Don't get suckered into believing that calories do not matter. They do.
But you shouldn't count them, because it is impossible to accurately know how much calories were absorbed by your digestive system.
You should try to eat something that helps you eat less. Low carb paleo is an excellent method. But it may not work for you. So don't think of it as a panacea. Yes paleo is important, but it is not the only low toxin high nutrition diet and glucose is not a toxin, however much you may here of it.
First is to get healthy. Eat a low toxin high nutrition diet, which is paleo. That itself will cause you to lose weight. I actually started to lose weight when I started to eat full meals. Otherwise I was snacking too much. Starvation is opposite of health.
Once you start to feel good, then you can try to get on with reducing weight not before.
The best starting method is to eat around 80gms of carbs and 70gms of protein. Normally glucose requirement is fixed by brain and neurons, so 80gms is sufficient. Protein should be at least around 1.5gms/Kg of lean body weight, that is minus fat. Rest will be fat.
Also keep carbs+protein:fat at 1:2. So if your energy requirement is 2400kcal, then 800kcal will be carbs+protein. Note fiber is counted as fat not carbs. If you don't want to go higher in carbs you can go higher in proteins, to match the limit. Ofcourse all numbers are approximate.
The 2400kcal in the example is your basal matabolic rate, which you can calculate from http://exrx.net/Calculators/CalRequire.html.
You may think eating this much will cause you to gain weight, but believe me you will be surprised.
Once you have upped your diet to your expected BMR, then you can reduce your caloric consumption to around 500kcal not more, with one cheat day, where you eat an excess of 500kcal. The reduction should be in fat, and increase on the cheat day should be carbs.
On the other hand you can try leangains. But I would say start leangains when you have achieved basic level, ie you are eating to your BMR.