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How do you handle family/friends that do not follow the paleo/primal lifestyle? My strategy has been to let the results speak for themselves, but that has become more and more difficult. People are impressed when my fiancé tells them that eating this way has cured her GURD and IBS, but the second she goes into details about the diet and not eating grains, they immediately dismiss the results.

The usual questions I get are about grains and fiber. I can talk about all the studies, give them documentaries or books, point them to the various blogs, but is it worth it?

How does everyone else deal with these situations or do you simply not worry about it?

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I just wanted to mention that I was recently traveling and as usual, it can be hard to eat correctly (I was on a sailboat) and while I brought my grass-fed beef on board, and was able to obtain fresh caught salmon I ALSO ate the grains they brought when low on provisions. I had some veggies & fruit. I ate too much processed foods like bread, crackers, chips, & rice.(I usually never or rarely eat) now I am PAYING for it. I have a cold for the first time in four years! First thing I bought in port was Coconut Oil...Yum – FanOfSunshine Jul 17 2010 at 20:00

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The first thing that I do in these kind of situations -- presenting non standard ideas, bryceb, is to determine whether the curious questioner is really asking a question or making a statement disguised as a question. If it's the later, I just quit, because he really doesn't want to find out anything. He just wants to tell you you're wrong -- because you're not doing what he wants you to. There's no way to discuss anything new under those conditions.

Ha! I just looked up, and Acton said the same thing :-)

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That reminds me of a Nicholas Taleb maxim: You can only convince those persons who can benefit from being convinced. – sarah-ann Apr 26 2010 at 16:12
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For what purpose? If others are skeptical or apathetic, don't make their choices your business. As much as it hurts to see people you care about making mistakes, often there's nothing you can or should do about it.

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I think it's curious that you tagged this question with "evangelism" because you are essentially talking about "making disciples" or not, right?

If people are genuinely curious and interested, then I suggest that you invite them over to cook and eat with you. Once they see that paleo meals can be delicious and satisfying, they might begin to want to know more. Then you can give them reading materials that confirm that the yummy meal was indeed healthy! But ultimately, I find that offering paleo food that's tasty and satisfying is the best first course of action. Then hit them with the research.

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Yes, interesting question. We have this problem in our family. Step-daughter has what we believe to be Chronic Pain Syndrome, yet will do NOTHING but take drugs to try to manage. She will not even entertain the notion that ketogenic diets do, indeed, have an effect on migraine, and other problems that she has. Can't go there anymore. It's a waste of our time, even though she can see our results. To make matters worse, her "religion" says to eat grains in abundance and meat sparingly. Oy!

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My allergist once told me that he was really impressed that I don't eat the foods I'm allergic to. He said the vast majority of his patients know what these things do to them, but they just can't manage to not eat them! Major dietary changes is simply out of most people's purview. – Kim Apr 27 2010 at 23:10
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I tell them that this is what works for me, and explain all the changes I've experienced. However, I also tell them that it's not for everyone. If you do it wrong or half-way, you can really end up damaging yourself. I point them to some of the excellent resources on the web that will help them get started in the same way I did.

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I've learned to just say that I'm on a doctor prescribed diet. If they ask for details I tell them no processed foods and no grains. (This is actually true, as one of my docs is Dr Westman) Hearing it's MD prescribed seems to limit the criticism. What I get most often is...."oh do you have celiac" and when I say no, I sometimes get confused looks.

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I think it's extremely important that we remember to respect the lifestyle decisions of others. It's natural to want to tell the whole world about this amazing new lifestyle we've found and how much better we feel and how YOU can do this too! It's one thing if people ask about your diet and you respectfully explain how you've changed your eating, etc. Otherwise, I say just don't talk about it. And I live with two vegetarians. If they ever ask, I'll tell them. But for now, whatevs. Different strokes for different folks.

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I have found it is slippery slope that can get you into preachy waters quick. I usually just show the results and point to the websites. If they come back a good talk begins.

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No one here is interested in doing without carbs. I make the simple statement that I cut out all carbs and their faces go blank. I just do my thing and let them continue doing their thing.

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If I sense the person has a genuine interest and will listen with an open mind, I will carefully explain why I eat the way I do. To those who ask but are closed minded or just think I'm weird I say I eat this way because it's a religious choice. Then when they ask what religion I say "Atheist".

Trying to convert others is a no-win situation. Take responsibility for your own choices and lead by example. Most people just aren't interested in a thoughful approach to diet and exercise (or a thoughtful approach to anything for that matter).

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