Peggy at the Primal Parent says it played a role in her breakup.
I would say it definitely has played a role in past breakups, but usually a small one. For example, in one relationship we had both lost a lot of weight together, but then he started eating sugar flavored sugar sugar for breakfast again every morning and gaining all his weight back. It annoyed me. That wasn't the final straw, but it played a role in my decision that we just weren't compatible.
But for most of my relationships I did most of the cooking and they were happy to eat it, so it wasn't a huge factor :) When they wanted to eat junk, they could have a Superbowl party with they guys or something.
I don't believe eating a paleo diet itself could cause the end of a relationship. There is no reason why two people can't live harmoniously under the same roof while not eating the exact same diet. That said, I think that making a big lifestyle change can unearth other problems that have been under the radar in the past and once those issues are visible on a more conscious level that can lead to the end of relationships.
Most of the time when I hear people talk about relationship problems supposedly stemming from different diets what I actually see are problems caused by partners who are selfish, demanding, immature, unsupportive, etc.
Nope. Why should it?
I shared the idea of ancestral eating with my wife when I first read about it. I implemented it first and then when my wife saw the changes she implemented it as well. Jenn, my wife's name; Jenn can eat whatever she wants and I can eat whatever I want. We both have that choice and I'm not going to hold her to my standards just as much as she doesn't hold me to her standards. Our marriage is and always will be based on our admiration and love for each other, the individuality of each other is something to be treasured and respected.
My relationship with some of my family members and friends have somewhat been strained by my diet. Some individuals in my family follow either the paleo or a gluten free diet, and others will eat nothing but junk food. We love each other, though. As they gain weight, I lose. Yes it is both annoying and disheartening.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
My fiance went Paleo with me. We still have problems.
On another note, I wonder how much of her change in direction came from going birth control free.
I am single and really would like to find a Paleo guy. I want to be with someone who GETS and respects why I eat the way I do, instead of thinking I am a crazy, annoying, high-maintenance pain in the ass. (While I may well be all those things, it's not because I eat saturated fat.)
I've been thinking someone should start an ancestrals-only dating website: meatmarket.com
The thorn~he cooks WAY less than he used to, because he still doesn't always know what to cook for me even though it's been years of me eating this way(and him not).
The rose~my hormones being much more balanced which has led to a more stable mood me, and a much higher sex drive me...
We've been through too much for me to leave him just because he eats chips and sugar, but if we hadn't been together long, or didn't have kids when I started eating this way, I can see how that may have been too stressful on our relationship...I should add that when we first got together nearly fourteen years ago, we were both strict vegans, we even had a vegan wedding(he is not a vegan anymore, btw, that would likely have been the straw that broke the camel's back).
Our relationship has improved. Many of our fights were largely fueled by "food moods", as that post so appropriately calls it. However, we went paleo at the same time.
I've seen other relationships destroyed because one person made positive changes (not necessarily paleo) and the other preferred to stay where they were, or worse, actively worked against any positive change in their partner or themselves.
It's a huge issue for sure not just in romantic relationships but really all relationships. Some people just can't handle nutritional truth because they don't have a broad enough perspective to tie it in to their whole life.... ie, what kind of person they are and should be. Cultus, the development of the human form, was big in Roman times and is still currently important but people can't seem to get that it's how you eat and your genetics that control that. America is becoming a nanny state where everyone expects that life owes them something, so why bother being the best you can be especially physically since we "shouldn't" discriminate based on things like looks, age race etc. Fat acceptance has made tremendous in roads and is brain washing people in to believing that it's "ok" to be fat. People are very self righteous and deluded about it all and just not very honest. Eating well so as to look good is very personal and some people just don't like people who are that self involved. They think it's trivial. Some people think there are bigger "more important" things to consider and maybe for those people that is true. But also consider that these people are also the kinds who scream bloody murder about socialized medicine and always think someone else should be there is they are sick etc. They sympathize with all kinds of illness like cancer etc or use excuses like "we really can't know, everything causes cancer" etc.
So yes Paleo does destroy some relationships and probably wrecks the ones that are just mostly a big waste of time. I continue to hang in with people who are anti Paleo but generally turn down the volume of much of what they say/do.
I read an article in NY Times about a year and a half ago about the social impact of weight loss/weight gain. Birds of a feather flock together, that type thing. Paleo is hard for the typical brainwashed idiot to understand. Conceivably there are whole networks of people who are "glued" together by the unwillingness to admit the truth. I'm a skinny loner generally I admit it. I've seen it from both sides personally-- wasnt' always as skinny as a teen-- and frankly this way is better.
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