I'm not actually planning a wedding yet but I'm expecting a ring any day now... I mean he asked for my ring size! He calls my mother "mom!" I mean, come on!
Anyway. I'm grain free. I'm also highly allergic to coconut & almonds. So that's out.
Maybe tiers of crime brûlée? I'm having a hard time being creative about this! please girly it up & help me think outside the box!
Are you having a wedding cake because you want a cake, and the associated rituals, or are you having a wedding cake because that is How It Is?
Before you stress about cakes, I'd give some thought to the type of wedding you want, how you want the wedding to reflect you as a couple, and what's really important to you at the end of the day. Planning a wedding is hard. It's not all pinterest-inspired romance. Trust me. A lot of women get caught up in it, but the truth is, if you have a big wedding (100+ guests) there will be so much going on that few people will notice you cutting the cake, and even fewer will care if you even eat any.
Make sure you are having a cake because you want one, not because it's what seems normal. We did not have a wedding cake and everyone gave exactly zero fucks. The Wedding Industrial Complex will try to sell you "tradition" like the government pitches whole grains. Your wedding will be fab, paleo or not, because you're committing to the love of your life. Don't sweat the details if you know in your heart they're just that-- details.
Here are some options:
Panna cotta (cream,gelatin,sugar) I've used David Lebovitz's (http://www.davidlebovitz.com/2009/04/perfect-panna-cotta/) recipe with a LOT less sugar. And then a fruit topping.
flourless chocolate cake - I know a few people mentioned this and you can always dress it up. I've done the one from America's test kitchen - which you have to google to find a free copy.
creme brulee - I think someone mentioned this. Or pot de creme. While this would be a pain in the butt. You could tier them and then put whatever your flowers are on the various tiers. But, no cake cutting.
Pavlova - it looks cake like. I haven't made it but there was an interesting recipe on saveur (http://www.saveur.com/article/Recipes/Pavlova). It needs tweaking.
Ice cream cake.
Edit: For credit - http://lindagoossen-grandmaspage.blogspot.com/2012/07/watermelon-cake.html
Nigella Lawson's flour less chocolate cake is worthy of any special event! Did it for my grandmas big 80th bash, with a beautiful chocolate ganache, decorated with borage flowers. It was lovely and everyone enjoyed it, young and old.
~ Dense flourless chocolate cake like this: - http://eatlivepaleo.com/2011/12/26/flourless-choc-cinnamon-banana-cake/ (There are many Flourless chocolate cake recipes out there, using butter, melted chocolate, eggs, etc) - Try Nigella Lawson cookbooks and alter
~ You can just have a wedding cheese - A CW friend of mine had a HUGE wheel of nice cheese for her wedding instead of a cake. Can stack 3~4 varieties of cheese wheels and serve with fruit, preserves, and crackers for the other folks.
~ Individual pottles of mousse/brullee thingeys for each person? More fiddly but I've been to a few weddings that served cupcakes for instance...
~ NOT FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE ALLERGIC - but this might help out others - Cheesecake with coconut flour crust. Crust recipe (tried this one and it turned out fab - http://www.smarteatsusa.com/articles/recipes/coconut-flour-pie-crust
~ You can use the crust recipe above, then cover the bottom of a springform tin with it. Then fill with lightly cooked fruit - like a whole bag of apples cooked for a few minutes in a saucepan with cinnamon and spice and then bake it all for about 45 mins. Not wedding cake level of poshness, but still yummy nonetheless :)
I went with a gluten free bakery that does wedding cakes. It is one day, enjoy your wedding cake! Going gluten free allows you to do this without feeling like crap after. Also, if you talk to the baker you can usually get them to sub out ingredients and use honey instead of sugar. Also, go for the buttercream frosting, fondant tastes like sugary play-doh.
Maybe you could make a sponge cake, like the following recipe, but you'd have to pick a paleo compatible sweetener for it.
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