I am currently in a long distance relationship with a fellow Paleo-er - we live very far apart and I am starting to see the following problems become increasingly worse after the Paleo lifestyle was adopted by my SO:
1) Extreme obsession with eating healthy and correctly - ie. constant intermittent fasting, eating healthy oils by the spoonful as a meal daily, taking over 25 different type of supplements a day, no cheats at all (not even fruit)
2) Extreme obsession with work - ie. 12 hours a day of work, minimum, obsession with perfection, no contact during the workday at all, works until 10pm at least 3 days a week.
Between work and Paleo, it seems like there is no time for me. Before Paleo came into our lives, neither of these were major issues. Is this the result of Paleo or is this an addictive personality?
Has anyone else had this problem?
I don't disagree with greymouser and Jaych, but I'd say if paleo is still fairly new to your SO I don't think it's very unusual to go through a few phases--including a rabid/dogmatic one--along the way.
After the novelty wears off I think many people (and me) relax as paleo shifts from the new experiment to the focal point to a basic part of everyday life.
I have no clue where your relationship is headed--I'd say paleo is not likely to be the make-it/break-it factor.
It's not Paleo causing these behaviors. Restrictive diets (not say Paleo is inherently restrictive, but it can be made to be) like the one your significant other seems to be practicing can tend to attract a certain personality type. It wouldn't matter if your SO was practicing Paleo, eating vegan, doing Atkins, or doing some cabbage soup plan. I bet the behavior would be present in any of those, especially since your SO seems to have the same behavior in relation to work habits.
How long have you been together? What were your SO's behaviors prior to adopting this lifestyle?
Have fun. Enjoy life. There is nothing Paleo about working long hours... It is sometimes necesary. I won't call anyone out that is working hard and long hours. It is just not optimal. My current long work hours are not optimal...
Anything taken to the extreme has a danger of becoming an obsession. IMO, if its not interrutping your life then don't worry about it. But, if you aren't having fun or not living your life, then I'd urge you to rethink what you're doing. For me, I used to work crazy long hours but not anymore. I burnt out and now choose to have a life with people and new experiences.
Best of luck to you!