My husband isn't paleo but something interesting has happened...

I am the only one that cooks, so all the meals are paleo. He won't even bother to lift a finger, to say, bake a loaf of frozen garlic bread..so the meals are really paleo.

So he has been eating less grain. A lot less grain. He started complaining that he was getting a stomachache when he ate cookies, or when he ate at a burger place. As I figure it, all of that hard earned tolerance to grain is dissolving...I think he was at least gluten intolerant all a long!

So now he is not eating grain!! With zero pressure from me!!

My wife is definitely not Paleo and I sometimes struggle when she describes her difficulty maintaining her weight, allergies, anxiety, etc.

Ultimately, however, I would be doing more harm than good if I took it upon myself to police her eating habits.

I'm a big believer in Self Determination Theory (that the basic human psychological needs are competence, autonomy and connectedness) and therefore do what I can to create an open environment where she feels supported and loved.

If she asks me a question I'm happy to answer honestly and she does tend to eat like me more now that all of my home cooking and dinners out are firmly in the paleo/primal category.

I'm the only one doing Paleo in my house. My husband does the majority of the cooking during the week and I asked him to sub almond meal in my portion of the meatballs he was making for spaghetti and meatballs for the kids. He liked my version so much he has now started to make all the meatballs and now meatloaf with almond meal and the kids (all 4) have no idea! Now we don't buy breadcrumbs anymore. Babysteps.....

My SO is not Paleo either, but I cook entirely Paleo. He is a EMT and works nights, so he does have to eat out (since he is not packing his own food) so usually he eats a burrito from the taco truck or Chipotle, etc. Not the best choices BUT, because of my cooking he has lost 18 lbs in the last 3 months. He says he feels better when he eats what I cook. The side effect is weight loss and he feels better! He switched from his normal Starbucks Vanilla Lattes to iced coffee with heavy cream too. Hey, at least my influence is helping!

The Perfect Health Diet is easier to pull off in mixed paleo homes. Still Paleo but with potatoes and white rice.

My wife is pregnant, so our house is carb city, even though I don't eat any of it. I try not to make jerky or liver when she's at home. She tries to buy carbs that are wheat based, since those are the least tempting to me. For dinners, I make the meat and veg, she adds pasta or rice (usually, but not always), and everything is usually fine.

As far as the fat goes, as long as you are working with good fats, they shouldn't make him less healthy. Adding good even when you don't remove bad is a net good, right?

My wife and son are not paleo, but they eat my food. My wife usually makes some sort of starchy goody to go with the food I cook.

Same here... typically my fiancee and son will make rice or a starch to go with what I make.

me. my mrs sinks litres of coke and eats lots chocolate with fried chips and takeaways

yet weighs 7st (but probably not a healthy 7st)

doesnt faze me and i cant seem to change her either.

My wife and daughter are not paleo and eat whatever for meals I am not around. My wife will cook paleo friendly meals for dinner and maybe add in some carbs. Now that I am eating more starch (still little to no grain except rice on occation) it has even been easier. You can't force people to eat a certain way. Just do your thing and let others do theirs.

My wife is not paleo, and we cook our own individual meals.

My husband and 9 year old son are not paleo but my husband cooks me the most amazing paleo meals every single night, and buys me all my paleo foodstuffs at the farmers' market, local good butcher etc. That's love.

It would be easier for me to make a case for paleo if both weren't healthy, lean and fit, but they are, so I don't have much leverage.

My Boyfriend isn't technically Paleo but I do all of the grocery shopping and all of the cooking so when he eats at home-he's eating Paleo. He doesn't compain at all about the meals i prepare or the food that I buy. I know that he eats gluten while he is at work though. He knows the benefits of what I am doing, so it is up to him if he wants to get full on board. It should be the same for you. Your boyfriend knows what you are doing, and it is his choice what he eats.

I did. Key word, did.

I wonder if I am doing more harm to him though, since I will make a meal with a good amount of fat, i.e coconut oil, 80% grass-fed beef, bacon, etc, and then he may eat something like bread with it. I don't want to make him end up with high cholesterol or give him a heart attack...

I don't understand the logic. If you are going to eat bread then is it healthier to consume PUFAs and other NADs also? Are you seriously wondering if it is causing harm for your boyfriend to eat healthy foods and bread as opposed to unhealthy foods and bread?

My boyfriend is Paleo-ish. He still has his morning Mountain Dew, he makes a sandwich for his lunch (with a side salad now!), and there isn't a whiskey he isn't shy of. On the plus side, he does not smoke cigarettes (just the rare cigar, as do I), eats more vegetables than he used to, eats less fried food than he used to, goes in with me on grass-fed cowshare, and does more exercise, including yoga. When we cook together, we make a nice protein and a green vegetable, simply prepared. So while there is always room for improvement, I'm not going to nag him, simply lead by example.

I'm more PHD/WAPFish these days and the boyfriend isn't. I do most of the cooking and he eats what I cook, but has a stash of tortilla chips and bagels and so on. And if he has a hankering for something bready/pasta-y, I'll cook it for him if I get around to it (which isn't all the time). All this is to say that he's a big boy and can eat/not eat whatever he wants. I think it's important to be responsible for ourselves, and let others be responsible for themselves too.

My Fiance & room mate are both not Paleo but will try the same dinner meals i cook or if i am making a stew, stir fry or my fav zucchini carrot spag bog i will sometimes cook pasta or rice for them but keep my meal Paleo and reduce the amount of oils i use on the night the boys are eatting pasta or other no paleo carbs but if your worried with the amount of oil ect you cooking with you could rejuce it or if you partner is not feeling unwell or gaining to much weight he may be alright but you could always on night he has eaten high carbs reduce the oil amount.

Me and my husband were both vegetarians and love cooking for each other. Now I am Paleo I add fish or meat to my meals while he adds rice or bread to his. He will eat my paleo banana bread and cookies but he is a buddhist and has been for 25 years so will not be convinced to give up his vegetarianism. I do miss the communal eating and sharing. I am trying to convince him to come to the paleo side without pushing him but he is super fit and his dad is 90 and still very healthy so not much incentive. I have gotten him to give up Soy by reading the chapter on soy in 'The Vegetarian Myth'. I am hoping when my health starts to improve significantly he will be slowly convinced.

My girlfriend is vegetarian and she argues that vegetarianism is more sustainable and has less impact than the way I eat...even though I get a majority of my calories from the side of beef I purchased. It makes for interesting debate. Otherwise, she eats pastured eggs and organic veggies, but she also likes pastas and grains.

My mother is not paleo...

My Boyfriend is not Paleo but he is ok to eat anything I make. Sometimes I feel selfish; choosing healthy foods are expensive and get frustrated because the foods I buy are organic, non-processed, and grass fed and the foods he buys are cheap-not-good-for-you-types. I'm holding out but also being honest with myself.

My spousal unit isn't Paleo. And on his own, I'm sure he eats loads of junk I'd want to stay away from. We eat about 4 or 5 dinners together a week, and breakfast together on Sunday. But, after 6 years of diet changes... Always soy free for an allergy, then GF, and now Paleo, his main objective is to make a meal that doesn't make me sick. We take turns cooking every other day. We've always used olive oil and he's always been a bigger meat eater than I was, I'm sure things will stay about the same. Also, everyone's body is so different.

Also, sounds like you need to teach your man how to cook...

I don't think you would be doing harm to him.

In our house, I cook a portion of our meals Paleo for me, but then I have non-Paleo options too for my SO. It's not really convenient, but I can't get him to understand that fat is not the enemy...yet. I did get him to give up the processed dairy he was using in his oats and cereal. Now if I could just get him to give up the oats and cereal. It's a frustrating process, so I feel for you.

Wish you the best and maybe eventually he will come around.