i am a single paleo lady and wanting to start dating (its been a while since ive been on that scene) but im nervous about how and when to bring up my food choices. i am very strict paleo - mostly because of real food allergies, but also because i believe in it for optimal health.
any advice for dating - how do you handle restaurants? how and when do you start talking about your nutrition choices? dont want to look like the weird, no fun date - but have no interest in eating gluten just to impress a date??
thanks for your advice . . . or if you know nice single caveman in wisconsin, that works too :)
My best advise is:
I would not even mention your way of eating on a first date. Nothing. No paleo. No ancestral. No gluten anything. Just don't go there. If he asks why you're not eating the bread just say you don't want any right now. Make do and focus on getting to know the person. There will be time enough to disclose your ways later. People fear what they cannot or do not understand. There is no way to disclose this way of eating to someone who has no understanding of it without sounding like a food lunatic which translated to plain old lunatic which translates to no second date.
And good luck! Just have fun and enjoy the process.
OR: You could do what I do; not do dinner dates. This is something I did long before I ate Paleo so diet isn't a factor. Even though they're ingrained in most people's minds as a necessary step in dating, I think they're a terrible idea. They cost money, you're separated by a table, they give off the whole "job interview" vibe. Go to the zoo, go to a lake, go for a hike, go to a museum, go to a concert. "Action dates" have been shown to increase attraction on both sides. Dinners/movies are for when you already know someone.
Join a crossfit box, plenty of down to earth, single blokes who take pride in their appearance and appreciate eating a good solid paleo diet! How can you go wrong!
Just say your allergic if it comes up. If they seem interested, it's a neat conversation to have, but it's not a opportunity for conversion, as you might come off as pushy. Saying you have an allergy, or an intolerance (better word if you're dating a scientist, might be suspicious of so many "allergies", haha) should clear it up no problem. People are pretty used to fussy eaters, or people that eat this and not that.
I used to date fine as a vegan/vegetarian, but dated much better as a paleo because as it turns out, guys are pretty fascinated with ladies that can tuck into a pile of meat ;) It seems almost fetishized (not to make you feel creeped out next time you eat a bunch of meat) because it's a rare sight. Never a problem!
My restaurant advice is simple--go Italian and have appetizers and the house red. Caprese, shrimp in garlic sauce, salmon carpaccio, mussels in tomato/garlic sauce, etc.
And if you ever make it to Columbus, give me a call!
I was a fussy eater, long before I joined the paleo lifestyle, and it never was much of a big deal. I don't think you need to explain anything, until you feel like it.
I just would order what you like (grilled meats, side veg, no starch sides), and not worry too much about it. If you have to make special orders (no butter/veg oil, confirming no soy sauce), I'd just say "veg oil doesn't agree with me" and move on. Your best bet at making this a "no big deal" is if you make it one too.
If a man were to take you out to a restaurant, most restaurants you can find something that you can probably eat (even though it may not be the healthiest)- the problem I run into is it will either be in small quantities or uber expensive. :P
Be honest and open with the guy. If he's interested in you, he should respect your food allergies and choices.
I hope that helps some. :)
Dunno how you're looking for male creatures, but I've put "paleo" right on my dating site profile. Having tried to date "normal" guys, I find that I'm much more likely to slip up in my eating if I'm constantly hanging around someone who eats SAD. I also think that mentioning it early lets someone know you're health-conscious, and that's a pretty big compatibility issue, at least for me.
Join a paleo dating website. If there isn't one, start one! Paleo is a lifestyle choice not a favouite colour so probably important to share from the very start or before. Good luck. I met my husband/soul mate on a dating site and my only advice would be the more honest you are about whaT you want and who you are the closer you'll get to meeting your perfect match.
hey guys! my (now) boyfriend and i couldn't have been more different food-wise when we first met. he LIVES off of pasta. once he knew i ate the way i do for my health (a few months down the road), he wanted to do everything he could to make sure i was taken care of. i think that's a pretty good way to test if the person you are dating is a good catch - are they sensitive to your needs, even "weird" ones? it's not high maintainance if it protects your health.
also? good luck! a vibrant personality covers many "strange" habits they may think you have. be yourself and the rest will follow!
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