If I see an attractive woman eating a corn dog I grow repulsed. It's merely an involuntary response that is impossible for me to filter. I think such reactions show on my face so I can't hide it.
For me, I've grown really picky about the ladies I date. Since going Paleo I tend to pick out health-conscious dates/mates who are interested in optimizing their health.
I feel like it's difficult to enhance the life of someone if you are operating in a negative energy balance. Those types tend to drag down other people over time and they can make lame partners.
I want someone who generates energy so that we can both make life better for each other. Without proper diet, relationship (or family for that matter) seems like a precarious proposition.
How do you feel about this?
As a single female in my mid-twenties, I have to say that although I would not judge someone for not eating paleo, it is just so much more attractive to have someone who is health conscious. However, in my life, not just looking for someone to date, but for a relationship, if there's one thing that I've learned, it's that you have to take someone for where they are at, not for where you want them to be. If I were dating someone who refused to eat paleo or another health conscious way, I could not foresee that relationship going anywhere. Although I've only been eating paleo for 4 months, it has become and incredibly important part of my life and I'm very passionate about it. It would be difficult to be in a relationship with someone who does not share that passion.
This question is slightly biased. I'm fat, but eat healthy food (at least most of the time). I have some pretty hot friends who eat a bunch of crap, don't work out, and are totally hot. I have another friend who's bulky, but not fat, gets lots of exercise, and is open minded with eating Paleo but will generally eat anything someone puts in front of her, and peanut butter is arguably her favorite food.
Who would you choose? Or would you look elsewhere? Do you want someone smart and strong-willed and determined that grains are good for her, or someone who's dumb and weak and will do whatever you tell her? There is so much more than their current diet you should be looking at.
I agree, the corndog implies that she doesn't seem to give a crap about her health. But would a Vegan be better?
I would suggest looking for someone you connect with, and if that connection includes a passion for health, then great!
I was striving to be healthy when I met my husband. I knew he was a fast food junky when I married him, and while I hated it, I loved so many other things about him enough to deal with it and health-wash him later.
When I met my husband, I was 20, he was 19 and on leave from the Marines. I smoked, he used copenhagen and we both drank socially, ate shitty food and were very typical young people in the early 90's. Having now been married for 18 years we've both quit tobacco, we've had a child, he's survived cancer, we're both more health conscious now, eat better, exercise and I can honestly say that there has never been at any point in our relationship, anything he's done that made me feel repulsed by him.
If at this point in my life if I found myself single, I can't say for sure whether or not I would judge someone by what they eat or may eat on occasion.
My current boyfriend naturally eats a very low carb/no processed food diet even though he's always been thin and healthy. His viewpoint on the SAD is one of the things that attracted me to him when we began dating. I find that he keeps me on track when I have a bad day and want to cheat which is super motivating and makes me appreciate him even more than I would if we didn't have that aspect to our relationship. It's a big improvement from the guy I dated before him who was an insatiable fast food junkie that ridiculed my way of eating every chance he got.
I didn't realize how important being on the same page nutritionally with someone was until now. I hope I never have to date someone again who doesn't have the same outlook on diet and lifestyle as I do. The only thing that would make my boyfriend better and more like me nutritionally would be if he were as into the idea of raising our own meat (cows, goats, chickens, ducks, etc.) as I am, but I can keep pushing that over time. ;)
You have to be fair- not many people realize how damaging poor eating is to them. That girl eating a corndog may change her ways overnight if she learned how bad it is. My husband and I were SAD eaters when we met- then we went vegetarian, and then vegan together. We decided to leave veganism after over a year and went flexitarian- then discovered paleo and ventured into that together and haven't looked back. Not everyone is going to be perfect- but you can work with someone.. it's not about changing them, but enlightening them. Don't judge a person by what they are eating- you were probably eating that as well at some point in your life.
I've been with my husband 10 years, and we both started out (me at 20, him at 23) eating like crap. But my health has taken some serious downturns and, while he's not setting out to become 100% Primal himself, he understands that I'm having a really really hard time adhering to it. I have a carb/sugar addiction that is literally an addiction -- after 2 days with no sugar, I start pacing the apartment wringing my hands and unable to think of ANYTHING other than running down to 7-11 for a Reeses. I described this to a student who had a heroin problem, and she understood completely :P
Anyway, Husband has agreed that this summer we will see NO non-Primal food enter this house. (Well, with the one exception of his birthday -- he's going to buy a loaf of bread and have BLTs all day, then toss whats left of the bread). Whether or not he ever sticks to this diet, what's important to me is that he's willing to change his life because it's important to my health. (Eating low carb Primal won't cure me, but it will make all of my conditions more easily manageable, and keep me healthier long-term.)
If I were to ever find myself in the dating scene again, my real requirements would be that the man I dated be willing to let me eat the way that's right for my body, help me with it, and LISTEN to me when I discuss nutrition and health, even if he chooses to disagree. If he'll have a discourse with me about it and not dismiss me out of hand, that's enough.
Then again, I'd never date someone who dismissed my opinions out of hand about ANYTHING.....
attitude plays a big role in who i find myself attracted to. ranty, whiney, judgemental people are unpleasant to be around.
in another thread i addressed my preference for men who are health concious and eat well; its all in the taste.
I'm married, but I did ponder this question only yesterday. "What if I were thrown back into the dating pool!?!" For my personality, I think it would be hard to date someone who wasn't at least open to the idea of at least trying paleo. The open mind, support and respect for my dietary choice would probably mean just as much if not more. It takes a special person to say "I don't choose that for myself but I choose to support it for you". It would go both ways, though it would be so much easier if he would at least not eat processed or fast food!
My husband and I are one the same page with our eating and it makes things a lot easier! We grocery shop together, discuss recipes and enjoy food together. He is the more disciplined one which helps keep me on track. A lot of friends that I CrossFit with, their spouses usually do not workout with them or eat Paleo/Primal. We are one of those "rare" couples I guess?