So, I am trying to quit alcohol, I have never been a fan of pot. Conventional tea is boring, and one can't exercise 24/7. How do you increase endorphins and become "naturally" high and pleasant? Most humans are awful and the world is a generally miserable place. How do you keep your smiley-face up?
Here are my few suggestions:
Finding what makes you happy takes time, and a bit of diligence. The people you're surrounded by, in my experience, are a big part of it. Find people who don't mind silly dancing, who love good music and good food, and who support living a free and creative life.
I quit the drink last year, after a long, long time abusing it.
The key concept here is brain chemistry. I don't know how long you have gone sober so far, but the longer you stay dry, the better your outlook on life will be.
Of course, if you decide to eat crap (all the stuff Paleo eaters don't eat) your mileage will vary.
Believe me. Stick to the diet, train when you're supposed to, keep dry, and you will find yourself feeling generally happier in a couple of weeks.
Finding passion in my life keeps me motivated, indulge all the weird little causes you've always wanted to invest yourself in. Mine: feminism, pro-vax, reading, stand up comedy, good TV (community, arrested development, freaks and geeks, big bang theory), youtube videos of adorable animals, cooking.
Probably the greatest, however, and the next obvious: sexy time.
Releasing endorphins and being naturally "pleased" are not the same goals to me. For the latter I take a lot of Vitamin D and eat clean. For the former, though, if you eat nightshades, learn to love the humble habanero (or small Thai chiles, if that's your preference). Nothing gets me on an endogenous buzz better than feeling like I'm on fire from the inside out.
Mother Nature is doing it for me. Here in the extreme southern tip of Nevada we're having longer, balmy days. Walking around outside in the sunshine and having days so much longer than they were a month ago has really lifted my spirits. I get a joy rush every time I go out, even if it's just to walk the dogs or take out the trash. :-))
I find pleasant feelings and motivation from my personal projects (currently learning Japanese and eventually other languages, learning about health, and other brain- and body-enhancing activities). I always feel better about doing things when I'm doing it on my own and in my own way.
Another one is human connection. Just being with interesting people and talking with them is enough to raise my mood (though I would not call myself an extrovert). If I have a close connection with them, it's even better.
I hit three years of sobriety this past Monday; I hit a month free of tobacco as of about an hour ago.
All of the biochemistry issues aside, I think the root of the solution comes in finding a way to not see most humans as awful and the world as a generally pretty rad place.
The other night I found some floppy disks (yes, floppy disks) in the bottom of a box that were close to two decades old. I found old writings, old fears... desires to change behavior that I wouldn't end up seeing a way out of for years and years and years.
I wonder how many of the people on this site are here seeking answers to questions and solutions to issues they've also carried that long? Better yet, how many are here because they're finally taking action? Finally stepping out of the cage?
All of the combined knowledge and experience here... and all of these people transforming their lives... and the awareness -- gained through my own practical experience -- that we all do have a second chance available to us if we really want it?
That keeps my smiley-face way up.
Well, the impractical, philsophical answer is love. Khalil Gibran says that without it you will "laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of you tears." You can't really order that on Amazon, so...
I am usually happeist when I have a project going on. For example, I just started playing the cello and when I am learning a new song is it pretty consuming. Also, I had to give a talk and demonstration on careers. This sounds boring, but I wanted to do a good job and had a great time coming up with a solid hour of cool stuff. Also, I recently decided I really wanted to hide something. Yes, hide something. I know it sounds odd, but I had a blast trying to figure out where to hide it, how to hide it, how to get to it when I needed it, etc. All kinds of angles. The point was I was engaged in something. Find something new or interesting, resolve to tackle it, and doing it extremely well. You'll wonder where the time went.
Don't go the chemical route. That ALWAYS takes more than it gives (except coffee!)
have sex! as much and dirty as possible. you will smile randomly just by the thought of it. pleasing your animalistic instinct will get you high for sure.
(this is an actually serious answer; even if it sounds like it's written by a horny teen.)