Here's a little bit of background, with regards to what made me ask this: I was thinking about how it would be easier for me to keep to my eating habits if my boyfriend would agree to try and eat in a similar manner, but I don't want to push him, and ultimately, it is up to me, and no one else, to chose what to put into my body, for my health and well-being.
I was thinking I might be able to connect to him, better, if he had the same attitude towards food, as I do... but I didn't fall in love with him, because he eats certain foods and not others.
I'd been struggling with this for a few months, wondering 'if he cares about me, why can't he just TRY this', but again, I am not with him to control him, or to make him adopt my choices, but to accept his, and have him accept mine. I've realized we can support each other, even if we do not agree with each others choices all the way.
So, that's what I'm going to share here, my own realizations about trying to get someone do something for me, when they don't want to, and I wanted to ask:
Does having someone you care about adopt your eating habits (or fail to adopt them) influence your own acceptance of yourself, for practicing eating the way you do?
Would it be easier for you to stick to your eating habits, if the person you live with, or, if you live alone, the person you spend the most time around, chose to embrace a similar style of eating?
Do you feel as though your connection to your friends, or significant other, is diminished by differences of opinion/practice, in regard to diet, or do others' differences inspire you to implement, or keep change in your own life?
Do you feel as though you can support someone fully, if their choices for their diet are at odds with yours?
Apologies if this is not an appropriate question, because there are no 'definitive' answers, only the discussing of experiences, and what it has taught you about yourself and others. I believe we can all learn from inspecting the reasons why we do things, and how others influence our actions, or lack thereof.
Edit; I am 100% okay with us having different food choices, I love that he won't change his eating habits, just because I did, it means he is his own person, who I adore and value. I just wanted to share that it was something I had to learn, not something that came immediately. We're both a bit insecure, and so we tried to influence each other a little, at first.
I was just curious about others' experiences, if they had to learn this, too, or if it was something they already knew, and how support from someone played into their choices. We support each other, though we have different opinions. To me, that is what makes our relationship worthwhile, the differences. I opened with the thing about our relationship, to try and say that at first, I was uncertain about my own choices, and wanted more support, but that I found out that I had to look to myself for it, that it was up to me to do this. I apologize, if it sounded like I thought I was being wronged, on the contrary, I realize it was wrong of me to expect my boyfriend to do something he may not want to. I got very excited about changing my diet, making this change triggered a manic response in me (I'm bi-polar), because it has been so wonderful to me, so I began to think he should change, too, and then when I calmed down and thought about it, I realized I was being unreasonable and pushy.
Thank you, everyone, for your answers, and for being nice with your advice.