About 2 months ago I had a nice set of abs at 175 lbs..I caught a cold for about a week and slowly lost them. This past month I went off the deep end. I've drank beer the past three weekends, binged on foods i shouldn't be eating (Pizza, white bread, cheese etc..), and I've gained a little over 10 lbs and I'm around 187 right now.
But people are telling me my face looks better..I'm not sure what to do. I feel like I was healthier 10 lbs ago..& I can slowly feel the fat creeping back around my stomach and thighs.
I've looked in the mirror and I really do think I look a little better. I just don't know what to do. I binged on pizza and even had cake yesterday..so it's pretty much like i'm starting over.
Should i keep the weight on by eating a crap load of calories or should I lose the 10 lbs & go back to the skinnier face?
I have the same issue: my mother freaks out when I come home because I'm "too thin" and "look like a skeleton" - and at one point I really was skeletally thin and unhealthy, but since then I've put on 10lbs of muscle and I feel very strong and powerful all the time. However, since I've actually lost fat in the process, my face still looks thin, especially around my chin.
My advice: do what makes you feel healthy. Eat enough calories to sustain yourself, but don't feel like you have to overeat because someone else thinks it makes your face look better (unless you care more about that person's opinion of your face than about your health). If you want to up your calorie intake, have you tried eating more calories of good food? You don't have to down pizza and beer to get a higher calorie count.
Dude, do what makes YOU happy and what makes YOU feel good.
You're asking a bunch of strangers on a forum who have absolutely no idea what you look like for their opinion on what you should look like...
There's a saying in women's circles: Face or Body? 'Cause you can't have both. If you lose too much weight, your face gets sacrificed, but your body is lean as heck. If you gain weight, your body might not be as awesome, but your face looks better.
I had something similar happen recently. At the end of a Whole30, I weighed the least I've ever weighed as an adult, even without trying! I was lean and felt light during my workouts, which was nice. But my husband was glad to see a few pounds come back on.
My other sense is that people have no idea what "normal" looks like anymore.
Obviously, the crap binge ain't doing you any favors. But you might be able to find a balance that allows you to get closer to your goal. Good luck!
After losing a lot of weight, a lot of people became fond of telling me that I was "too skinny" just because I looked thinner period. Something about the South...they like men flabby down here.
If you're going to keep eating a crapload of calories, just don't let them all be crap.
Does it have to be one or the other? You're probably looking gaunt because you're restricting calories too much. Here's a secret; You don't have to restrict calories at all to get abs. You just have to eat the right foods at the right times and do intense resistance training.
I have looked very gaunt before but that was when i was anorexic. sure I had abs but it was not worth it at all. I eat around 3500 calories for maintenance now and I think my abs are much more defined than they were 90 lbs ago.
do some research and mimic those who have the physique you want.
Ultimately you have to do why makes you feel good and happy. And if getting abs requires significant calorie restriction, it won't make you feel good or happy in the long run. There is a way you can get them without restricting your calories at all, and I suggest doing it that way.
Unless you walk around with your shirt off nobody can see your abs.
Unless you walk around with a mask on everybody can see your face.
That so-called "gaunt" and "skinny" face is actually normal and healthy. Just wait a while until people, including you, are used to your new "skinny" face. This is just a transitory phase while people still remember your fuller face. I went through the same thing.
Combo of what April and Steven told you: what's important is how you feel "I feel like I was healthier 10 lbs ago..& I can slowly feel the fat creeping back around my stomach and thighs," which translates into: that's where I'd like to be. Also, like Steven said, our society has become so f*cking fat (okay, not what Steven said, I'm embellishing a tad here) that if your abs are showing they think you're skinny. I lost a little bit of bodyfat fasting, and my abs and muscle definition popped. I was then told by several people (clearly 80lbs+ overweight) I was loosing too much weight. I'm 148lbs at 5'7 and did 350lbs on the leg press machine the other day. I'm not feeling weak, and I'm not too skinny. They're feeling horrible, and they're definitely too fat.
When you can shine a flashlight at your stomach and see your organs, you're too skinny. We're supposed to have our abs showing...
As long as you maintain a healthy weight, do what makes you feel best about yourself. If you look in the mirror and you're scoping your rocking abs and you think your face looks fine, then stay that way. When I lose weight in my face, people tell me I look tired or stressed, but it's just because chubby faces=jolly disposition in people's minds. Honestly though, you'll feel a lot better on a regular basis eating clean foods over the greasy sugary processed crap, regardless of how you look.
Feeling confident looks best, whether your abs are cut (or face is gaunt) is secondary.
However : Maybe consider how often/how many people see you walking around without a shirt off. Now think about how you want to present yourself to the majority of the people you interact with...