i don't know why but a lot of my friends / coworkers get this vibe where they think that I think I'm better then them because I don't eat processed junk food. I think the main reason they are mad because they cant stop eating their crap and want everyone to be doing it.
Do YOU think you're better than them? Sounds like you're judgmental about what they eat. Eat what you like, let them eat what they like.
Most likely. People don't like change and if they see you are doing better than them they want to bring you down to their level so they can feel better about themselves. The positive side is if they see you keep improving and you don't lecture them they may eventually snap out of it and ask how they can better themselves.
People change when they want to. It may take a while.
People don't care what you eat or don't eat, do or don't do. Their reaction is based only on how they feel about themselves (bad) when they see what you eat or don't eat, do or don't do.
That vibe is them feeling "bad" about themselves, it really has nothing to do with you. However, even if you are just sharing information because they are already feeling bad, they may "hear" you being preachy, weather you mean to be or not.
I just don't talk to people about my food choices and if they talk about how they are getting poorly and try to engage me in it I say, "Hey, I am not the food police, you can eat what you like"
Deep down, people know that eating processed crap drinking and carbonated sugar water is the wrong choice. You are a reminder that they are doing something they know as wrong, so on some level they will resent it until they make the decision for themselves to change something.
After dropping fifty pounds, people asked me how I did it. When I told them that I no longer eat grains or processed food, the knee-jerk response is usually "I could never do that." A lot of people assume that they are too weak to take control of their own lives, and you are a reminder of that.
And, in a more general sense, Westerners have never dealt well with people who are different.
It's all about your attitude. If you play the smug card where you act better than them because you know more about food than they do, they'll pick up on that. If you're friendly and don't get into it, people will be more accepting. I've been doing this for over three years, I never bring it up but as people start noticing what I'm eating and talking to me, I introduce the concepts gently (i.e., I don't say "your food is killing you") and I've slowly brought maybe a dozen people into this over the years. And I have had more success than others who I know who just think (and act) like they're the coolest person in the world because they know about paleo.
I have room mates right now that are really good friends of mine. At first, I found that they were making fun of my choices when we went out to eat because they thought it was a waste of a trip if I didn't get something absolutely horrible with either a lot of cheese or accompanied by a load of fries (and don't get me started on the mexican food they love). I expressed my dislike for their comments and once I made it known that this was a change for ME and only ME -- and I wanted their support-- they started complimenting instead of criticizing. I had to back off and stop lecturing them, though. Yes, I listen to Robb Wolf like every day and I could go on for hours explaining to them what that bite of the nachos just did to them, but it's only going to piss them off. And they have a lot of other issues in their lives that I think are the root cause of them not wanting to change, and probably making them upset with me every time I eat celery in front of them while they scarf another large fry.
It takes time and adjustment. If you are important to them, they will come around. If not, screw 'em... life is too short. If people I don't know or don't care to talk to ask me about it, I just say "I eat a lot of fruits, veggies, and meat, that's about it." I'll only go into details if they seem interested and open about it.
My room mates are even starting to ask me questions like "Wait, so why are grains bad again?" and "You said almond milk is better for you than regular milk, right? Wanna split this carton?". I don't think the mindset of this lifestyle is for everyone at this exact moment in their life, but at least they can ask me questions if they have some, and they respect my decision now. They are even sad for me if I happen to cheat because I "[was] doing so well".
Now if I could only get them to take me to non-fast food places when they owe me dinner...
There probably is some of that, but it's not likely to be at a conscious level. If anything they're more worried about fitting in or not looking weird to everyone else.
I find telling people that I have a wheat and dairy allergy works far better - and in a sense, I do, if I get exposed to wheat, I get the runs, chills, and lots of acid reflux.
I don't think it's jealousy but they certainly take it personally. My friend said she felt better the other day because I slipped up and got a mcdonalds
It's probably that our health choices make other people feel bad about their own
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