I went paleo a couple of months ago, and my wife did not. This has caused a little bit of friction in that, on the rare occasion that she cooks instead of me, she doesn’t cook anything I can eat. This is not of spite or lack of support for my dietary decisions, but more that she just doesn’t know what is “paleo.” She tried to go paleo with me, but never made it more than a week. She just couldn’t kick sweets, and she never bothered to learn what was paleo or paleo-ish (so if I want there to cook for her, she’d opt for pizza or similar.)
I dropped about 10 lbs in the first 2 months without complying too strictly to the diet (I think a big part of this is water weight from the dramatically reduced salt intake) and I feel so good. I feel like I look like I’ve lost weight, (even if I haven’t actually lost as much as I feel like I have.) My wife has even commented that she thinks I look better, both physically and in spirit. Then she starts complaining about how she feels bad, and she needs to lose weight. This is usually while eating a half-pint of ice cream, or some cup cakes. She seems interested in the health benefits of paleo, and she’s jealous that I lost weight and changed literally nothing except for my diet, she even loves the meals I prepare (all paleo) but yet she still won’t commit.
For 6 months before our wedding, she tried almost every crazy, fad diet in the book… all for 3 or 4 days. She just couldn’t stick to anything. Most of the time I was happy that she stopped trying them. The HCG 500 calorie per day diet was just stupid. So was her decision to eat nothing but fruit, or to subsist on liquid foods like Ensure. Each time the result was the same, and she never lost any weight. These diets were coupled with an attempt to do 3- 6 hours of cardio DAILY at the gym. But with each failure she seemed to take it harder until she finally declared the she just couldn’t lose weight – it was impossible. Now her spirit seems broken with this regard, and she hates her body.
She used to be a very driven, very in shape and active person. And I know that if she were to stick with paleo for even 2 weeks she’d start to see the kind of results she wants, and she’d feel so much better. Have any of you out there managed to help someone overcome themselves and finally “buy in” long enough to see it work? I’m turning to you, PaleoHack. Any suggestions on how to get her to do this with me?
FWIW, I DO feel like a jerk for posting a “how do I get my wife to get skinny again” post :)