I just wondered how you deal with the social pressure to eat crap in situations where offending people is not a good idea (i.e., work). Yesterday we celebrated "Bosses Day" with mandatory cake...tomorrow we continue the celebration with pizza and chicken wings (ugh).
My boss loves to eat junk and made a big deal of asking me in front of everyone why I wasn't eating cake...I said it was because I have a problem with gluten (which is true, btw). Anyway, I am also doing intermittent fasting during the day, so this further complicates the issue...
Anyway, just wondered if anyone has figured out the best way to handle these food pushers that want everyone else to be fat and miserable like they are?
My answer is usually honest, but sarcastic: "Because I'm a health freak and that stuff will kill you." And then I make some kind of ultra-serious face. They usually laugh and say something about me being crazy and that is that.
Luckily, I work in an office and not at home, so I only really see this kind of crap when I travel for my job and have to go to meals with the people that I am visiting.
Whenever I am offered something I don't want, I usually just say, "no thanks, I'm good" or something to that affect. What I tend to notice is that if I say "well no, I don't eat grains, legumes, or dairy", people get REALLY defensive and will say shit like "well what exactly is wrong with grains?!?!" as if I just told them their mother was a whore or something.
People get REALLY defensive when you imply that something that they are doing isn't good/correct/positive/etc. When you say "well I don't..." that implies "I am somehow better than you because I can refuse this garbage", which in a sense is true, but again... people get defensive.
Most of the time a simple refusal works, but when people really are adamant about pushing, you need to know your shit to explain to them why. I find that once I start breaking out the science, people usually back the hell off. It's really sort of absurd that people give other people a hard time about what they eat/don't eat. Ultimately, we should only be concerned about ourselves.
This happened to me the other day..
My response: "I f@#king HATE cake! Gimme a godamn tequila shot and if we gona CELEBRATE!!!"
Personally I am a very open-minded person, but just a year ago before I found paleo if I had heard someone say something like "no thanks its junk food" or "I don't eat processed food" or "articifical blah" to avoid eating a communal food item, I would have almost certainly thought "what a weirdo health freak!" ... I think we need to remember just how benign most people think a slice of cake is, no different to eating a little extra at dinner or not exercising one day. I really try avoid looking like a health freak in all circumstances, it just isn't worth it in the long run when people bring it up or target you because of it (like ridiculing you infront of the whole office!).
Whenever I was offered non-paleo food, I took it and threw it on the ground!
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Something that we tend to forget around here is that barring major health issues, a bit of grain and sugar now and again won't kill you. Sharing meals is an important act for human beings. And acting like stereotypical vegans ordering a tofurkey sandwich at the local steakhouse is just plain wrong.
So in the situation you describe, I'd have a small slice of the boss's cake and not get fussed. I'm not gluten intolerant, and my diabetes (mild type II) has been so brutally whipped by nine months of Paleo that I can eat a pint of Haagen-Daz and barely break into the double digits mmol/L (I tested this, and it wasn't as much fun as expected and I haven't been tempted since). So I don't worry about eating the odd bit of crap now and again if there's a good social reason (such as not offending valued friends who've prepared a meal for me, not giving my boss the impression that I'm some sort of foodloon, etc) for doing so.
Why sweat the occasional small thing?
"Gluten and sugar make me sick." Sometimes simple is the way to go.
(Heh, if they demand elaboration, give'em TMI. IBS, toxic neverending farting, the runs...whatever's relevant that you can describe to make them wish they hadn't asked.)
Also, you have the tiny risk that if you DON'T actually get super sick short-term and occasionally indulge only for the highest quality treats, they'll happen to run into you at a fancy restaurant doing, say, your once-quarterly "actually worthwhile" cheat (say, gourmet flourless chocolate cake in honor of a birthday...instead of your boss' store-bought trans fat hot mess) - say goodbye to your cred.
Thus my advice is to use this line only if you mean it.
In social situations like you stated it is part of social thing to partake in the food. By not doing so you are not a team player. LOL! ACK! I would not point out or begin to do a sermon on paleo eating. Typically you do not come across too well. :) People are there to enjoy their food and if you point out why is bad, regardless if they agree you can come across as trying to be superior or making better choices. It makes the situation awkward and uncomfortable. You are sure a party downer. <<---- Ask me how I know. LOL! hehhehhee
A few options - I like your gluten intolerance OR just allergy - don't be specific so you don't end up with some gluten free - sugar laden food later. :)
See if you can save a piece for later - state you are not hungry and you are taking a piece to eat later?? depending on circumstances and just toss out when you can??
Or do the pretend to eat some and push around your plate as stated. Really depends on your environment and situation.
Or really sneaky and walk over to help clean up and grab a plate with crumbs?? ROFL!
Ask for permission and and a promise That you will tell them how to eat for a day,
Most people will back off after being frightened by the idea of YOU being in control of their food, not them!
Turnaound is fair play, right?
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