me to him when we began dating. I find that he keeps me on track when I have a bad day and want to cheat which is super motivating and makes me appreciate him even more than I would if we didn't have that aspect to our relationship. It's a big improvement from the guy I dated before him who was an insatiable fast food junkie that ridiculed my way of eating every chance he got.

I didn't realize how important being on the same page nutritionally with someone was until now. I hope I never have to date someone again who doesn't have the same outlook on diet and lifestyle as I do. The only thing that would make my boyfriend better and more like me nutritionally would be if he were as into the idea of raising our own meat (cows, goats, chickens, ducks, etc.) as I am, but I can keep pushing that over time. ;)

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:56 AM

"I didn't realize how important being on the same page nutritionally with someone was until now. I hope I never have to date someone again who doesn't have the same outlook on diet and lifestyle as I do." I wish I could uprate this 1000x.

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4181 · June 26, 2011 at 12:04 AM

When I met my husband, I was 20, he was 19 and on leave from the Marines. I smoked, he used copenhagen and we both drank socially, ate shitty food and were very typical young people in the early 90's. Having now been married for 18 years we've both quit tobacco, we've had a child, he's survived cancer, we're both more health conscious now, eat better, exercise and I can honestly say that there has never been at any point in our relationship, anything he's done that made me feel repulsed by him.

If at this point in my life if I found myself single, I can't say for sure whether or not I would judge someone by what they eat or may eat on occasion.

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 12:10 AM

True, I know there's more to life than good nutrition. I've just seen bad nutrition cause too much chaos. I want to see my dates Omega fatty acid profile. Exaggeration but still. If she takes fish oil pills its a major turn on. Met a celiac girl in school here who can't eat gluten. BONUS!

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3808 · June 26, 2011 at 1:26 AM

Similar here - my husband smoked when we met, though he quit before we had kids. Totally not my thing, but the relationship worked out, because other things are more important than details like smoking and diet. Now... he's the one who got us started on this paleo thing. I wouldn't hesitate to date someone with a different diet as long as they were respectful and accommodating of my choices.

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855 · June 27, 2011 at 4:38 AM

I've been with my husband 10 years, and we both started out (me at 20, him at 23) eating like crap. But my health has taken some serious downturns and, while he's not setting out to become 100% Primal himself, he understands that I'm having a really really hard time adhering to it. I have a carb/sugar addiction that is literally an addiction -- after 2 days with no sugar, I start pacing the apartment wringing my hands and unable to think of ANYTHING other than running down to 7-11 for a Reeses. I described this to a student who had a heroin problem, and she understood completely :P

Anyway, Husband has agreed that this summer we will see NO non-Primal food enter this house. (Well, with the one exception of his birthday -- he's going to buy a loaf of bread and have BLTs all day, then toss whats left of the bread). Whether or not he ever sticks to this diet, what's important to me is that he's willing to change his life because it's important to my health. (Eating low carb Primal won't cure me, but it will make all of my conditions more easily manageable, and keep me healthier long-term.)

If I were to ever find myself in the dating scene again, my real requirements would be that the man I dated be willing to let me eat the way that's right for my body, help me with it, and LISTEN to me when I discuss nutrition and health, even if he chooses to disagree. If he'll have a discourse with me about it and not dismiss me out of hand, that's enough.

Then again, I'd never date someone who dismissed my opinions out of hand about ANYTHING.....

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970 · June 26, 2011 at 12:14 AM

You have to be fair- not many people realize how damaging poor eating is to them. That girl eating a corndog may change her ways overnight if she learned how bad it is. My husband and I were SAD eaters when we met- then we went vegetarian, and then vegan together. We decided to leave veganism after over a year and went flexitarian- then discovered paleo and ventured into that together and haven't looked back. Not everyone is going to be perfect- but you can work with someone.. it's not about changing them, but enlightening them. Don't judge a person by what they are eating- you were probably eating that as well at some point in your life.

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970 · June 26, 2011 at 12:17 AM

and forgive me for judging- I have no idea what you've eaten in your life, just saying, some people are ignorant to this stuff and it doesn't mean they are a bad person. I'm sure many ladies would be willing to hear out the ways of paleo eating and give it a shot. Especially a health conscious girl stuck in the conventional way.

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2291 · January 19, 2012 at 7:00 PM

I've been thinking about this today... What does blatant disregard for ones own health say about a person? Especially a person with a healthy-eating spouse. They have all the information in front of them, living proof that it works, they see how much better you feel than they do, and they still choose to eat pasta or a giant plate of french toast even when presented with better options. Even when they know they feel like crap after they eat it. I don't get it. I'm not sure I want to be with someone like that anymore. Not so much because they eat the occasional sandwich or something but because they don't even try or care, at all, period. I feel it's kind of selfish too, especially if you are in it for the long run because they are robbing you of a healthy active future and giving you a bunch of bullshit and doctors instead. They don't care.

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6117 · January 19, 2012 at 6:38 PM

As a 41yo gay man, my dating possibilities are already severely limited. Assuming 3.8% of the population is queer, ~half of them are women, and amongst the men, they have all the usual reasons not to be interested in one person or another; and even assuming my data are off by a few percentage points one way or the other--my potential viable partners already comprise a vanishingly small cohort. If my partners now have to be paleo, I might as well forget it, and resign myself to being one of nature's perpetual bachelors. (BTW, is that paleo?)

Amongst my friends and family--the people I love MOST in the world--exactly one of them is paleo. I don't evaluate any of them based on their food choices, and I thank them not to evaluate me that way either. Most of my good friends have incredibly ethical, meaningful, active, socially conscious lifestyles. Many are quite beautiful and sexy as well, including a few who are even (gasp!) VEGANS!!!

As Chris Kresser says, there's more to health than food, and there's more to life than health. I'm not looking for excuses to disqualify people from my life--there are already too many as it is. It's much healthier for me to focus on common ground and chemistry. I'm not turning down a hot guy who who totally digs me because he eats grains instead of brains.

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2797 · December 29, 2011 at 1:31 PM

If you want to date someone who is in good shape and health conscious, take a page out of the CrossFit Bible:

  1. Open a CrossFit affiliate
  2. Make girls work out really hard
  3. Tell them to eat paleo
  4. Hit on them constantly, don't worry if they have a boyfriend/husband
  5. ???
  6. Profit

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1579 · June 27, 2011 at 2:12 AM

Well, being in college, most of the guys I know couldn't care less about nutrition, so I'd count myself lucky if I could find a guy to date who wouldn't think I was completely nuts. Accepting my way of life and potentially going paleo too... well that would be awesome.

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7967 · June 27, 2011 at 12:28 AM

If I was single and dating, I think it would be a priority. Not paleo per say, but I would seek out other very fit, active, health-conscious people.

But I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years, and we're very happy. He is not paleo and probably never will be (picky eater). However he's pretty open to my ideas, he eats what I cook him (with his tastes in mind) and has a natural inclination towards clean living; he's never smoked or drank excessively, he eats to live, he's very active (without ever 'working out' once in his life), and at 42 years old he's the same weight he was 15 years ago. Plus he has good genes in the family. I feel very lucky to be with him; most men his age I know are centrally obese, smoke, drink or both, and eat nothing but crap all day - they consider caring at all about your eating or health 'girly' or something. It depresses me a little just to be around people like that, I can't imagine being in love with someone determined to eat themselves right into a heart attack or diabetes.

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487 · June 26, 2011 at 2:38 AM

I take Paleo as a religion in a way (replace the word Paleo with Jesus, and you will be surprised). My boyfriend has an obsession with pretzels, mountain dew, and popcorn. I'm taking on Paleo just recently, with no salt, fruit, nuts, and any other "iffy" Paleo foods. Polar opposites.

But, I love him and he love me. I can still love him just as much because we have respect for our food choice. I realize he may not be ready to start a Paleo diet, and he realizes I'm trying to change my eating habits for the better. So we are still both happy.

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930 · June 26, 2011 at 2:33 AM

My husband and I are one the same page with our eating and it makes things a lot easier! We grocery shop together, discuss recipes and enjoy food together. He is the more disciplined one which helps keep me on track. A lot of friends that I CrossFit with, their spouses usually do not workout with them or eat Paleo/Primal. We are one of those "rare" couples I guess?

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3313 · June 26, 2011 at 2:50 AM

Excellent point! Growing food, food shopping, preparing food, cooking food, eating food is such an intimate part of the human experience. To me it feels so much more romantic to share food and flavor. I don't want to have to live in a separate food world as my partner.

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930 · June 28, 2011 at 7:06 PM

Yes! It would be more expensive to have to make 2 separate meals as well!

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390 · June 26, 2011 at 1:07 AM

I'm married, but I did ponder this question only yesterday. "What if I were thrown back into the dating pool!?!" For my personality, I think it would be hard to date someone who wasn't at least open to the idea of at least trying paleo. The open mind, support and respect for my dietary choice would probably mean just as much if not more. It takes a special person to say "I don't choose that for myself but I choose to support it for you". It would go both ways, though it would be so much easier if he would at least not eat processed or fast food!

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10255 · June 26, 2011 at 12:01 AM

attitude plays a big role in who i find myself attracted to. ranty, whiney, judgemental people are unpleasant to be around.

in another thread i addressed my preference for men who are health concious and eat well; its all in the taste.

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2026 · July 19, 2012 at 3:00 AM

for me, it's about openness. my boyfriend isn't totally sold on cutting out grains, but he's totally ok with eating the food I cook and cooking around my restrictions.

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11204 · January 19, 2012 at 7:51 PM

I'm sure most of you have heard the zoo metaphor for modern life. It seems to me there's a danger of becoming a zookeeper. Indeed, in daily life, I see many cases where it seems like things would be better if I could just feed someone right for thirty days- control the environment, get the person healthy, and then they'd get the eureka moment. But what if the eureka moment doesn't come? When looking for commitment, especially, this looks like a bad gamble. Women have from conception to birth, and then most jurisdictions let them keep the children if there are any conflicts between the parents, so banking on 'she'll understand eventually' just doesn't seem too smart.

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21405 · January 19, 2012 at 6:47 PM

I've been married for 10 years, and was with her for 2 years prior to that. I've only known about Ancestral/Paleo/Hunter-Gatherer lifestyle eating since 2003 or thereabouts - so obviously no bearing on my mate selection whatsoever.

My wife has "tried" paleo, for a few months, lost some weight, felt a bit better, and even went out and got all the Paleo cookbooks. We even tried modifying it for my son, but it really didn't work out for her, and by extension, our son.

I made the mistake of being a bit over-zealous in my critique of her choices, and that caused some issues.

I'm finding now that by being as stringent as possible with my own health and regimen, her curiosity gets piqued... and as she sees the positive changes in me, that extends to her. That seems to be a running theme in my life, when I go "full-zealot" for Paleo, I tend to make an ass of mysel, even to the people I know and love who know I'm prone to zealotry.

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1061 · January 19, 2012 at 3:32 PM

As a teenager who's been health conscious (but not paleo) for several years, I've yet to be in anything resembling a serious relationship, but I find that I'm not too attracted to the guys my age who don't take care of themselves.
I probably would be less picky about it than I'd like to be. At the very least they have to have optimum health as a goal that they're working toward - their method, which can be easily "fixed", doesn't matter so long as they genuinely care about their health.

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2729 · January 19, 2012 at 2:47 PM

I was actually just thinking about this the other day. Current relationship is with the opposite of paleo, and it is in its death throes (the relationship, not the partner, though that's debatable). I'm not looking right now, but when I do start looking, I'll probably start at my local Crossfit affiliate. I wouldn't mind someone who ate paleo most of the time and cheated occasionally, but the person absolutely has to have a similar mind when it comes to nutrition and feeding any potential children. Maybe they should add that to eharmony... do you smoke? Drink? Eat gluten? Need not apply...

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10 · January 19, 2012 at 12:17 PM

Is that an invitation? ;-)

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20 · December 29, 2011 at 10:40 AM

I just stumbled across this discussion.

Although I don't judge people for not eating Paleo or similar, I agree that I'd rather not choose (again) to share my life with a mainstream diet person.

But as a single 37 year old mother of two, currently living in a fairly small countryside village in Norway, I have never in my entire life met a man that is on Paleo...

U sure they exist???

;-)

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20 · December 29, 2011 at 10:37 AM

I just stumbled across this discussion.

Although I don't judge people for not eating Paleo or similar, I agree that I'd rather not choose (again) to share my life with a mainstream diet person.

But as a single 37 year old mother of two, currently living in a fairly small countryside village in Norway, I have never in my entire life met a man that is on Paleo...

U sure they exist???

;-)

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40 · July 24, 2013 at 12:01 AM

This is an interesting topic. I have been lurking on this site for a long time and not commented yet. In my opinion, making Paleo a requirement for a potential mate is a red herring.

A potential mate could be strictly Paleo, and also be a textbook narcissist or psychopath with abusive tendencies.

Another potential made could be big-hearted, pure-spirited, loving, and generous, having the capacity to evolve, and have never heard of Paleo.

The second hypothetical mate would eventually BECOME Paleo over time if educated, because he or she, being open-minded and generous, in learning that the standard American diet may ruin his or her health, would not want to be a burden to his or her loved one by being sick or dying, and so would start to adopt Paleo habits when educated.

In fact this was the case with my former spouse of 10 years.

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1587 · January 19, 2012 at 3:17 PM

Although I prefer having a partner that is also into natural food I think I could live with it as long as we would respect each others dietary choices.

On the other hand, with all the talk about epigenetics I wouldn't want to, äääh, make a baby with a girl who puts garbage into her body every day as I think it is unfair to the unborn child ;)

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133 · December 29, 2011 at 1:56 PM

Well, it would be nice to find someone to enjoy a good conversation and a good a lunch with.

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78422 · July 19, 2012 at 3:56 AM

Orthorexics need to find other orthorexics.

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4 · July 18, 2012 at 7:03 PM

Good nutrition is so important in my date so i just launched my own Paleo oriented dating site, http://paleosingles.com. Vegans, Vegetarians and other diet lifestyles can sign up too because you can search by alternative diet lifestyle. The site is 100% FREE with unlimited access. Hopefully this will help me and others find a fit for a date!

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7292 · July 18, 2012 at 7:10 PM

Too much self promotion

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