ok so theres the long paleo tradition of using almond and coconut flour - im fairly new(ish) to paleo but very clued up on it. but i want to make paleo bread and other paleo baked goods to aid my diet.
As others have already chimed in on, there is no paleo bread. Deal with it.
You can paleo-ify all the SAD or traditional foods you want. Hopefully, this drives their composition closer to something that can sneak into a paleo diet. Definitely, definitely not paleo.
Having laid out that disclaimer ...
here is my dilema - almond flour - too high in fat for my liking
Almond flour is fantastic. What is "too much fat", insofar as how often are you planning to eat these paleo-ified treats? All nut flours will have a good amount of fat, usually high in omega 6s's, but otherwise just fine to have on occasion.
coconut flour - too expensive but using it begrudgingly upon further research
There are plenty of nut flour/meals. You can even make them yourself from whole nuts. Check a site like nuts.com to find options that are readily available. Once you get some experience baking with the varieties, you'll probably find one or two favorites.
whats the views on tempura flour, plantain flour or tapioca flour. and has anyone ever baked with any of these? if so whats it like?
Tempura flour is regular old wheat flour (albeit a bit lighter). It is a grain, it is wheat, it is not paleo.
I've never used plaintain flour.
However, plaintain flour is a high starch flour, and I've used both potato and tapioca/cassava/yuca flour/starch to make treats like biscuits and rolls (great for paleo-ified, grain-free bread type options when I have guests over).
Baking paleo-ified traditional foods, or treating yourself to a less-horrible-than-SAD SAD food, can be great fun. It's generally food that is comfortable to conventional eaters and paleo treaters. Good luck experimenting and baking!