Paleo Diet and Paleolithic Diet Questions & Answers

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So my boyfriend and I have been living together for a little over a year now. He is dealing with a couple issues that we are both curious as to how much food effects them.

First, sometimes (I'd say about half and half) in the mornings, he is not able to last very long, because of (from what I understand) heightened arousal. At other times during the day, if he is interested, there is almost never that issue.

That brings me to my second question about libido in general. About a week ago, he was telling me that there were several days where he was.. let's just say much more eager than usual... A day or two ago, he was saying that dropped off, and seems lower than his norm. I often have a hard time getting him interested in the evenings, but once I do, there's no issue.

We JUST started eating Paleo, I mean, starting this weekend is when we really dove in. Prior to this, we ate good quality meats (grass fed, etc), veggies, but also had a lot of whole grains and stuff like that. We also got into a bad habit, which we gradually improved on, of eating out too much (honestly, it was laziness). He is 31.

EDIT - I should add, that it's not an issue for me. Just something HE is having concerns about.

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asked Mar 13 2012 at 15:13

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How many times a week is that? – Matt Mar 13 2012 at 15:38

How many times a week is what? – Elle Mar 13 2012 at 15:43

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Are you having sex every morning and evening? :) – Matt Mar 13 2012 at 15:47

Without more details on frequency, it's hard to say. But it doesn't sound unusual at all. How old are you? – Albert Mar 13 2012 at 15:59

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Haha, that is approximately 4x as much sex as I have as a 20 year old with my 21 year old boyfriend, and I though our libidos were okay. I think it's a personal thing, and people can feel like a partners libido is unusual if it doesn't match their own. Stress is also one of the biggest hits to libido. If he had a rougher day, more anxiety etc that could explain the day-to-day changes probably more accurately if your diet is consistent. – JeJ Mar 13 2012 at 16:49

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primallykosher · Accepted Answer · 2012-03-13 20:35:24Z UTC

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I live in Wilmington too. Been paleo for 2 years. There is a crossfit at the Riverfront and one in Newark as well. They tend to have paleo guest speakers.

Get your BF to eat more fat, up his zinc consumption and maybe eat some vitamin c. Also heavy squat workouts help with testorone production as well as cold showers.

answered Mar 13 2012 at 20:35

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	Awesome! I know where that is.. I go to the Planet Fitness down there. Do they have a schedule or anything of their speakers? – Elle Mar 14 2012 at 0:19
	facebook.com/CFRiverfront I follow them there. And they do have website as well. cfriverfront.com Meredith runs the one up at the riverfront. And the one in Newark is run by former coach at riverfront (he trained me for awhile) Ian. That one is called Hardbat crossfit. Unfortunately both are quite expensive. – primallykosher Mar 14 2012 at 2:48

Jaych · Answer 2 · 2012-03-13 17:08:44Z UTC

There is nothing abnormal about this. Libido isn't a constant, predictable state. Sometimes it's heightened, sometimes it's reduced depending on a wide variety of factors. Now, if an unusually low state of libido occurs lasting several weeks, then I'd start looking at some lifestyle and health issues.

citrusfire · Answer 3 · 2012-03-13 16:56:38Z UTC

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If you're having sex most days there's definitely no problem. Personally I think it's normal to just have some days where you aren't as "eager" as others... and especially if everything is still good once you "get him interested".

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Bristlebeard · Answer 4 · 2012-03-13 18:04:01Z UTC

The reason why he might be more aroused in the morning is that men's testosterone level is highest in the morning, and then declines through the day.

If you want to get his sex drive really revving, have him eat a really high fat diet. 160g fat per day, the majority from butter, is what I do, and I'd say it works for me. There's also questions on PH where people talk about a carnivorous, high fat diet for women, and that their libido is through the roof.

Kashkillz · Answer 5 · 2012-12-16 21:21:44Z UTC

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He's trying to tell you he wants you to be nastier. Trust me... problem solved.

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ddr · Answer 6 · 2012-03-13 20:57:30Z UTC

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I'll bet most guys are envious of that frequency! Especially us old guys. Ahhhh! To be young again.

answered Mar 13 2012 at 20:57

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Cutbert · Answer 7 · 2012-03-16 13:25:23Z UTC

I'm 50 and I noticed that Paleo "living" has a lot to do with it, not just the "diet". Crossfit is a great workout, I'm a mountain biker and both can be very competitive = mental stress, increased cortisol levels.... With Crossfit in a gym environment it's even more so. He needs to go out and play! Read Mark Sisson.... Play is still a workout and because it's play, it's fun and not stressful. I find that on the days where I'm pushing myself hard to stay at the head of a pack, I'm not so "eager" at home, but on the days where I'm just out to have fun, get dirty, I'm ready to go home and get "down and dirty".... Also, those are the days (or nights) when I can go and go and go..... I'd bet to say that on Crossfit days, his libido is lower than on Play days! Take it from a 50 Year Old Dude who still thinks he's 24.

blackappy · Answer 8 · 2012-12-16 21:18:03Z UTC

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Not to associate "wood" with libido, but the supplement Yohimbe made it nearly impossible for me to sleep on my stomach.

answered Dec 16 at 21:18

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Yohimbe will definitely work. Buy the good stuff... a big bag of powder. Start with half teaspoon a day. Also, saw palmetto, stinging nettle root, soy lecithin. More egg yolks, fatty beef, sardines, almonds, Brazil nuts. Arginine every night at bed, zinc every other night. – Kashkillz Dec 16 at 21:24

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^^^^ if he supplements his diet with the above, I guarantee he'll be an animal. – Kashkillz Dec 16 at 21:50

I think taking special powders though is not very natural and best avoided. – EnglishRose Dec 16 at 21:57

It's a ground tree bark. – Kashkillz Dec 16 at 22:40

Lazza · Answer 9 · 2012-12-16 21:47:06Z UTC

I agree with others have said. Healthy eating (paleo) is only half the requirement for bolstering libido. Good, hard physical training seems to work magic on keeping one's testosterone level up. There is probably a good scientific explanation for this involving hormone interactions and the health of one's adrenals ... but it's way over my head.

I will also say that when it comes to the notion of "normal sexual libido" one size does not fit all. Some guys can perform repeatedly both night and day indefinitely. Others are fully satiated with just a couple of sessions per week. I'm not sure if anyone can say which case is more representative of the norm. So I am saying there might not be anything at all deficient with your boyfriend's libido. If there is true concern you might want to both discuss the matter with medical specialist.

_Lazza

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