My family isn't paleo at all. I'm VLC, I cook 3 times a day. It's pretty hard to continue doing so when you hear all your relatives talk about SAD food all the time ("I want a pizza", "tonight I'm gonna eat a whole bag of potato chips", "I'm gonna eat ice cream because I'm still hungry after all those french fries"). Sometimes I get the feeling they do it to annoy me.
Is your family paleo? If not, how do you deal with it?
Nope! Not even close. They all think I'm out of my mind. I've lost 111lbs over the last 6 years, you would think they could respect I might know a little bit about this stuff.
I prefer to live in harmony though. A crabby husband and daughter forced to eat food that they don't like isn't going to help me at all. There are nights I make three separate dinners! My pantry is filled with Oreos, Doritos, HoHos and an assortment of other O's.
I work on my daughter's eating habits and have recently got her eating steak and pork chops and hope that I can continue to build on her love of meat.
I got over it being disappointing or depressing. Sure, I would love to have a partner that respected my food choices and we would cook Paleo and shop together and come up with awesome eating ideas. BUT, I married this man and he has no weight or health issues and sees no reason to change what he is doing.
When I married him, I was accepting who he is. I have never tried to "change" him because that never works. Just because I changed my eating habits doesn't mean he's required to do so. Some may argue that it means I don't love him enough to make him want to understand how to live optimally. Maybe I should kick them both out until they see it my way? ;)
Nah. I love them just the way they are. Maybe some day, they'll see food my way.
I have to have the whole house free from tempting non-paleo food items. I have pretty low control after 8pm when it ocmes to sweets, so I know that there can't be any around. My hubby is super supportive fo the diet (he lost 40lbs), and I try to make really delicious meals all the time so he doesn't feel as though he is missing out. Our son is 2, so it's easy to keep him on board - he really has no knowledge of anything else.
I really have to commend those people on here who can do the paleo thing by themselves in a house full of tempting SAD food items. Way to go!!!!
I have a vegan boyfriend who I pretty much consider family. Luckily, he's a bit of an organic-head as well so we definitely have things we DO agree on. It has been a MAJOR point of conflict in the relationship (him: animal rights, me: good health), but we've found (and are still finding) grounds on which to compromise. We go to organicy restaurants where he'll order a vegan BLT and I'll get a naked (no bun) grass-fed lamb burger. We also go to farmers markets together, albeit we visit different stands. Our cooking/eating compromise is: we make our own main course(him: beans, me: meat) and have a veggie dish we can both consume (eg zucchini salad with olive oil or sweet potato fries). It's still difficult, but the challenge of compromise has only made things more interesting and has allowed me to expand my veggie recipe repertoire. yay :)
I often make meals that are partially paleo, meaning I'll make a big pot of sauce full of veggies and ground chicken and pork (I can get away with that because I'm allergic to beef), I serve theirs over pasta and mine just heaped in a bowl. Everyones happy!
The same for other things, I'll make cream infused sauces and pour it over fish and load mine up with veggies and theirs with roasted potatoes or something that will make them happy.
I've been doing this for about 8 months now, while I'm learning....but I do not want to spend more time in the kitchen than I already do (making ghee, consummes, lara bars, drying fruit and nuts)....
As long as I don't serve them zoodles they are happy!!
It's just my husband and me at home (I'm strict paleo, and he's not so much), so I cook paleo for dinner, and he eats it. I also refuse to have anything un-paleo on my shelves at my eye level (he's tall, I'm not, so what's on the top shelves is his domain!).
He does eat off plan regularly, but it's at breakfast and lunch (which I figure he can make for himself), and has always had one of those metabolisms that can handle it. He also has been so indoctrinated by CW that he just doesn't get it at all -- not that he doesn't want to get it, just that everything I tell him goes through the "healthy grain" mentality, and gets stuck. When he sees his doctor, he tells him he's been on Atkins (LOL), even though I'm cooking paleo with some carby veggies, and he eats english muffins for breakfast. God love him; he'll never change, but after 25 years, I'm okay with that. <3
After 7 months of Paleo-Primal-VLC Primal my wife, whose favorite foods include macaroni and cheese, papa john's pizza, mashed potatoes/potato chips, and "fruit flavored" candy (all washed down with diet coke of course) has begun cooking meals like jambalaya (beef, chicken, shrimp, and okra with a tomato base), eating pork cracklins, drinking pastured half/half with coffee (vs her old diet coke), having bacon and eggs for breakfast, etc.
She still indulges in her old "favorites" but the balance is definitely shifting.
The major breakthrough came when I stopped trying to change/judge her and just focused on being really happy with how I am eating. If I would make a paleo/primal meal, I'd offer to make it for her as well, and would make a point to incorporate things that she does like (such as this pulled pork cooked in coconut water).
If she says, "Oh, I want pizza so bad!" I don't frown, make a comment, or give her a hard time. I'll simply smile and acknowledge that I heard her with a pleasant "yeah" and nod of the head.
Resisting someone else just makes them push back harder. If you create a welcoming, inviting atmosphere, enjoy and are content with what you are doing for yourself, and let go of the need to control others, you might be surprised.
Of course, this is coming from someone who took about 5 years to come to this conclusion, but hopefully you're not as stubborn as I am!
Fortunately, I'm not surrounded by SAD food like you, Korion. In my house, it's just my husband and I. There are NO non-paleo foods in the house and he eats just about everything I make. However, he does love him some pizza or bread or pasta when he eats out, and it used to really bother me.
I've always been a health nut but he hasn't. We were married a year ago and I've just recently decided I'm not going to get upset about the way he eats anymore. I've decided it's his body and he knows that he feels better/worse when eating certain foods. Someday maybe he'll come around on his own and be as paleo as possible with me. In the meantime, there's less cortisol coursing thru my body now that I've accepted that :)
I am slowly working on it, A work on progress. McDonalds got cut to once a month or two months and for the past month Bread has been off the menu, which is actually a biggie, first week the kids were whining but now they have forgotten all about it. Pushing for the eradication of all crap oils next. When I cook, it's paleo something with rice ( there too much rice in general but it keeps the peace - a concession I am willing to make - could be worse!)
My nephews were over today and it was up to me to cook for them, they got an awesome beef based paleo stir fry and sweet potatoes. "Hey" they said "your strange food ain't so bad, you are not just a vegetable monster after all!"
like in the movie 'Contact', when converting non believers - it's all about: small moves Ellie, small moves.
Nope, they're not. But they live healthy for SAD standards. So wholegrain bread with very little sugary stuff on it and just good, real food for dinner.
It gets hard when I try to get rid of the pasta in a dinner (or at least serve seperately), but they got used to it by now and we server paleo and non-paleo parts of a dinner seperate so everyone can eat what he/she wants :)
Oh, my dad does eat a banana every day and says he is paleo xD
They're not, although my husband and daughter will eat whatever I cook so mealtimes don't become a big issue. The stuff we always had before is pretty much what we have now, but I just leave off the bread or pasta or whatever for myself. I'll have my burger wrapped in lettuce or leave off the rice and just have meat and veggies, that kind of thing. Occasionally I will get hungry early and will eat something on my own. Those are the days that they get the foods I don't normally eat, like fried rice or spaghetti. It all seems to work out pretty well, but we tend to be pretty relaxed about mealtimes anyway. Sometimes we eat together, sometimes we don't. I imagine it would be harder if you are trying to always eat together and satisfy a whole group of people.
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