This is the best and most informative paleo sites around. My issue at the moment is weight loss and there is a lot on here which is useful.
I went back to eating paleo in July. I made the mistake because of recommendations in a book to have a few squares of dark chocolate. I am a sugar addict and should have realised that is ilke giving a cocaineor heroin addict a little nit of their drug. First the cacao substance in it keeps me up all night, I get a huge high, I have ideas and business plans, it feels wonderful but then day by day I need more and more to have the same effect and then I am on large bars of chocolate every day, missing meals, over eating etc etc. So that failed.
Then a week ago I decided it was better to "get clean"instead, took me my usual 4 or 5 days of no chocolate and then I am free of it. It's wonderful. No need to drive to shops to buy chocolate, no thinking about the substance all day, no ups and downs. I wean off it with lots of fruit which of course causes a bit of the same high, fructose high, but leaves me feeling good and healthy rather than wired, ill, ulcers etc which sugar seems to cause me.
So in a sense I am back to square one 144 pounds which is not obest but at least 14 - 28 pounds than I have been/like to be. Yet I don't want to risk getting back on to sugar addiction. So yesterday I had a very late lungh as was cycling and swimming which I try to do most days and was not hungry which is rare. In my whole life I am always hungry by meal times. I am hardly ever ill probably because whatever illness I am fighting I always eat well. however over the evening I ate just as much as I would on a normal day without a late lunch as if my body is in some kind of perfect balance never to lose weight. It does not want to. It is programmed always to keep a status quo. Other people can fast or reduce eating to just protein and fat but I seem to have zero will power.
So I suppose my question is how do people get the will power to eat less? I am sure I eat at least 2000 calories of good paleo foods a day (and far too much fruit) and feel happy and healthy on that but I don't like what I weigh, aesthetically and I can feel the weight of it carried around compared to 2 years ago. 5 pounds of fat is the weight of a brick. I have six extra bricks and my body doesn't like it either. I prefer not to count calories and don't like weighing myself and my theory would be you woudl automatically lose weight if you only eat good foods but clearly that is not so. I can eat fruit for England. 1000 calories of nuts and raisins in a sitting.. no problem at all.
My question may be about will power.
In one way I am really pleased with myself as I hvae got off sugar and when I am on it I feel in the grip of an addiction and I hate it and it makes me ill. Secondly for the first time in years I am cycling to the gym and back (back is uphill so very hard work) and swimming most days. That makes me feel very good. So there are some huge victories and whilst the weather is still good here in the UK I try to lie in the sun for 20 mniutes a day which also makes me feel happy and healthy - vit D. Wonderful. But not wonderful are the 2 stones (in US jargon 28 pounds) or so like a fat suit over my body. Two of my sons this summer decided to get fit and the other a few years before. They just at a stroke decided X and ate X. I can never do that.
If you really want something and you know exactly what to do to do get there which of course I do with weight then why can't you just decide and do it? Apparently my BMR is 1700 calories a day at my age which is hardly anything. That is just to stay as I am 144 pounds. If I wanted to lose 2 pounds a week I'd be on 700 calories a day! 1 pound a week is obviously all I could hope for IF I were at all able to eat less which I'm not, then 1200 calories a day would be all.
So where do you get your willpower?