I'm having a hard time telling myself no when it comes to grains. My kids make cake and I want "just one bite" or I make them Alfredo and I have to leave the room while they eat it and make sure to throw the leftovers away right away so I don't eat them. It seems like the fridge is my only "safe zone" I keep nothing I can't eat in there. It's my go to when I'm hungry. But I cant seem to get a grip on the snacks left out. Does anyone have any useful ways for a beginner like me to say NO to myself and to overcome this bad habit and cravings?
I heard on a podcast that you can break a bad habit by simply interupting it each time you feel temptation.
The example given was, each time that you want a non-paleo food simply do 10 pushups and if after that interupt you still want the item then go ahead and eat it. After a period of time you will find non-paleo foods less and less appealing as you begin to assosiate it with the initial pushups more than the reward of the food.
That obviously is not the only way it can be done, but the point was just put some steps between you and the undesired outcome. Either way you will have to exhibit some form of self control in actually doing the action each time. Personally I find that after I educate myself on the downsides of a specific habit, I find it far easier to avoid the action. I'm not terribly impulsive though.
Here's my trick:
I tell myself I can have it in 30 minutes if I still want it. Then I get busy doing something else OUT of the kitchen. If, after 30 minutes I think I still want it, I try to put it off for another 30. If it's close to bedtime, I just brush my teeth and go to bed early. Sometimes, I STILL want the thing really badly after that time so I have a bite or two. And then move on with my life. I don't want to let it have total power over me.
It gets easier as long as you turn it into a habbit. The hard part is catching yourself when you're about to make a mistake. Thinking "Oh, that doughnut looks tasy" and answering immediately with "Oh yeah? Watch me NOT eat it" and walk away from it.
At first it's hard, but the more you do it, the more will power you gain. Over time, as you realize those items are damaging to your health and cause you hurt, you'll stop recognizing them as food, and people who eat them will seem as weird as people who would try to eat a bar of soap, or a rock.
After about a year or even less for some, the problem just goes away.
I hate to say this, but there are substitutes out there. You can make cake with almond/rice/coconut flour, and there are other types of noodles than from grains out there. Those types of high carb or nut flour foods will absolutely stall or reverse fat loss, but at least they won't damage your health to as great an extent.
Thank you for all of the great ideas. I can't wait to try them and see which ones work best for me. I've taken the whole I'll have just one bite approach but that often triggers the craving and it turns into me devouring the entire thing. I must say this has got to be the most helpful website yet that I've come across. You guys are simply amazing!
Instead of depriving yourself, make a healthy paleo tread like coconut flour based cake. Instead of having pasta with the alfredo sauce, have it with sauteed spinach or spaghetti squash (one of my favorites). Try substituting unhealthy ingredients with healthy ingredients. It's not about deprivation, it's about health-ifying old recipes.
I have a very hard time just having one bite - it always turns into a gorge-fest. So if I find myself wanting something that I know I really shouldn't eat, I remind myself that "I want to be proud of myself." If I leave a party not having had any chocolate chip cookies, or pass the office kitchen and all of the donuts inside, I feel great and strong, and I just remember that I want to keep that feeling going for as long as I can.
Its all about choice. I am a Coeliac so gluten is a big no no. However that doesn't mean I don't feel hugely deprived when the family have something I can't. What I've learnt to do is see it as a choice. I can choose to eat the gluten and feel rotton/throw up/feel ill for two days after or I can choose to feel healthy and pick something gluten free.
I replace it with other high-satisfaction "yes" foods, like a spoonful of almond butter. Over time, those cravings wane, so it's not like I'm downing tons of almond butter. I also am back on the wagon (Whole 30, day 29!) after several months of eating what was, for me, really poorly. I went to the doctor and my thyroid was totally out of whack again, my cholesterol had shot through the roof, and I had gained over 10 lbs. That's been enough to motivate me this time around.
Don't keep it in the house. If it isn't good for your health then it shouldn't be something for your kids to eat at home. If they want to eat that way they can do it when you aren't around, at school or friends homes. Our house is mostly clean of junk, but I wouldn't eat it anyway as I've finally overcome!
I once went through that same thing! It really is awful but there are ways to overcome it. These are the ways I used when I couldn't stifle grain cravings:
1: You can buuuuuut . . .
This is the starter way. If you're just getting onto paleo but you just can't go cold turkey, give this a shot; Tell yourself that you CAN have just a bite of something but you don't NEED it. And that, if you do, you'll have to go bike or run for 20 minutes. I may be crazy but telling myself these things usually worked for me and made me decide against my cravings. YOU have the power.
2: Have this instead!
Whenever I get a craving and I know that I shouldn't, no matter how good the food looks, I just substitute it! For instance, if you're having a craving for just one slice of pie, have a handful of raisins instead! Or maybe a diet soda. If you're distracting yourself with a different food then you aren't going to crave the other thing anymore.
And finally . . .
3. SUBSTITUE FOOD
No matter how sweet that plum pie smells, or how yummy that apple tart is, you can ALWAYS bake paleo substitutes. If you are really craving a specific food (For me, cookies! ALL THE TIME I want COOKIES!), Then just google a paleo recipe for that food. Paleo desserts are not that different from the real things and you'll get used to the taste and start craving those instead (Which is fine since they're healthier).
And if none of this works, just try going cold turkey. lol
Hope this helps!
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