Despite the relative anonymity of this board - not everyone has met up at the Ancestral Health Symposium or PrimalCon, for instance - many paleohackers have distinct and recognizable personalities here. JCB's comment on Stabby's reply is a perfect example of this - http://paleohacks.com/questions/51685/do-you-have-any-great-images-that-show-your-worldview/51694#51694
I'm really wondering about the comfort zone created in this little world. Are you yourself, "more" yourself/who you want to be, or someone else entirely here as compared to the outside world?
If a co-worker with whom you have a friendly but professional working relationship were to read all your replies or comments here, would he or she be surprised at what you have to say, how you say it, or how confident or unsure you come across here as opposed to in "real life?" If you met another paleohacker you've never met in person, would he or she view you exactly the same way in the physical world as your replies and comments make you seem here?
My diet-related PH and real world anxieties are different.
I have 2 primary PH anxieties:
(i) that I will disseminate false information persuasively; or
(ii) that I will seem disrespectful or dismissive toward PHers with whom I disagree.
I fundamentally respect everyone here, and the idea that I would discourage others' opinions or participation is anathema to me. In the real world I am pretty sarcastic and abrasive, and I take great pains to make sure that those parts of my personality don't carry over to PH. On this front I do not always succeed, unfortunately, but I do my best.
In the real world I have different anxieties. I try not to talk about the paleo diet, but I frequently can't resist, and as a result I get made fun of for talking about it too much among friends. So my main concern away from PH is that I am annoying people. I'd much rather entertain and stimulate them.
The paleo paradigm is so radical that I've found I cannot positively impact someone's health via passing comments or brief discussion. The person has to care enough to commit to hearing a thorough account of the diet and its supporting evidence and theory. I find the issues to be intellectually stimulating, but to my surprise many of my friends - several who are smarter and more educated than me - do not.
Ironically, I'm less likely to talk about racy issues like libido on PH because I fear that it will get dug up by the wrong person and taken out of context. With friends, however, I'm not shy at all with just about any topic, which is kind of a shame because this is a great forum to discuss such issues and how they relate to diet. That's just a decision that I made at the beginning.
I have to admit. I'm not nearly as much of a blowhard about "healthy fats" and paleo in person because I'm still losing weight. I know it's kind of screwed up but I feel like I need to be at my goal weight before I can be really vocal about what a life changing switch going paleo has been. I'm 40 down, 60 to go. I don't plan on being an evangelist but if someone starts going on a rant about healthy grains or veganism in front of (or to me) me I won't keep my mouth shut like I do now.
as in all things, ill defer to kamal on this. hes the only PHer ive met in person. there are several i talk to off the boards, though.
im fairly authentic on the interwebs, i think. i probably come off as more abrasive online than i do in person because im fairly outspoken and opinionated, but its all me. i know next to nothing about paleo nutrition outside of my own experiences, so i try to stick to that and the basic generalities. i love paleo, but i think my version of it is probably looser than many other PHers.
I'm too old and grouchy to bother with alter egos in person, or the internet.
work and home is 2 different people though, Mr. black and white engineering guy VS. beer drinking redneck playing with cars and guns. (I am getting better with the beer drinking though, Nor-cal margaritas for the summer)
Ooh - I feel like a minor celebrity right now! (But how could anyone NOT have realized that a picture of a raccoon holding a knife HAD to be Stabby? I think I just got there first with that one. )
As for me, yeah, I am pretty much the same me everywhere nowadays although I DO regularly surprise the people at work who get fooled by surface appearances. Once they actually talk to me they realize that I am NOT the 50+ standard American suburban matron I look like and that I am really slightly strange.
And as I get older it just seems to be too much work to "put up a front". I always used to say that it would be really cool once I got old enough to be considered "eccentric" rather than just weird - got a few years to go still I think, but I'm gettin' there.
So, if we ever meet IRL, I don't think anyone would have trouble reconciling the physical me with the virtual me. Good question, by the way.
As far as advice I give, yes, I'm the same in the "real" world...being a nutritional therapist, I talk about nutrition all the time...but I am more willing to share things here about myself that I don't tend to share much with people in my life...most people I am friends with eat really differently than I do, and don't get my diet at all, which is fine...I don't tend to talk about being in lifetime recovery for eating disorder, but I think I've mentioned that on here several times, and quite a few people have told me they're in the smae boat...that is something I have some shame issues around for sure, so it feels good to be more open about it on here...
I'm me. The only difference is that I get to geek out on here in ways that would bore the crap out of most people I talk to during the day. My friends and family thank all of you for indulging me.
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