Hi all, this is my first post so I just wanted to say what a great resource this is first of all; sharing all your experiences and knowledge is an amazing resource for others. I've tried looking around the archives as much as possible, but couldn't find anything specific on this topic so thought to raise it as an interesting question:
My wife and I would both like to live a healthier, more natural lifestyle, the problem being that I'm a hardgainer (as far as I know from experience) and she's pretty much the exact opposite. How can we tailor going Paleo (Paleo-like) to change our lifestyle as a couple? Further details below, and sorry if it's a bit long - I'm not sure of the protocol and trying to give as much detail as possible for those happy to give advice.
I'm 5'10" or so and currently just under 63kg (approx 138 pounds), whilst my wife is 5'7" and around 75kg (165 pounds) or just over. I come from a background of martial arts training, gymnastics and general outdoor physical activity since my youth, though have not trained regularly in anything for the last 6 years besides regularly walking to work etc. and jogging every now and then with my wife. Over the years (I'm 31 now), I've tried all manner of training to gain muscle weight healthily with little success. I definitely became stronger, but my weight only increased by a few kilos. The heaviest I have ever weighed was about 67kg (147 pounds).
My wife, on the other hand, is a fitness fanatic and regularly hits the gym for circuit training, spin bike etc. Since her teens she has almost always either been on a "diet", or watching what she eats. For a time she also counted calories religiously and did manage to lose a little weight, but achieved it at the expense of having a healthy lifestlye so wants to avoid that. Although not formally diagnosed, she also has many symptoms of PCOS (a little facial hair, extremely painful periods etc.) and currently takes an oral contraceptive pill to manage it. Originally we thought her using the pill might be causing 'water retention' and explain why she's not shifting the weight even though regularly working out hard and eating fresh food as much as possible etc., but I'm now wondering if it's simply a side-effect of PCOS itself. There's simply no way that someone who eats little junk and works out 5 days per week for an hour each time shouldn't lose weight - and in some cases she's also gained slightly! She also has noticed that she experiences highs and lows when it comes to eating foods with sugar.
So, back to my question: How best to transform our lifestyle as a couple towards a Paleo approach? I am worried that my metabolism is so fast that I need more carb-based foods, whilst for her, if she even looks at a slice of bread she gains weight. We basically do all of our own cooking from fresh foods, eating out from time to time but nothing too processed. Due to our background, our diet is very Mediterannean and Middle Eastern, but not exclusively so.
For myself, my aim would be to try and gain strength and functional muscle; I'm very interested in bodyweight systems and free-weights and prefer training at home/outside to in a gym with all of its machinery etc. My wife is interested in retaining/building on her strength and endurance but simply slimming down and becoming more toned. We're wondering if a Paleo-type system can help us both achieve our goals, though are 'new' to the whole thing.
Sorry for the length, but I'm just trying to give as much detail as possible after noticing requests for more information on other posts. :)
Thanks for reading!