I'm curious about learned behaviours with regards to relationships with food.
This is a long post, but I'm asking for personal stories and it's only fair to share first.
As a child, there were a lot of "off-limit" foods. My parents were constantly dieting (they are weight watcher lifers) and sweets, desserts, fast food, salty snacks and sodas were very rare "treats". (Funny I would not consider them treats not, but I certainly remember them feeling special). I can also clearly recall that I always felt unwell after eating, from elementary school onward. Unfortunately this became so common place that I stopped complaining and didn't look into it until university when I was finally diagnosed with celiac disease.
On those occasions, I can recall gorging myself until I felt sick. At the time, I didn't analyze it. I can clearly remember really pigging out at Brownie/Girl Guide potlucks on desserts and chips. I was very active in student life in junior high and often pizza was brought in as a reward- I can recall eating 8-9 slices on these occasions.
Something changed around the time of highschool: food rules went out the window at home. I recognize now that this is because we relied on fast foods and Chinese buffets when my grandparents were on their deathbeds (we lost all 4 within a 2 year period), and shortly after my family moved across the country. It became commonplace to go out for ice cream to bond, or pick up 2-3 chocolate bars and 3-4 varieties of chips and pop to watch a movie together at home.
My twin sister and I were both uncomfortable with our weight physically and emotionally, and in out last year of highschool she became anorexic. Her weight fell off, and friends and family commended her. I remember Christmas: she wrapped up her dinner in a napkin and threw it away. I was so worried for her I fished it out of the trash to show my parents, and was told to mind my own business.
I went off to university, and finally took charge of my health. I was diagnosed with Celiac disease and really educated myself about nutrition. My family has come along for the ride and eat primarily whole foods. They will not give up gluten. grains dairy, but I believe that this is their prerogative. N=1 after all!
Please share your experiences- what have you learned from your family unit, room mates, mates- both good habits and bad.