I've been with my mate for 15 years. There are a lot of things we struggle with -- and sometimes, food is one of them. I do 90+% of the cooking -- so its always a challenge to make sure that I remember to feed HER the way she wants to be fed, not just the way that I want to be fed. I do try, because I love her, to prepare things that she'll like in ways that are healthier for both of us, and that's been a great boon. For the first 2 years of this, though, I was preparing two separate meals at every mealtime, because she ONLY wanted the stuff the way she was familiar with. Over the past several months, though, seeing all the changes in me, she's decided that she's going to give this a try -- and I keep reminding myself of how hard it was for ME in the beginning, and reminding myself to -guide- her, not -push- her.
We've faced both of us going through menopause at the same time, though, so I'm pretty sure we'll get through this ok. And if she bails, I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing, and I figure that we'll find a way... I'll let her lean on me if she needs to, give her space if she needs it, and support her decisions, just as she does mine -- because even though we have this history, we're two different people, and the most important part of a life is finding joy. (If we ever do separate, it won't be because of paleo -- it will be because I desperately want a FARM and she so hates the smell of cow manure and wants to be within walking distance of the theatre!)