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Certain things cannot be avoided (early mornings, long commutes, sitting at a desk) but my question is this:

Have you found any way (supplemental, exercising at certain times, ect) that really made the difference for you?

I am facing a lot of daily stress and trying to find the best paleo solution. Suggestions please!

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This is what helps me:

I get 8 hours of sleep a night in essentially a blacked out room. Railroad apartment cave-like bedroom FTW. I also take two ZMA when I climb in.

No electronics 1-2 hours before bed.

Morning workouts 4 x's a week, CrossFit + lifting, and 1 x's a week of "active recovery" which is a combination of yoga, soft tissue work, flexibility techniques and traditional calisthenics.

I don't own a tv so I'll stream movies or a show on my laptop but not much, I prefer reading, podcasts, listening to NPR. Ohh the soothing dulcet tones of Brian Lehrer :) I don't ever get sucked into le tube.

Walking my dog

Cooking all my meals - it's really relaxing for me to do all the prep and such. Good music, a glass of wine, a sharp knife. Good times for reals.

My life right now is much simpler but definitely there are moments of severe stress, the WTF moments. So a deep breath and I go outside and will walk around the block. Remove myself from whatever is going on, process, go back inside refreshed. This worked for me the past several years at a very high pressure job when I had an hour commute on the train, would wear earplugs so the noise was softer, and if shit went down at the office then it was grab the coat and take 15 minutes outside. Just those minutes of calm and being removed from the stress was amazing and I could go back in with a clear head. Translated easily into my latest work adventure :) Good luck!

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Whatever stress "is," I would imagine than seeking to "combat" it would create more of it.

Seriously. The world is filled with stressors but experiencing "stress" as problematic is optional. It's a choice. Couple of things worth noticing and worth keeping separate:

1) That which happens (traffic, relationship tension, parent-kid issues, challenging work) versus 2) that which we make it mean, and how we relate to it.

One person thrives on "stressors." His or her identical twin collapses from "stressors." Both are "dealing with" externals called circumstances. Dealing very differently.

Find out what the thriving person is doing. Imitate that. Find yourself flourishing. Teach others how.

Notice: complaining isn't part of the cycle. Unless you want it to be. See previous reference to "choice."

Bottom line: when life presents factors that exceed your skill set, look for ways to expand your "rise to the challenge" skills. Of course, clearing out energy-drainers (people, places, things) has its place as well, where possible.

One good set of skills to have: the whole range of practices associated with stress management: various meditative strategies. Taking deep breaths and settling into the moment, is always a good place to start.

It's also good to get beyond linguistic errors like "I've got so much stress in my life," stated in a way that makes the stress sound like weather, something that just happens to me. The experience of stress is something we create, or co-create with our environment.

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Sounds like Byron Katie's The Work. Took me reading the whole book to stop wanting to throw it across the room. I think the fact that she had a good point annoyed me. – syrahna Dec 27 2011 at 5:01
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This might not work for you, but I live in New York and I added a two mile walk to my commute by going to a much further subway station instead of the nearest one. Those two miles in the morning made me happy, more in touch with my neighborhood and got me extra sunshine.

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+1, I have about a 1.5 mile walk to take the bus to work in the mornings, and it has significantly improved the overall quality of my days. Spending some time outside as the sun is rising is quite magical. – raney Dec 26 2011 at 23:06
totally agree. i worked in midtown in the 50's and would get off the train in the 30's and walk up. hit the cuban section for a good cup of coffee and head up or into columbus circle and hit bouchon then walk down. the city early is always nice. – jesuisjuba - paleorepublic.com Dec 26 2011 at 23:08
Awesome idea. I walk about 30-40mins each way between Penn Station and work as well, yes, even when it's raining or snowing. Well worth it. – raydawg Dec 27 2011 at 18:54
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Stress isn't something to combat, it's just something to avoid. Nora Gedgaudas had a great line in either a podcast I listened to or in her AHS talk that I think is a great view on mental health regarding stress: "Stress isn't what happens to you, stress is how you react to what happens to you."

Sometimes you just have to let things go and not perseverate on them.

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Great point about it being a reaction. – Huray Dec 28 2011 at 1:31
+1 for teaching me a new word... perseverate... nice – jake Jun 15 at 13:39
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I find that walking really helps me reduce my stress. It gives me time to either think or just quiet my mind. And it gives me some gentle movement and fresh air. Bonus if you have a dog with you!

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Proper meditation really makes me a calmer and less stressed person. I notice a huge difference when I am not consistently meditating! I enjoy mindfulness meditation....if you google it tons will come up, but John Kabat-Zinn is My personal go to meditation guru I follow.

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I recommend reading "The Mindful Brain" by Daniel J. Siegel who is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine where he also serves as a co-investigator at the Center for Culture, Brain, and Development and co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center. – DeanS Dec 27 2011 at 2:47
Kabat-Zinn for the win. – Caleb the Hobbit Jun 15 at 12:50
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Any outdoor physical activity should help. I personally commute by bicycle 30+ miles a day and love it. Being outdoors is essential.

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How do you deal with the great outdoors? I leave when it is dark in the morning, and return to even more darkness. I live in mtn country where there are bears etc, so it's not smart for me to go outside at night on the trails. I walk in the afternoon at work (on my lunchbreak) which helps. – Ashley Dec 27 2011 at 6:20
I am envious. I wished I lived in mtn country :-) I don't have to worry about anything bigger than a coyote or dog. I do commute at night with a good lighting system. I know bike commuters who do ride in bear country with no problem. There is no greater danger than a human driving an automobile. Wilderness trails in the dark...yeah it probably is not wise to be out alone. I love being out under the stars whether it be cycling, x-country skiing, walking, or jogging. so I would find it irresistible. – DeanS Dec 28 2011 at 10:39
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Getting rid of commute altogether (home-office), having a boss who doesn't mind me starting late and working late, delegating, sleeping. You might be surprised how flexible (enlightened) managers are these days.

If you face resistance, there is plenty of research showing financial and soft upsides for employers from home-office and flexible hours.

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..........yoga!

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Mental: First, realize that the only control you have, is over your own actions. and that is all.

God(or the devine being of your choice) grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change (other people) The courage to change the things I can (my own actions) And the wisdom to know the difference. (the wisdom is in () above)

Second, do not mind what happens. Getting overly upset or overly happy about the outcome of something or something happening does no good for you or anyone / anything else. You have no control over outcomes no matter how much you THINK you do. Things that happen are just data points and results of actions taken (or not taken) and often have to do with other peoples actions (which you have 0 control over).

Set goals. But do it right. Goals need to be actions, not results. Instead of 'I want to lose 20 lbs of body fat' 'I will work out X times per week and eat paleo meals X% of the time' Your bodyfat weight is just a data point from then on because there is nothing you can do about your bodyfat weight, but there ARE things you can do to manipulate it.

Physical:

Work out. Get a massage. Orgasm.

Preferably in that order.

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Sleep, sunshine, walking, human connection, and puppies will help. Especially the puppies.

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don't forget kittens – Bill1102inf Dec 27 2011 at 22:31
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for a great night of sleep for me sex session works every time. stress kills. sex creates life. i will choose life over death anytime.

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I find your username to be a bit disturbing. Is it Paleo? :) – Blitherakt Jun 15 at 20:18
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I assume you're already eating healthy, so the next thing is sleep.

When you're stressed, part of you doesn't want to get out of bed and face the day. But if you can drag yourself out early, you'll have some quiet time to gather your energies--and ideally you'll read/watch/listen to something that makes you laugh.

Again, if you can get yourself up and ready in time, finding a time/place to walk for a bit is a great way to settle your body and mind.

When all is said and done, it's about what works for you. In my case, that tends to be pets because they don't ask for much, they're great company and they give lots of love and laughter.

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Channel the stress energy into something productive, however inconsequential it may seem

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exercise, hanging out with my dogs, cognitive-behavioral therapy. :D

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I shoot.

There's a Zen-like calmness I experience at the range while going through the routine of attempting to hit the ten-ring over and over and over... The satisfying "POP! POP! POP!" doesn't hurt either.

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I agree with a lot of people's points, but nevertheless I'll chime in.

  1. I eat fish a LOT. On days I don't eat it, I take fish oil.
  2. Vitamin D. Sometimes I get it through a supplement, sometimes through St. John's wort (making the skin more sensitive), or spending lots of time outside
  3. Sleep. I take valerian root if I can't sleep well.

While I'm not a big fan of supplements, I've used them when I need to make ends meet. For me there is a crucial difference in conceptually knowing I need 8-9 hours of sleep in a dark room, and actually making it happen. Same goes for a lot of other little things I do.

I think what matters is finding the things which work for you, but then additionally making the conscious effort to work it into your day. As an example from my own life, things like doing dishes have become zen meditations for me. As a grad student, I love meditation, but I have a tight schedule. So I find ways of having both.

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I just have to make sure I exercise - especially on days I'm super stressed. Eating right definitely helps, sometimes I'll take chewable Vit C when I'm feeling stressed. Something about crunching down on those tabs helps relieve a little stress while hopefully benefiting me, too!
If i'm at work/school & feeling really stressed/angry, I leave (if possible) & start jogging up/down flights of stairs. Doesn't take long before I'm physically tired & feeling better... then it's re-hydration time! Also, as it goes w/o saying, getting enough sleep is crucial. That's what I do though... HTH

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I am up for work at 6am, which is plenty early for me, and I find that unless I go to bed at 10pm (which is tough because I am home at 630 and still need to exercise and deal with food) that 11 is doable.I know it sucks and I need that hour, but...sigh...I guess I am looking for a new job. – Ashley Dec 27 2011 at 6:22
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Cuddling with my cat in a dark warm room... but looking at her sweet chubby face makes me feel the calmest for some reason.

Listening to gentle wind chimes, low pitched ones.

Sleeping on the couch or an unfamiliar place feels great too, I get great sleep when stressed. The cough is great, it feels like it's cuddling me the whole night.

Going for a walk at 10 pm or 4 am when it's quiet, cool, and soothing. I like being outdoors but it's just too noisy during the day.

Gardening, if it weren't so damn noisy outside. Sound pollution needs to become illegal outside the hours 2 to 5 pm ... it's so awful, can't enjoy the outside...

The sound of crickets make me sleep like a baby.

Reading light hearted books, like those intended for young girls. I like Malory Towers by Enid Blyton, it's just so charming seeing those girls making such a big fuss because another girl didn't return her eraser, or because the teacher made her go swimming. Reminds me of simpler life when I was younger... and behaved just as silly :-)

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probably everyday-sex :)

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