Yesterday, after being rebuffed by my wife after asking for a piece of candy, my 6yo son said "Mom, I don't really feel like eating Paleo today". First of all, when she told me that I laughed. Then I got to thinking about the attitude I've taken towards food and how I eat myself (I'm 5 days from completing a full 30 days of Paleo) and how HE looks at that. How old are your kids and when have you had "the talk" with them about the foods they eat?
Mine are 27, 24, 21, 19 and 16; the 16-year-old is the only one left at home, so he's the one who has been "forced" into the diet - at home, he eats what we feed him. He's also the one who "gets" it the most - I swear if that kid has watched Fat Head once, he's watched it 10 times. He refuses to eat from the school cafeteria; his friends think he's beyond weird because he reads labels ("Mom, why do they put corn starch in MILK??"), has largely given up soft drinks and brings his own lunch every day, which consists of hormone/additive/nitrate-free meat on sprouted wheat bread, raw milk cheese, fresh fruit and raw vegetables. This kid is also thin, lean and has washboard abs - all without exercising.
The 19-year-old went through the idealistic "vegetarian" phase for a couple of years, but has now begun incorporating meats back into her diet and has all but given up the refined carbs - apparently the "Freshman 15" was a rude awakening. She's fairly receptive to our diet, since she is on a mission to save the world these days. :) She's also thin and lean.
The rest of the kids? Yeah, well. The oldest objects to our diet because it's "too dogmatic" (he's also a bachelor who lives on beer and pizza and works two jobs). He's not fat, but he's not lean, either (he lives in the city and walks nearly everywhere). The 24 year old loves to cook and lives with a man who thinks every meal should include meat and starch and eschews most vegetables. She bakes a lot. They are very sedentary and on a tight budget; she understands why we eat the way we do, but is unwilling to make changes to her own diet. She is overweight - significantly so. The 21 year old is an extremely picky eater and eats a LOT of industrial, refined carbohydrates, and has no interest in our diet for her own sake. Oddly enough, she is very vigilant about her 20-month-old's diet, and has no problem adopting out diet for him. She's thin, but not lean, and has the kind of figure where you know she's going to be fighting her weight when she gets into her 30s, if not sooner.
I guess this is a way to say, "We've met with mixed success." LOL
My 13 year old daughter had to understand the science, AND see what it did to her directly to accept it.
I had to enforce it. (completely eliminate EVERYTHING from my home)
The Cravings went away... when we were at home... but confronted with those "comfort" foods, there is a distinct psychological trigger to times when those foods were associated with pleasant feelings, regardless of what was actually going on.
Now she abstains most of the time, because she enjoys her newfound weight and newfound athleticism and doesnt want to jeopardize either... I still worry sometimes about what will happen when she moves out.
She does have her processed food snacks sometimes when out with friends... I dont want to make her a social pariah, but she always regrets it, so I hope, long term she will stick with it.
It was probably a year of eating this way with me before it became HER idea to keep eating this way.
Stick with it... theres alot of years of bad eating that need to be overcome first.
Cooking incredible tasting Paleo food is the best thing you can do to ensue they come over to the Light.
My daughters (11 & 14) just ran across an old picture of me and remarked "Wow, you were really fat!". I'm still fat, just 40# less fat than a few years ago. They still eat what they want, which is mostly crap that mom feeds them, but the influence is there.
For my birthday last month, my older daughter had a tshirt custom made:
Front: "Got Meat?"
Back: "Go Paleo" with a big picture of a ribeye steak.
It came in the wrong size, so now we both have one and she's been sleeping in hers.
Mine are 10, 13 & 14. I have mixed bag, they are starting to understand, but when they have a chance to indulge in anything non paleo--they do. Like at friends and school. I have been eating and preaching paleo to them for about 1 1/2.years, so they lived a long tine eating a lot of grains before that...which I thought were good for them. That is the hardest part to break for them. My husband is not paleo--so that does not help. He buys bread and serves them pancakes when he gets a chance. All I can do is live day by day, giving them my healthy food and hope they "get it!"
My daughter thinks I am obsessed with food and fitness and so does my husband. I've spent most of her life working on going from obese to fit. She does not remember my obese years, she's 9 and I started working on losing weight when she was 2. She does see pictures of me when I was obese and she'll mention that once in awhile.
You have all heard me complain about my MIL (she and my FIL live with us) and that she is in charge of my daughter's food more often than I am. My husband still eats SAD and isn't willing to argue my points with his mother at all.
So, my daughter thinks I'm crazy. She knows that I am healthier now. I just transitioned off my high blood pressure medication and water pills that I had been taking since her birth. That was a big source of discussion while I was working on it.
My biggest goal is to make sure she doesn't end up with an eating disorder. I worry that my focus on fitness and nutrition will push her into rebelling against ~me~ by going against what matter most to me. I know I started eating to piss off my skinny mom and that ballooned into my own binge eating issues.
I try to talk openly and honestly with her about my food choices and why they are important, but right now she just doesn't GET IT. She likes crap food. It tastes good. I hope as she gets older and more image conscious that she'll learn to come to me for advice and to trust that I will tell her what's best for her.
My boys (both mid-late teens) and wife are non-paleo, whilst I have been following the path for a couple of months or so now. All tuck away the usual modern fare - doughnuts, brioche rolls, bread, pasta, etc., and the boys can be quite picky about what meat/fish they eat. Having said that, none of them stuff themselves and all eat fairly small meals often leaving food on the plate.
I have tried to explain why I am following the route that I am and the boys seem to be more accepting of it than my wife (who downright refuses to believe that any of it is healthy - too much fat and no grains...). Unfortunately, this situation is unlikely to change unless the boys instigate it because my wife does most of the cooking (admittedly, all home cooked, with fresh ingredients - and very nice it is to). This is due to my having to work fairly long hours so, waiting for me to get home and cook would mean nobody eating until about 9pm.
They also understand that I am trying to get healthier and lose weight (often had comments from the younger one about that!) so they have just accepted that that is what Dad is doing.
Mine just reminds me "daddy - you can't eat grains!" (pronounced "GWAINS") when we go out to eat. He is 6 years old. I've made paleo-fare for him but we have a hard time working within the public school system and grandparents.
Mine are both out of the house house but the younger one comes home from college; she eats similarly naturally and is tiney tiny. She actually says our generation is obsessed with weight (she's so right!!!) If I think back to all my friends from High school to present its full of binging, anorexia, plastic surgery, lots of fad diets (not necessarily including myself in those).
I'm glad I at least taught her how to eat right even though I wasn't doing it myself until recently!!
My 17 year old loves his noodles but apart from those doesn't eat too much in the way of junk. He'll pretty much eat what he's given without thinking about it too much one way or the other. It will be interesting to see what he ends up living on when he starts Uni in September. My 16 year old is on an anti-vegan/vegetarian crusade and has made herself a 'wheat is murder' t-shirt and is also making some paleo flyers to hand out at an anarchist book fair she is going to soon (they have advertised that there will be a vegan cafe at the event!). She is much more into the politics and the ethics of it than the health issues which is basically because she doesn't have any.
My son thinks my paleo way of eating is clueless. He keeps urging me to eat rice (rice?), and makes it clear I am badly and dangerously misinformed. I am pretty sure I can run circles around him (he's a grown young man, but sedentary- I'm a 50 something mom), and I'm pretty sure he knows it, but that doesn't seem to have any effect on him. He likes kombucha, vitamins, krill oil, steak, french fries, cookies, and Natural Calm. So at least some of it has rubbed off.
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