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Pretty straightforward. For some reason I still think of myself internally as a boy. I'm 22 years old. I'll also refer to my friends as "kids," as in telling someone that "I'm going to meet up with some kids at a bar." Is this weird? Some people have commented on it. When did you stop thinking of yourself as a boy and instead as a man? Was it when you graduated college and were really on your own? Was it when you had kids and became a father? Is this weird or are the people that make note of it and point it out to me the weird ones?

I realize this may be voted to close because it's not a paleo question, but it's about evolution, isn't it? Evolution from boy to man. Evolution is paleo, right?

Oh this could also go for girls too. WHen did you start thinking you were a woman and not a girl?

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sorry to nit pick, but i don't think you evolve from a boy to a man – Mike T Jun 4 at 0:58
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 Fair enough. I got 3 good answers though. Thank you! – foreveryoung Jun 4 at 0:59
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 Sorry, folks. I do find this interesting myself, probably because I'm still a boy, but it is off topic. – Paul Jun 4 at 0:59
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 Age is just a number and the happiest old dudes are the ones who still joke around like kids. Whether you call yourself a boy or a man doesn't really matter either. When serious events happen it's important you draw on past experiences and stand up and act like a man but at other times staying simple like a kid is important to enjoy life. Has nothing to do with eating paleo though in my opinion. – Stu Jun 4 at 4:48

closed as off topic by being, Dragonfly, Mike T, Paul Jun 4 at 0:58

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I think it's an interesting question because, at 29 and married, I am only now starting to consider myself a "man".

Perhaps it is because I have been self-sufficient for the better part of a decade, have been in a stable monogamous relationship for 8 years, and have been working in the same field (exercise/fitness/health) for my entire professional career.

Maybe it has to do with taking responsibility for my life and getting over hang-ups about being "cool" (I've decided that I prefer to be myself, a natural "dork").

My relationship with my parents is also completely different than it was when I was a "kid". I don't depend on them and don't expect them to provide for me. Without this pressure on the relationship, we can relate more like friends and peers which makes me feel "grown up."

Also, I discovered my first gray hair a few months ago, which pretty much sealed the deal.

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 Thanks for the response. Marriage, establishing yourself in a career path, and financial independence seem like the kickers here for me. I'm not fully there yet on any of those fronts. As for being a nerd, that can't be it because I'd be ancient. And everyone is a nerd when it comes to something. Well, not technically cause I'm told there are nerds, geeks, and dorks. I think you're a nerd. If you were into comics like you are into exercise/fitness/health, then you'd be a dork (or a Geek?). – foreveryoung Jun 4 at 0:52
Good call. I've grown out of comics for the most part (although I still follow a couple manga online) so maybe I'm now more "nerd" than "dork". – FED at LiveCaveman.com Jun 4 at 1:06
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I think we become 'guys' in between being a boy and a man

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Haha I have lots of male friends that I would not classify as boys or men but only as "guys." "Guy" is definitely the middle stage between boy and man. – Violet9 Jun 4 at 16:53
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It was maybe a year or two ago that I started considering myself a man (I'm also 22). When I started being intimate with Woman and growing legitimate facial hair, I think I looked at myself in the mirror one day and thought "I am a beautiful man"

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