Obviously I'm running this through my ignorant, modern-Western paradigm of beauty, but it's something I noticed a while ago. Gay men are generally in better shape than their heterosexual counterparts of the same age. Is it because men are inherently judgmental of their partners' physique and when you take 2 men together, that judgment becomes even more apparent and pronounced? They also seem to have really good skin, but I think that can be chalked up to their fabulous spa/resort-frequenting lifestyle and all those bathhouses, which leave their pores squeaky clean.
And even when they're not in the best shape or have superior skin, something about the homosexual face structure produces more gay '10s' than straight '10s.' What's up with that?!
The gay community keeps the uglies and fatties in the closet. There's a lot of discrimination in gay circles based on appearance and a very narrow definition of beauty. You either need to be a an A&F type or a bear type - anything in between is just weird and undesirable - despite most people being average looking (hence the term, average looking).
food for thought.
im feeling this is just an observer bais... ie you simply assume all the fat and bald guys you see are straight, the only ones you notice are the ones who are in shape/stylish/frilly(obviously gay) - a look which you desire. feeling this is almost a form of positive racism ... 'all those gays go to spas frequently and stay in shape/dress well.'.
im pretty sure i saw a statistic online that something like 75% of lesbians are obese.... although im sure many men are under the assumption lesbians are hot. and beyond that how could you even come up with statistics on something like that, or on something so relatively subjective.
Lol, I see where you're coming from
Disclaimer: I'm totally down with gay men (and women). I have a gay brother, many gay friends and work in a field with lots of homosexuality. Love is love!
Anyway, I think it's a matter of many gay men being more concerned with their appearance in general. For instance, many of the gay men I know are extremely in tune with their skin regimen, eyebrow waxes, etc, like women. Glowing, blemish-free skin and well-groomed facial hair makes a HUGE difference in the look of the face. I know I look very different if I'm breaking out and haven't had my eyebrows done in a month vs when my skin's looking good and I have a fresh eyebrow wax. I think the fact that they have nicer skin just comes down to skincare. How many straight men do you know that regularly exfoliate, moisturize, etc. For instance, my dad, who works pretty high up in the corporate world, wears nice suits, gets expensive haircuts, etc. But his skin has bad sun damage, and he has never really taken care of it, even though he's the kind of guy who wears expensive cologne and meticulously shaves his mustache. My brother, in his late twenties, on the other hand, gets occasional facials, uses multiple expensive face cleansers on different days of the week and get his eyebrows done every few weeks. So even straight men that do care about their appearance (my dad's certainly not some gross slob) tend to just not put in the same effort as many gay men and straight (or gay) women