What should I say to them and I know that some of you arrange deals with them to get it for free if they were throwing it out before, how would I word it and ask them? Sorry if this is such a stupid question lol.
"Hey, do you have any fat trimmings?" usually works for me.
One of four things will happen:
"No, the meat is trimmed before we get it." In which case, you're SOL.
"Yes, but we aren't allowed to give them to you." There are a few places that have company policies against it - supposedly because they think eating fat is dangerous. (No joke. I was told that.)
"Yes, but we already threw them out. But we can save them for you next time if you want." In which case you say yes, and set a date on when you will pick it up. DO NOT miss this appointment or they will never do it again. Remember, they are doing you a favor here.
"Yes, how much do you need?" In which case they will fill up a bag for you and you can be on your merry way.
Do you live in an area that has Halal butcher shops? Usually they have them inside Arabic/Afghan grocery stores. I've never had a problem and I've asked a bunch of places for fat. Usually when I buy some meat I will also ask if they can give me some fat. I'm sure if you purchase something they will give it to you for free.