What's missing in your life?
Reading paleo success stories, one might come to the conclusion that avoiding gluten/sugar/n6 makes you a superhero. But sometimes, life gets in the way, our bodies get in the way, or things just fall apart. Unfortunately, it can be uncomfortable to discuss negative things when everybody seems fairly happy. Do you have something that weighs on your mind that is not directly nutrition-related? Do you hope that improving your nutrition habits will improve this problem? Some common issues are...
-Diseases of the body (bad skin, bad joints, bad airways, etc)
-Diseases of the mind (depression, ADHD, OCD, etc)
-Negative self image
So please, vent. Excessively and negatively, if you feel like it. If nutrition is helping you in this issue, that is cool. If nutrition isn't helping you, THAT IS ALSO COOL. Not cool per se, but don't feel limited to success stories. Some things never work out, but some things come with time, effort, and an open mind. Mark Sisson writes about tipping points...
"The reality is that it may be next to impossible to plan and engineer your tipping point. What you can do, though, is put yourself in a position to provoke an emotional response, and be ready for it when it comes."
Need a good woman, paleo preferred.
Unfortunately, now that I'm a rock god with abs of steel and a much bigger penis, I've also become an intolerable narcissist and nutrition demagogue.
Lack of autonomy is very very hard for me. Before kids I worked - a lot. I was the main breadwinner in fact. Now we have two kids and my husband's job requires we move often, mostly to remote places. As a result I stay at home with the babbies - which is great - but it can be isolating and irritating that I don't have a stash of cash to buy presents, go on trips, whatever.
Also the nature of my husband's job comes with a HUGE lack of control. His work involves responding to situations in which shit has hit the fan. He is VERY good at what he does, but the problem is you never know when the shit will hit, or how stinky it is going to be. So, I can choose to be on guard at all times or play blissfully ignorant. I bounce back and forth. Mainly I choose to laugh.
There ain't no macro or micro nutrient, no bacterial infection protocol, no biohacking regime that I know of that can help me deal with this situation better. BUT since nutrition is one area in which I can exert complete control, I do it and it seems to be helpful in that regard.
"There's something inside me that pulls beneath the surface Consuming, confusing This lack of self control I fear is never ending Controlling"
~linkin park or someone else?
BTW - Personally, I think Linkin Park sucks because I am not an 11 year old boy skater punk.
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I'm coming from a history of 5 years of mental illness (anorexia, depression, ocd) which has left me today at 20 with no qualifications (had to leave school at 15 for psychiatric inpatient treatment), no friends, zero confidence, family relationship issues, a lack of identity and sense of how to go forward. I'm grateful today to be very close to fully recovered - at least functional and able to start making plans for the future but it's easy to feel overwhelmed. I don't know what to do careerwise or how to get there and it can be scary and lonely. Time moves faster than I do. I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING. I am not going to sit idly by and watch my life continue as it has but the stage I am at is incredibly frustrating. Well enough to want more, still not robust enough to seize an opportunity. Improved health has brought back the will and desire to live... now I just need to get on with the process.
generally i just would like to be a better mom, better wife, better friend. more present, less rushes, less screaming at the kids, calmer, not taking things so seriously, less anxious and tightly wound, less defensive. i just want to be a better person for the people i love, who are legion, and deserve the best of me.
nutrition is a form of self improvement, and when im on track then im calmer, happier, more focused. but, its only a tiny piece of the puzzle, really. i want to live to see my daughter become a grandmother, so i keep that as the goal and tend to lose sight of the small, minute to minute goals like spending another minute cuddling instead of running off to clean the kitchen for the 234,985,643,795th time today.
"Unfortunately, it can be uncomfortable to discuss negative things when everybody seems fairly happy."
True, yet it seems to me no less accurate that it can be uncomfortable to take a positive, future oriented, make-the-most-of-the-moment approach to life, when many if not most people are routinely caught up in complaining about their life situation, second-guessing themselves at every turn, and making their quest for excellence dependent upon external circumstances. "I can't make any progress because nobody supports me, or I don't have enough time, or I'm tired a lot, or [fill in preferred excuse]..."
I am not referring to Paleo Hacks per se, but rather to something approaching the human condition. I'm particularly struck by how easy it becomes to say things like "I'm under a lot of stress," as if "stress" simply comes to us externally, like the weather. Even the statement, "My life is stressful at the moment." As opposed to: "I'm experiencing a lot of challenges these days, and I'm confident I can rise to the challenges. The very thought of being able to do so, fills with me energy and optimism."
Resilience can be taught. Life is a classroom that presents us with endless lessons, called opportunities. The learning is up to us.
Sunshine. Seriously. I live in a dark valley in a rainy coastal region, and winter sucks. Plus I live like a mole, going to work in the dark, slaving away under fluorescent lights in what I'm sure is a moldy building, and going back home in the dark.
I hate, hate, hate, hate it.
But I'm working on changing that, in a financially positive way! (C'mon, magic lottery ticket. j/k) I hope to have my own (profitable, please) business in a couple of years, so I can enjoy the sun when it's out, walk the dog when I want, hike when I want... Sigh...
Was hoping Paleo made me taller whilst invigorating my skin with rich moisture.
Neither has happened... yet!
"I wish I was little bit taller, I wish I was a baller, I wish I had a girl who looked good I would call her, I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat and a six four Impala"
Towards the end of 2010 I passed a 1cm kidney stone due to the doctors forgetting to zap it properly with their ultrasound asteroid gun. From what I can only guess was damage caused by giving birth to an oversized calcium oxalate baby, I actually developed a level of urgency which resulted in me having to run off to pee at best two or three times an hour, at worst eight to ten times. I basically did nothing the whole of 2011 apart from pee, and spent more time in a toilet-stall than a drunk girl does in a nightclub.
So forwards into my Paleo 2012, may yee be more certain and less porcelain.
And apart from that I want more humility, gratitude, passion and to be more useful with my time. Also this year I want to knock on the head my constant worry for affirmation, which come to mention is not helped with all this PaleoHacks vote tomfoolery. I also need to watch my focus with my new found passion for health and fitness and make sure I don't become self-obsessed. Self-esteem is like carbohydrate, I need not explain the metaphor any further.
So all that and perhaps I need to learn to use less commas in my sentences, or perhaps learn to use other forms of punctuation; and of course be less verbose and use full stops sooner rather than later.
My motto is "Be Useful".
Meditate on that, and you won't go wrong in anything.
There are some things.. and some stuff.. and some things. And.. stuff.
What helps immensely is that I use nutrition, and exercise, as a platform to help me deal with well.. the stuff and the things, so a healthy body/healthy mind is the best path for me to handle it all.
I forgot to vent, too busy explaining my method of dealing and such. Ahem.
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Ok, done now.
I fear I have developed an aversion to allopatic medicine. First, I was diagnosed with diverticulitis, given multiple rounds of antibiotics which worsened my digestive tract, to having 4" of my sigmoid colon removed. I then developed an umbilical hernia likely due to the surgery and was informed that I had bowell wall thickening. Eventually, I was diagnosed with mild crohns only to be told that I would be medication dependent for the remainder of my life and eventually require furhter surgery. Thankfully, I found a naturopathic doctor who explained SIBO to me. I gave up wheat and began SCD before stumbling upon paleo diet which I believed has vastly improved my health. I am very resentful with regards to western medicine. I saw over 5 board certified physicians and can only recall 1 spending over five minutes with me and none discussing diet. I'm getting anxious and stressed just thinking about all of this. I was socialized to believe the doctor knows what's best and that I need to take my medicine like a "good little boy." I am grateful that I am feeling better, but have avoided seeing an allopathic doctor to confirm (through testing) that the dietary changes are actually working. Intuitively, I know I am improving based on symptom reduction and improved digestion. However, I still struggle that I am acting against medical advice and somehow need western medicine to tell me how to feel better. Our current medical system, should I say disease system just really angers me. Thanks for the excellent question