I was out shopping today (Christmas shopping) and I popped into the supermarket to get some butter. As I was standing in the queue, to my right I saw 3 overweight ladies scrutinizing the labels of something. As the line went down, I saw that it was a slim-fast drink. And they were talking about something, and I heard something like "...but only had 900 calories yesterday so it's ok." and they were buying diet cokes, too, because you know how they have 0 calories.
I felt really bad, because I know what it's like. I mean, I was never slim-fast or anything, but I know what it's like to have my life ruled by calories. It's not nice. I'm so grateful that now, I have a better relationship with food (not my body, but I'm a teenage girl, so y'know)
I just want to tell everyone about paleo. But I still have pounds to lose, so I can't really tell them that butter will make them feel good until I have abs or something. Besides, it's none of my business how people eat, it's just those people obviously don't have a good relationship with food.
So do you openly tell people about how you eat, and how good it makes you feel? Or do you wait until someone asks? I mean, I know it's different with family and friends, but I just felt really sorry for those people today.
Yes I feel abundantly sad when I see people trying (reading labels) but basing their decisions on such poor information. I believe the vast majority of people want to do better but when you're being sold a pack of lies it's nearly impossible. I also feel grateful beyond words that I came across good information and that I was able to hear it. I'm not any stronger, smarter, more dedicated, less gluttonous than I was at over 300 lbs. I was lucky enough to be introduced to the truth and to be in a place to know it as such. I wish that for everyone.
I think people go through phases. Everyone wants to preach when they start. They have been woken to the reality that instead of blindly following fad diets and government recommendations, they should try something else and actually look at the results. I was in the best shape of my life after the first four weeks. I wanted to tell everyone. People literally told me that I had different genes and wish they were born so lucky. Next, you get fed up with everyone calling you crazy. Now, I help people who want help. Other people, I just let go.
Unfortunately, food choices have been elated to the realm of religious faith and people get really annoyed if you preach out of the blue. If someone wants to learn and has an open mind, you can talk to them about food choices. Very few people will change their belief system because a stranger says "there are studies showing diet drinks trigger even greater sweet tooths"
At the end of the day, it is hard not to judge and it is even harder not to respond when I am told that I may look great, but I will die of heart attack if I do not change my ways.
I do feel bad, because I know how hard it is, and it isn't their fault. They're getting bad info. I feel bad when they're heavy, when they're fading away as vegans, and when they are regular weight.
I don't say anything to strangers, but friends and family ask and I tell them. I don't have abs, but I've lost a lot of weight, gained a lot of muscle, and I'm healthier than I've ever been. My sister and her gf did a whole 30 because of my success, and my mom is planning to join us in January. The info spreads, nicely and calmly, when people notice your weight loss. Without fail, everyone asks how it happened, and then you can feel free to tell them.
FWIW, I only think it's judgemental when you feel the people are bad/lazy/stupid. That's not how I feel.
I do openly tell people about what I eat and why. I do not wait for people to ask. I preach healthy food choices and I am not shy about it. If you know your stuff, people respect you. It is hard to argue with a person who obviously knows more than you do. Nobody (besides doctors) ever questioned my diet or things I say. They all know in their heart it is true. People just know, they feel it.
I actually tell doctors (dietitians) that they are wrong, because they are. Some doctors (dietitians and gastroenterologists) are the only people I have met who have a hard time swallowing the bitter pill.
You got to be a complete idiot thinking that a protein shake is better than real traditional food. No, even a complete idiot will be able to taste the difference between a well-made traditional dish and anything microwaved that comes out of a box.
We are brainwashed into thinking that some company that is based on profit margins would make things better than nature, or better than one thousand generations of grandmothers, passing their recipes from mother to daughter. How can people be so gullible?
I do feel bad for other people. Especially if I see an acne-covered young guy or girl chewing a Mars bar. I just want to yank that candy bar right out of their hands and say - don't do it. You will ruin your gut flora!
I did turn three people into Weston Price followers. Three total strangers that is. I turned my family into gluten-free eaters and my best friends into Weston price. Just today my best friend told me, "You would be proud of me! I bought ox tails and beef liver!" Isn't it wonderful?
I always pry into other peoples' shopping carts when I'm in the grocery store. I saw this sweet middle aged lady buying a nice big container of soy milk and cried Inside a little 2 days ago.
Since I'm only halfway to my weightloss goals, I know to keep my mouth shut. How would it look for me to be preaching to someone about cookies and waffles in their cart while mine is full of butter and full fat sour cream? I don't have much creditability at this point.
On the checkout line, it's hard not to notice what the person in front of you is placing on the conveyer belt and checking out with. Yes, many times I feel so bad when I see the junk they are buying and going to feed the family with. Nothing really to do about it.
I remember last summer when i was on a hiking tour in northern Spain (Camino de Santiago) in a village I stopped at a supermarket to fill up on supplies. (I would eat out of the backpack mostly.) I boought a litre of cream.
It was a hot day and as i was paying at check out, I opened the tetrabrik, as the cream had been refrigerated, and began to guzzle it down. The (slightly plump) cashier girl said to me: Oh, that's not milk, you know". And I said, "Yeah, I know. I eat a lot of fat in order to stay thin". She looked at me with shock on her face. Obviously she had never heard anything like this before.
It actually gives me encouragement when I see the choices people make and THEN hear them complain how sick they are all of the time. I live in an area where I am definitely the lone wolf with the Paleo lifestyle. In the beginning, I tried to convince a lot of people I cared about to just try it, rather than criticize me or ask me endless questions. Most people complained "It's too hard" and never gave it a shot. At times, I feel like a freak (at parties or restaurants, for example) and begin to doubt myself. Then I remember how crappy I used to feel, how I fought with my diet/weight/emotions....It's not that I glance in other people's shopping carts to feel "holier", but rather to put an illustration with the research I've done and to reinforce what I know in my heart (and gut) is right for me.
Yes, but I would never tell a random person how to eat. They must know the stuff they eat is bad for them on some level, and eventually they'll come to that conclusion on their own. I'm pretty new to this and still figuring it all out, but I'm hoping eventually I can serve as an example of how important this way of eating is to your health and my friends and family will make some of the same changes.
That said, I do cringe every time I feed the child I babysit foods filled with HFCS and tons of preservatives and synthetic chemicals. :(
Absolutely. I really get the heebie-jeebies when I see other people with health problems buy the worst things and it doesn't get better when they start complaining about their problems while not being open-minded. At home, it's fun too, watching my parents eat crap. It's almost like we were all smokers at home, I got lung cancer, changed my lifestyle and felt better than before. Meanwhile, they're still smoking and didn't learn a single thing.
But to answer your question, I just want to look great, feel great and talking about it just happens when someone comments on how I look or envites me to go eat crap and doesn't take NO for an answer.
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