Is it harmful to do paleo half-assed? What I mean is that I am following the paleo lifestyle for about a month or so, but I have had huge resistance from my wife. My fault for proselytizing too early. I would like to subtly convert my children aged 11 and 9. My worry is that while I try to increase thier fat and protien, my wife will still allow them to have bread and juice. I am worried this will make them fatter. Should I hold out for a while so everone can see the benifits of a paleo lifestyle.
I would increase their quality meat and veggies at meals no matter what but I probably wouldn't be making them coconut milkshakes for them to eat alongside their krispy cremes.
Adding large amounts of fat on top of high sugar or processed carb load will probably result in metabolic derangement.
Moving the family away from clearly agreed upon junk food would be a start. Processed foods and candy and cookies will no longer live in the house for instance. Juice and soda might be replaced by water and tea. Bread might be hard at first. And try to end family pasta and pizza nights.
Living by example is a good motto for life.
YOu can help most by what you cut out instead of what you add. Lessen the grain and sub with rice and potato. Lessen the processed foods. Most nutritionists agree on that one so there should be less resistance from the wife. Cut out the grain oils and replace with healthier fats. You don't have to go whole hog with coconut oil and all the exotic stuff. Using butter is going to be much healtheir than grain oils. Encourage consumption of whole foods. Encourage the use of whole fruit instead of juice. If she must by juice, make sure there are no additives like high fructose corn syrup. Keep the bread low and go with sour dough which is fermented and thus probably less toxic. I would not add a ton of fat in but make sure they are not eating low fat either. I think that would be the safest road. There is still controversy about eating tons of fat. But most agree you need decent fat intake and the fats should be healthy ones. The body requires fat to survive and it requires protein, but carbs are not needed. I would not worry too much about protein. Just keep a good suppply, but most people simply are unwilling to voluntarily overeat on protein. YOu just get sick of it at a certain point and it stops tasting good.
I would try not to preach or change her, but lead by example. If your wife sees the amazing results you've had on the Paleo diet, perhaps that's all the convincing she'll need? Noone likes to be told what to do (believe me, I know, my husband and I get into Paleo conversations all the time, as he is not). I'm sure your wife want to be healthy herself, and wants the same for your kids. It might take some time, but she might see the Paleo light in due time!That's gotta be hard though :(
You can wait until your kids get older and explain it to them when you know they're ready to understand. As they become teenagers and young adults they can start making their own decisions. As for your wife (and other adults for that matter), all you can do is present the science. I've tried that myself with skeptics, and found there are just some people who suffer from inertia.
Missionman, I know it can be quite a challenge. I hope these few things will be of some use to you in the puzzle of trying to help loved ones.
One possibility might be to approach thinking about food from the history of family health. What illnesses, allergies, ailments, and health challenges have been present in siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, great-grandparents, great-aunts and great-uncles, and on back.
Dr. Black Donaldson, who wrote the book, "Strong Medicine", used to ask for a very detailed family health history of each of his patients. His book is very much worth finding and reading.
The saying "You are what your grandparents ate." is common in some circles of thought.
I was able to win the respect of my family for my eating the way I do, by giving them Dr. Richard Bernstein's book, "The Diabetes Solution". His dietary recommendations are very much in line with a Pastoral or Lacto-Paleo WOE. Because of some of the health challenges in my family, they were able to see that eating this way could prevent some of the ailments that befall those who eat sweets, starches, packaged foods, etc.
Here is part of Dr. Bernstein's book online, if it should be of help:
I find Dr. Kurt Harris' explanations of what to eat and why very clear, and full of common sense. If it appeals to you, it'd be one more reference to have handy, should there be any interest:
I wish there were signature lines on this software set up. I would put a link to Dr. Harris' site, and to Dr. Bernstein's in mine.
Best wishes to you.
I ran into this a little when i started paleo about 2 months ago. My wife saw the results pretty quickly and started to come around after about a month. I would just be patient with her and let her see the benefits over time. She'll come around.