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You know those days when all the news seems bad? Everything is just not coming up roses - and it's so easy to dwell on the negatives. What do you do to get out of it?

Special meal?

Special activities?

Etc...

And I'm not talking depression here, just a sad day.

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I revert to thinking positively about everything in my life. I try to find the silver lining in every black cloud – The Quilt Jun 16 2011 at 22:20
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Bourbon and Music do it for me. – MF Jun 17 2011 at 3:52

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I have two favorite go-to options for gray days:

1) I call my best girlfriend in Eureka and tell her I feel like poopdoody. She's so good at getting my mind off myself that I'd share her number if I could, but she'd kill me. Probably. (But just as likely she'd love to hear from y'all.)

2) I put on some Parliament Funkadelic and dance my ass off.

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Ok Rose, if you listen to Parliament then I am definitely coming up there to Eugene to see you this Summer. Upvoted on the basis of that alone. – Thomas Seay Jun 16 2011 at 21:37
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Poop doody ....I love it! – baconbitch Jun 16 2011 at 21:39
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Give me the funk, the whole funk, and nothing but the funk! – Thomas Seay Jun 16 2011 at 21:41
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Dancing always helps! Gaga always makes me feel triumphant. – gone2croatan Jun 16 2011 at 21:49
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i love thta you answered my 'funk' with more funk! – Thumper Jun 16 2011 at 23:21
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I visit my parents, who live about 45 minutes away. I have a great relationship with them. They're easy to talk to and the change of scenery to a place that has good memories attached and lots of beautiful green space (they live in verdant suburbs; I'm in the city).

I've also road-tripped to friends in nearby towns, or even flown to visit folks.

Reconnecting with my little tribe, the ones who love me best. That helps.

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I go outside and play.

I really don't mean that to sound trite... I find that outside reminds me of who I am, what I am, and my place in the world. Find something you love to do. Run. Bike. Skate. Walk. Frisbee. Play with dog. Watch other people play with dog. Run after dog while chasing frisbees.

Or just sit and feel the sun on your face.

Works almost every time.

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Don't know if you're in vancouver like me (noticed u r from west coast), but it's definitely not fun watching the news today! (oops this was supposed to be a comment not an answer, I blame my iPhone)

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My best thoughts are with you and the other poor, bewildered, non-DBs of Vancouver. – gone2croatan Jun 16 2011 at 21:10
Hey Primalist - i'm from victoria - ya total bs in vancouver last night - so sad, especially after such a great season and playoffs. It's definitely part of what is making me sad today - i've always been such a proud canadian and proud west-coaster and this garbage just makes me sad. – Thumper Jun 16 2011 at 21:12
on the up side- you have totally taken the title of "best hockey riot town" from Montreal. was that in bad taste? can you tell i'm from toronto? but seriously, it was a good run and it so sucks that idiots take advantage of a sporting event to vandalize. – sage_ Jun 17 2011 at 0:37
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I get outside and garden. Even a few minutes outdoors getting dirty makes me feel like everything it going to be alright.

I also like to go for a good barefoot run. Preferably in the redwoods.

Also, like gone2croatan, I go to visit my parents. They live on 40 acres of land that my mom has sculpted into a veritable permaculture Eden. I love to have coffee with them and rant about impending doom and total societal collapse, pick blackberries, pears, acorns, and bay nuts from their property, cook a meal together... I always leave feeling recharged and hopeful (despite our conversations and my father's very lovable survivalist "doomer" disposition. ;)

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Our folks sound very much alike. :) – gone2croatan Jun 16 2011 at 21:29
up vated for bare feet! – sage_ Jun 17 2011 at 0:38
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When things are dark it helps me to help someone. Maybe a few minutes helping someone with homework or even something as simple as earnest complent to ten people. It always makes the world seem a little less brutal.

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Well, I don't know if you're upset about the loss, the fire, or both, but it's all over with and there is nothing you can do about it now. So, kick back, put on your favorite music and reach for that container of Haagen-Dazs. Be happy that you live in such a beautiful place. Imagine what it would be like to live in Cleveland. That's what I would do.

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Thanks Thomas - I wish it was just the whole hockey stuff thats wrong - but that's just one external thing that's adding to my 'funk'. But I think I just may have to go and get some ice cream - and probably some wine tonight ;) – Thumper Jun 16 2011 at 21:31
There you go! That should do the trick. – Thomas Seay Jun 16 2011 at 21:38
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Cleveland is actually pretty happy right now that King James choked. They're STILL talking about it. – StephNY Jun 17 2011 at 12:15
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Just like rose I pump up the music...usually upbeat 80s tunes or horrible bubblegum pop from my early teen Yeats because it makes me think of all the fun and stupid stuff I did. Then I conduct a massive cleaning project. The act of cleaning makes me feel accomplished and in control and also puts my mind in order.

So turn on some Debbie Gibson, throw open the windows and clean out the fridge:)

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Cleaning makes me feel better too! – kinetic Jun 16 2011 at 23:36
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To each his own. The thought of cleaning will plunge me into the deepest of funks. – Thomas Seay Jun 17 2011 at 0:23
My father did a deep clean every Saturday and to this day Windex is a heavenly smell. But I'm ocd... – baconbitch Jun 17 2011 at 0:42
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I've ALWAYS used cleaning as a 'get to center' kind of thing. It's exactly as BB said, cleaning lets you see progress and you feel in control. – Deborah105 Jun 17 2011 at 11:00
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i like to look at the sky. we are fortunate to be able to see that colour of blue during the day and the full moon at night- its so good it makes me cry.

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Pump up the volume - metal/rock/punk does it for me, Rammstein, Metallica, Iron Maiden, Green Day, Stone Sour, Alter Bridge... Or, occasionally, I'll go the other extreme and wind down with Clannad, Pink Floyd, Judie Tzuke etc.

If it's really bad then I take it out on my guitar playing much as mentioned above, or Rock Band drums :)

Basically, just do something you like. Go for a walk/run/cycle in the sun (or rain for that matter) in the park, or woods, by the river, wherever. Or take time to play with your children (especially if they're young).

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Great musical taste!! Just add in Linkin Park and of course Queens of the Stone Age :) – queen of the stone age Jun 17 2011 at 15:50
Have no problem with those either. I have diverse and eclectic tastes, from classic stuff (AC/DC, Yes, Hendrix...) to modern (BFMV, Trivium), pop/punk/emo to Celtic folk, and dubstep to musicals/classical. But at heart I'm a metalhead :) – OldBear Jun 17 2011 at 16:11
Huge BFMV fan. Was in heaven despite the foul weather last Sunday when BFMV played the main stage at Download just before Linkin park headlined. Also looking forward to Leeds festival in August with The Blackout, Deftones, 30 Seconds To Mars and My Chemical Romance. And Papa Roach in July. A good summer for metalheads in the UK!! – queen of the stone age Jun 18 2011 at 16:33
Indeed. Maiden at the O2 in August :) – OldBear Jun 19 2011 at 11:18
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Like so many others here, music is the thing that turns my mood around.

Some days I like to revel just a bit in my mood. Any of you guys do that? Must be my darkish nature. I kinda dig on the gray days and gray moods.

Hmm . . . I'll have to think about that longer!

And like OldBear, Rock Bank really turns moods around!

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Get outside. Even in mediocre weather. Garden, exercise, or just walk around. It is pretty hard to me to stay in a bad mood, or the same mood, after a 30-60 minute break outside.

Longer term, I found that Vitamin D has a miraculous effect on my moods, especially in the winter months. I have very few "blah" days after starting that supplement.

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