My family including two young daughters (14 and 24 years old) are completely paleo-primal now. They are both very healthy, slim and curvy. They have lamented to me many times that there are almost no boys or young men that seem healthy and virile to them since most are eating SAD.
The rant goes like this, "They are always hugging and checking their hair. Plus most have moobs already and-or are skinny-fat. They are many times sick or just getting over being sick and generally look like crap most of the time. The few and far between decent young guys are already taken." end rant
So maybe it's a matter of a very small pool in their taste range.
Anyway I kind of agree with them after observing the humanity when we go to the beach for a swim. They sometimes tease me that their 52yo dad is the hottest guy there at the time.
I hope this lifestyle goes more widespread, I'm genuinely worried about them finding a suitable mate and having a family.
Anyone else think about this? Or do I worry to much?
PS I suppose this could apply for young paleo men looking for like-minded young women.
At the moment I can't be that choosy when dating. Simply because 99% of people eat non-paleo. That doesn't mean there aren't plenty of people who try to live a healthy life-style in their own way which I can meet.
I've decided I'm going to start blogging and organising local paleo meetups here in London as a way to get to know lots of paleo/primal people and shamelessly use it to also meet women who are into the same thing.
Maybe an idea for your daughters, start a blog about young people interested in nutrition, use it to organise meetups and discussion groups with other young people interested in the same thing. A good way to learn from eachother, socialise and meet people.
I would suggest encouraging your daughters not to worry so much about what potential dates are or aren't eating. If they concentrate too much on this one aspect they may miss out on a great emotional and mental connection. They are young and probably don't understand just how vital a mental connection/attraction is to a long lasting relationship. Obviously physical health is very important, but most people their ages are not so preoccupied with their health. Meeting someone who doesn't share their health values doesn't mean it has to be a rescue mission, it can be a natural, organic process. Once they have a serious potential mate, I'd be surprised if they weren't amenable to moving their diet and lifestyle patterns towards the paleo. I'm assuming when their Dad was their age, he was not a perfect example of health ;) Most of us weren't and you can't blame people for being uneducated about their health in this country. The paleo movement is still very fringe.
When I met my partner he was vegan and drank excessively. He was also extremely intelligent, creative, funny and as kind as people come with a heart of gold. Luckily I de-veganized him rather quickly (just wave bacon under their nose) and now he in better shape than most people our age, his health problems from being vegan are gone and he is just as interested in paleo lifestyle as I am. Never in the years we've been together did I feel like he was a rescue mission, it all happened naturally b/c we really loved each other. You could even argue that it adds something special to a relationship to go through such a change together. My advice for your daughters is not to focus on this one aspect of a potential partner, it's not healthy and it's not realistic. Relationships are hard and require work, I understand they don't find it appealing to have to "teach" potential mates how to be healthy, but if it's not that it will be something else. They might have to teach them how to have a sense of humor in bad situations, or how to express their emotions better, how to be a better listener, how to relax, or how to be more responsible. There is a whole slew of issues like this that come up in a relationship, and you can't always be forewarned of these things from the first few dates. This is a good opportunity to teach your daughters that there is no such thing as a "perfect" mate and finding someone who respects and loves them is priority. Most couple's lifestyles eventually synch up, don't worry about it.
Oh whatever. Try being a gay man in his late 40s when most of your peers are either ill and obese, or obsessed with cardio, cholesterol, plastic surgery and desperately holding on to the last vestiges of youth, if there's any left, or hopped up on an assortment of powerful medications for no good reason other than their MDs are too lazy to find a cause and only know how to treat symptoms. Whee.
Also, I'm pretty appalled at how many people are on drugs for depression and anxiety. I guess all those TV ads really do work. Most of those meds have a negative effect on, um, male sexuality. Pretty sad when a hot 30yr-old can't get it up because he's on multiple anti-whatever drugs
I think the availability of information (like, say, here) makes it easier to address SAD-rooted problems than it was even 10 or 15 yrs ago. My children are younger than yours, but they're growing up knowing how food works and affects their bodies. What their adult bodies will be like is up to them, but if they're deconditioned/overweight/whatever it'll be because they've chosen to go a different route, not because of ignorance of the mechanisms involved.
Put another way, if your daughters want paleo-minded mates, they'll find them... even if it's by finding guys who are otherwise suitable and educating them.
It may be a small comfort, but as a primal gal married to an primal-"agnostic", he still eats primally 80-90% of the time just because that's what I've cooked for dinner or sent with him for lunch. So, if your daughters find otherwise lovely mates, they may not even have to make a full conversion, as long as they're generally happy to go with the flow of what's on the menu. :)
(But really, any man worth his salt should know how to prepare scrambled eggs and [uncured] bacon, and grill meats and veggies. But that's just my opinion. ;-p)
She could get involved with a group of weightlifters. Most lifters already know about lowcarbing and eating healthy so they would be more open to the general concepts. She would just have to target only those that do not take chemicals.
But the fact is, women mature faster than men. It's normal and common for more mature young women to be rather disappointed with options among same age/opposite sex. That is why women often date older men. I think this is just an extension of an age old problem! -Eva
If you only concentrate on what ISN'T there, that's what you'll find. Instead of complaining about the boys they are NOT interested in, have them just make a plan to not castigate anyone for how they look (they don't know their full story, only what they see and then interpret.), and instead look for the good.
If your daughters want to attract completely healthy boys/men, then they need to be completely healthy - and that includes their attitude. I know it is frustrating. Been there, done that. When I started projected 100% health (mental, spiritual, physical, financial, etc.),I started attracting more of those people in my life.
It sounds woo - woo, I know. So try this then "birds of a feather flock together". Might be worthwhile for them to find a new tree to perch in.
Well I'm a young guy focusing on a paleo diet but huh I think your exaggerating. I suppose you live in America? Here in Canada the average young person looks "ok". Like, sure I have more energy in general but in terms of looks theirs not that many fat/chubby people (unlike when I went to the states which might be where your from).
I guess what I'm saying is yes, if all else fails just move out of the US and their chances will increase. I don't think it's cause for concern. As more studies come out proving paleo is the way to go more will convert anyway.
It is definitely difficult. I am a 27 yr old male, in Southern California (an above-average "healthy" area) and I have a very hard time finding anyone even slightly interested in my paleo/primal lifestyle. Im not overly down with the online meetup community, so I guess I will have to keep my fingers crossed that I bump into a steak eating princess lol
It's becasue they are in the age range of Hipsters. Hipsters love to drink cheap beer, it's cool to be really skinny and the only exercise is chronic cardio on a road bike. Have them join Crossfit or move to a beach town when they're ready to date. I used to live in San Diego and people are built down there.
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