Hi! its interesting to read your post because I was there a few months ago...and I get everything you are staying as well, been there!! So let me share my experience because I think they are very similar....I was starting to get panicky after 1 mo for the some reason, so i started reading all the sites and trying to find some sort of 'method' of understanding....Basically i figured out that i was stressing over something that i wanted to have more control over....and trust me, it doesn't help. you probably just need to wrap your mind around this way of eating and understand that the payoff comes slowly and you'll see the results when you least expect it. So be careful not to derail yourself, you are doing great!!
Here is what happened with me......
I also lost about 8 lbs the first week or two...then it was like nothing was happening. But I hung in there and slowly but surely weight started coming off....and I do mean slowly! it was even impossible to see it on the scale, so i just hung in there. But after about 1 - 2 months I was somehow down about 15 lbs. You can't weight yourself daily because the weight loss is so small you dont see it. Just take your measurements and track your food and about every 2 wks I weigh in and remeasure. I have seen 2+inch losses across all areas. (your weight will go up and down, this is normal....its when it goes up and doesn't stop you need to worry)
I also tinkered with calories and exercise, but it took a while to figure out what works for me. I also couldn't do the IF for several months, its just too hard when your doing something new. I'd suggest you wait until you are 'ready' ....you'll know--don't add more pressure to yourself, you aren't ready for it yet. And then, start small, IF from a late lunch one day to a late breakfast the next....push for those 18 hours....that was the easiest for me. But I also dont find that IF helps me, what helped me, after someone else suggested, is to one day eat very low calories, then the next eat more, so basically I'm tinkering with my metabolism. I recently dropped my carbs to less than 50g day...before i was between 50-80g per day, I was still loosing but at a turtles pace. Dropping it slightly helped a little bit and am shedding inches now.
I do think your calories are a bit high as well. I also started really high based on what the sites came up for me with BMI etc. then i stalled, so I reduced about another 3-500 from that number.....but remember, you should NEVER starve yourself. Because I also eat about 50% fat I literally dont feel hungry. And I'm eating less now as my stomach seems to be getting smaller over time. I love to eat, this has always been my problem, good food!! I still love to eat, I'm just more particular about what I consume, making it worth every bite!
I am now 3 months primal and all my clothes are falling off me, I feel clearer minded as well, and this just happened about 15-30 days ago. I didn't realize that I was so cloudy until recently feeling the difference.
I personally am not big into exercise because I tend to bulk up so I just keep moving all day long, i try to include sprints every 2 wks, but that doesn't always happen. perhaps Id loose more doing it weekly but i know how i am.
so the best advice is to remember to remove all the bad foods, take in the right kinds of fats and stick with it and dont worry so much about weight just yet. I promise you that it will drop off in inches, you will notice it more in another month. Its too early to give up, so hang in there and stick it out. I had to become very aware of every calorie i was consuming, use fitday.com, its awesome and shows you what you are consuming in calories/grams and %. I never counted calories before so i had no idea how easy it was to over consume, even of the good stuff!! I never deprive myself but I stay as far away from sugar, processed foods and make good choices, so when I want a glass of wine, i have it! (same with chocolate)
I'm only 5'2 and started in January at 145 (my highest ever!!), and now at 125. I still need to loose another 10lbs of fat to have that leaner look....this is the slowest I've ever lost weight but I'm starting to think that its probably the best way and healthiest. I think I look leaner even now and so the loose looks even greater because of it.
hope this helps! I know these people give awesome advice as well so hang in there!!!