Hi, Just delivered my little baby boy last Sunday all natural birth it went great, I was in labor 4 hours and he was my first! My biggest concern now is feeding. I can't seem to breastfeed him because despite seeing countless LC's he is tearing my nipples! So I've resorted to pumping but I feel like I'm not pumping enough. My husband fights me and says baby isn't getting enough nutrition. I disagree but he bought formula and gives it to him when I don't pump enough.. Im not paleo instead Im gorging on carbs right now I use to do paleo but all I care about is baby and feeding him. I heard carbs are neccessary but I really question that theory. I also started Motherlove More Milk but have not notcied much of an increase yet. Im trying to drink more water and my stress level has been high as well as lack of sleep.. Any comments thoughts help, please! I also made a homemade baby formula tonight via Weston Price that uses raw cow milk and cream as well as other ingredients but I really just want to provide him my milk..
Ok, first thing you need to do is RELAX! If you just gave birth a week ago, it's quite possible your milk hasn't fully come in yet. Mine didn't truly come in until two weeks. Stress can have a huge negative impact on your production. Gorging on carbs is NOT going to help your situation. Now more than ever you need to eat healthily and eating a higher carb paleo is a great option.
The fastest way to increase supply is to nurse more frequently. So, if pumping is your only option, pump a LOT. Even if nothing is coming out. Your body will get the idea. As for nursing - have you tried nipple shields? Just another option. I know the nipples tearing/cracking is painful, but they do toughen up - I promise! Just takes a few weeks.
With regard to supplementation, I tried the fenugreek supplements and, although they didn't work for me, I know they help a lot of ladies. Though I really think you just need to give it a little time for the milk to come in.
Oh and although I don't agree with your husband feeding your baby formula behind your back, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just keep pumping as Often as you can and consider yourself fortunate to have a husband who is so involved. Maybe use everytime he gives a bottle to pump or to sleep. Both will help.
I had a hard time nursing both of my kids and really just gave up, and wish I hadn't. I have several friends who are lactation consultants who recommend a "nursing vacation". Take your shirt off, leave it off and spend 3 days skin to skin with your son and just nurse on demand. Kick the hubby out of the room and tell him to get some sleep. Have him bring you meals, too, and eat lots of calories and drink lots of water. The calories don't have to be carbs, they should just be calories.
Also, chances are your milk isn't in yet. Pumping is horrible, I know, but the best way to get your milk in is to nurse naturally often and relax and intake enough food/water.
Lastly, and this is the most important thing, if you hate nursing, it's OKAY to stop and give your baby formula. They won't have a lower IQ, they won't hate you for it when they're older, they won't complain about it on Dr. Oz or whatever. And no one will think you're a horrible mother.
Good luck and congratulations!
Such wise counsel above.
I had trouble nursing #1, and it took about 6 weeks before we really figured it out. I used domperidone to up my milk supply, which helped a ton. Also used fenugreek and nursing tea with #2. Nursed a ton on demand (and if you need nipple shields and lots of lanisoh, don't be shy!). We also rented the industrial grade pump from the hospital while we were figuring the nursing out, which I think helped keep supply up until I could figure out the rest.
AND--my mother nursed me exclusively for six months, but gave my sister formula. We both went to Harvard and lead pretty happy lives. that always calmed me down when I would get frantic about needing to nurse--the reminder that nursing is wonderful, but a very, very small part of what makes our babies grow up to be good people.
Love your baby--give lots of cuddles and kisses, regardless of what you feed him or whether it's in a bottle or a breast. HOW you feed your baby (with love) and HOW you raise your child will matter much more than whether it's formula or breast milk. Go easy on yourself, honey.
Our twin girls are 7 weeks old today. We had hoped to feed them only breast milk for at least the first six months, but it just hasn't been possible. Currently, the girls are getting 1/2 of their food from the natural (and paleo!) breast milk, and we are then supplementing with Hipp Organic Baby Formula. It's the best we could find here in Germany. We can't source the ingredients to make WAP formula, unfortunately. I'm sure the ingredients exist in our region of Germany, but trying to track it down with my limited language skills has proven impossible.
At first, my wife hated the fact that we were going to have to supplement with formula, as did I. She basically had a similar reaction as yours, felt very stressed, and was quite upset (she wanted to do everything natural since she did have a natural birth with the twins). We've come to learn that the girls really don't differentiate between the breast milk and the formula, gulping both down equally. Neither seems to cause more gas or stomach distress, which we are thankful for. We had our suspicions about the formula, but the Hipp Organic seems to be pretty good stuff.
As far as milk production, my wife does drink 'Milchbildungstee' (tea for increasing milk production) once or twice a day and it does seem to help a little bit. Here is an English site I found that offers a similar product.
Also, as Susan said, feeding or pumping more often can help the milk fully come in and increase the production volume. If you have any questions, speak with a lactation consultant about this and they should be able to fill you in and even help you with feeding techniques and tips and tricks. Ours, who is a good friend, helped my wife immensely.
Congratulations on the birth of your child! Relax and try to enjoy this time as much as you can. Things will work themselves out!
Wow I could have written your question almost word for word two weeks ago. My little guy is almost 4 weeks now (my first, all natural, 5 hours!) and I was struggling just like you because my nipples were being torn apart (despite several lactation consultations) and I wasn't producing enough milk and he wasn't gaining weight. All I can say is be patient!
The most important thing to do is PUMP. Keep at it and once you get an ounce or two, give it to your little one in a bottle. Also drink Fenugreek or Mother's Milk Tea three times a day. Eat lots of food too. I've been eating a ton of carbs too - oatmeal and Guinness are also supposed to be good for milk supply. Don't give up and don't go to formula yet. If you keep pumping your milk should arrive very soon.
I found this page on Kelly Mom really useful BTW.
Also, nipples may be sore for weeks but they WILL get better. You and your baby will figure out a better latch, and the initial injuries will heal. And relax! I think you will find yourself turning the corner very soon...
Your baby's stomach is so tiny right now, he doesn't need much. It does take your milk a little while to come in. If you want to exclusively breastfeed, don't let anyone stand in your way. As long as your baby is getting wet/dirty diapers, he is doing okay. Honestly, I am new to the "paleo" and am still learning so I can't make any comment about that, but breastfeeding I do know....I have an almost 2 year old daughter and we are still going strong on nursing. I know it isn't paleo, but if you wanted to try a bowl of oatmeal in the morning, it helps with milk production. Also, if you google lactation cookies, you can find several different recipes that contain flax and brewers yeast that work at increasing production. (again, not paleo, but definitely helps with production)
Nipple soreness is really common, but I know that it doesn't make it any less horrible. I was in tears every time for the first few weeks. Try giving your son a little pumped breastmilk before he latches on to your nipple. It will ease some of his franticness and will make the process a little easier. Also, make sure you have lanolin. It does ease some of the discomfort!
It is so challenging being a new Mom - you are doing great! Remember, his tummy is only the size of a walnut right now!
You have to take a ton of fenugreek -- your pee and sweat should smell like maple syrup. I don't remember how much I took (my daughter is now 3) but it was about 4 pills in the morning, 3 in the afternoon and 4 at night. I also had luck taking the fenugreek with milk thistle. Again, I took a lot.
Also, you body is just getting use to nursing and figuring out how much milk to male. Try not to pump and just nurse (babies are much more efficient at emptying the breast then the pump).
Check Kellymom for more info, or call your local LLL leader.
It is hard at first and takes a while to figure out, just remember that you are doing great and learning as you go.