My boyfriend and I are going to be staying with his parents for just over a week at Easter. They are lovely people. BUT his dad is an ex marathon runner who now cycles hundreds of miles a week and survives on a diet of meat, veg, potatoes and a LOT of sugar and a belief in a lot of cardio. His mum is dairy free (eats soya alternatives) as she had cancer and after a lot of research at the time, went dairy free and is now thankfully cancer free and has been for many years - but is also a big advocate of lower fat, brown grain based products.
They know about us being primal but I think they find it hard to understand it properly and I don't want to offend them - how do I be polite, seem 'normal' and retain the great primal feeling i have from living primally at home without eating lots of things that will make me feel like crap and take me back to square one? IF isn't really an option as they will worry and think i've got some eating disorder or something - they think the primal is weird enough!
How would you cope? What would you do? Do you think eating a bit (i.e. accepting that cooking with olive oil is something I can't avoid) but avoid the real no nos i.e. wheat and excessive sugar, do slightly more cardio and take more omega 3 would help??
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
I definitely know what you mean! I would say, paradoxically, to take the focus off food as much as possible and put it onto the experiences during the trip and the relationships with the in-laws. I.e., focusing on day trips, or doing things together, and kind of letting the food be secondary. Otherwise it's so easy to end up fixating.
I think to set some clear limits for yourself - as you did, along the lines of no gluten and no giant desserts - and not sweating the small stuff might be the key. I'm influenced by the way Robb Wolf has talked about this kind of thing - that unless someone has a serious autoimmune condition, loosening up the reins now and then in some respects, particularly in social settings, is not the end of the world. I think there is a huge difference between making a few modest compromises and sliding back to square one.
Get what you can get. Meat, vegetables and potatoes work. We might gravitate towards the lower carb side of things but if you are just doing it for a week you can certainly eat potatoes if it is better than malnourishment or grains.
Here is what I would suggest--it sounds like they have their own dietary "regimen so-to-speak. And so they would likely be willing to understand and support your regimen as well. I would simply let them know which food in particular you wouldn't be able to eat and perhaps some suggestions that would work for the both of you (greens, lean meat...) as well as foods you are ok with. Offer to make the desert (so you can show them healthy and light CAN be delicious...)
Got the same thing about to happen-heading back to stay with my BF's family and friends Easter Week..straight SAD eaters,all of them.He even asked the obvious question last night:"what are you going to do about food?"(I'm celiac and corn intolerant).Just looks like a lot of fasting..
It sounds like both parents have made changes to their diets based on health and training adaptation.
If you can lay out how yours is slightly different from theirs and why, you might find new common ground at the table... A fine thing to have in possible family.
I'm also primal but in addition have several food allergies, people just dont understand these things unless they themselves are dealing with food issues. I deal with it by always bringing along plenty of snack options, bring fruit into the house, etc. and just tell people who might try to accommodate me, not to worry, I wont starve, theres always something for me to eat (it might not be what I want but there are options)
I think the more you make of it the harder it becomes, nothing worse than someone whose made an effort to make something for you that you still can't eat because of an allergy you didn't mention (sometimes the list is just too long to mention them all). Or tells you afterwords when you've noticed some corn element or something you shouldn't have, that not to worry, its just a little bit. (as you run out of the room to get your epi pens or head to the ER)
Definitely bring a sense of humor but go as prepared as you can!! (consider ordering things online and having them arrive a day before you get there....order a special something for them as well!!)
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