I've found that I have to supress the urge to chastise people everywhere for eating poison and for not knowing better!
I have to restrict myself from lecturing on the evils of sugar and wheat
I have to restrain from interrupting someone talking about low fat diet X being the latest greatest
I have to bite my tongue when someone complains about themselves or a loved one with diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol or other easily curable "disease" because when I open my mouth to explain, they say "you're no doctor" "my doctor says otherwise" "no way, studies!!! Show that fat is bad for you" really which ones?
No one wants to listen
no one wants to hear that they've been LIED to their entire lives
no one wants to hear that the government has misinformed them and worse MISTRAINED their doctors...
Anyone else feel like they should be shouting from the rooftops but don't want to have to dodge rotting fruit to do so?
I get people that ask me how I lost 105lbs... Then scoff at me and call me stupid when I say i eat fat instead of carbs/sugar, they insist I'm going to kill myself or that their friend X tried diet Y that they read about on the Internet and now they have disease Z
what do we do? How do we break thru the shell and let them hear the truth?
Edit: additional question... how do we paleosmack our childrens athletic coach, who wants to carb load junk food into all the kids?
Edit: wanted to share a little "sigh" story.
At work, we had a luncheon. only "safe" food was a salad. Lettuce. So im grabbing a plate of lettuce so as not to be the only guy sitting around with nothing. Normally Id just skip the meal. 2 slightly overweight guys suggested I take food (I think it was chicken pot pie). I said, I can't. One insisted, no, you want to, but are avoiding it. I replied: no, Im allergic to wheat. The other quickly replied, oh that makes sense why you're so skinny. /facepalm. If you understand that wheat makes you fat... Why do you eat it? /ragequit.
I sometimes preface my response to "how did you do it?" with a smile and the statement "You would not believe me if I told you."
For some reason, this lets more people actually listen critically, and I'm not sure why humans are wired to believe new-to-them information if they think it is some sort of hidden knowledge.
and Yes yes yes, I sometimes want to shout at people who are about to kill themselves by another (waistline) inch with that next poor/evil/bad food choice... I make myself wait to be asked, it gives me some small chance of being heard.
Now that I am much shrunk from my prior state, those who did not know the bigger me seem to be thinking I always looked like this.
No, I'm not going to start carrying around a before picture, that would creep out my id AND ego.
Update2: I seem to have gotten a bit younger in my appearance... Most express strong doubts that I am in my 40s. I tell them that I've been aging slower as I eat ia paleo style.
You said "No one wants to listen".
Can I give an alternative perspective. There is vast amounts of diet and health advice out there, much of it useless and some actually harmful. Plenty of nonsense or advice with no evidence for it is spread even among paleo communities.
Anyone who readily accepts the advice of every person they meet evangelical about their new diet or supplements or whatever, would end up accepting lots of rubbish advice that they get told. In our society now dismissing such offered advice is probably beneficial overall to your health.
Remember than when you try to convince someone about how wonderful your new food knowledge is, you sound exactly like every other vegan, raw-foodist, low-carb, low-fat etc advocate out there. I wonder how many people here were trying to convince their friends how great vegetarianism or low-fat was a few years ago?
Telling people that certain foods are evil is not usually a good to convince people either, it makes you sound too extreme. Remember to keep some perspective. Neolithic foods are not optimal but that does not make them evil. For example my Granddad has reached the age of 90 (so far) eating bread, margarine and sugar in his tea with a healthy heart and has had a healthy life.
If you want to talk to people about food, do it in a more relaxed open way.
A very famous historical figure once said something I think you should heed:
Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.
I have learned to only give advice when people ask for it. And trust me, I know what you mean and still often feel the urge to preach.
Also, leading by example seems to help, especially for the people I care about and love. My wife was a bit skeptical at first, but bit by bit she changed.
People often thinks the evolutionary approach makes a lot of sense, but in the end they always ask something like: and what about your liver with all that fat? or: don't you have to watch you cholesterol? or: you look fine but you'r still young. or: really interesting, but every week there is a new diet? or... You probably all know these excuses.
Currently trying to convince my parents. They eat butter again!! They lessen their sugar! Next step: grains!
live by example ..if they ask i tell if they laugh oh well..im not here to convert people the only time im upset is with my family and the crap they feed the kids but i dont know what its like as i have none of my own so i cant really talk.....people dont respond to preaching usualy and are lazy too,,it usualy takes somthing drastic like disease or obesity to spark somthing in most...just what i think...let them have their S***t and Eat it too...i feel and look better and ill tell them how im doing it if they care thats how i feel
I love the whole9 health elevator pitch ('tis a bit of a mouthful though) when trying to let people know how you lost weight, have loads of energy, clear skin etc.
I eat “real” food – fresh, natural food like meat, vegetables and fruit. I choose foods that are nutrient dense, with lots of naturally-occurring vitamins and minerals, over foods that have more calories but less nutrition. And food quality is important – I’m careful about where my meat comes from, and buy produce locally and organically as often as possible.
It’s not a low calorie “diet” – I eat as much as I need to maintain strength, energy and a healthy weight. In fact, my diet is probably much higher in fat than you’d imagine. Fat isn’t the enemy – it’s a great energy source when it comes from high quality foods like avocado, coconut and nuts. And I’m not trying to do a “low carb” thing, but since I’m eating vegetables and fruits instead of bread, cereal and pasta, it just happens to work out that way.
Eating like this is good for maintaining a healthy metabolism, and reducing inflammation within the body. It’s been doing great things for my energy levels, body composition and performance in the gym. It also helps to minimize my risk for a whole host of lifestyle diseases and conditions, like diabetes, heart attack and stroke.
IMO no one can hear what they are not ready to hear. Preaching (even though you are right) will only make them turn off the message. I would absolutely answer questions from people - start with simple answers - don't lay it all out for them at once. Let them know that if they want to know more, you'd be glad to answer any other questions or point them info resource - IF they seem interested in your preliminary answers. If they are hostile, with the "you're going to die" type response, I would just say something like "Well, in my experience, this is working very well for me (I've lost xx pounds)" and leave it at that, unless they follow up with a curious or respectful question. If it's hostile still, you should probably agree to disagree.
I'm giving better advice here than I am sometimes able to follow myself. The urge is strong to try and save/better the lives around us, but I've found over and over that that info overload or preaching just doesn't work. Let them watch what happens to you, and if they become ready to hear, they'll come to you.
I don't care what other people (aside from close friends and loved ones) eat. I really don't. Their choices are not my problem. If they ask me what I'm doing, I tell them. If they don't choose to believe me, that's not my problem either. Why get frustrated about something I can't control? That's definitely not paleo.
Yes, yes, yes - I feel all those frustrations! I have to try to stop myself from being preachy or arrogant, and I suspect I sometimes don't succeed. Oops. Overall, I think you need to let people ask you, rather than broach it yourself, and try and give fairly topline answers at first, then go onto the science stuff if they ask more.
The guys from Whole9 were on Robb Wolf's show the other week, and said that instead of saying 'you can't eat grains etc', they talk about what they do eat, and how it makes them feel, and some of the benefits.
Sally Fallon from Weston A Price reckons all the dumb, lazy people who keep eating crap will die out, and the healthy people will rule the earth. OK, I am paraphrasing, but seriously, that's what she thinks. And I have to say, when the fat person in front of me at the checkout is buying six bottles of coke and tons of white bread, I think I must agree!