My question is - what resources/model of paleo/primal, etc. might be best for me to start with? I have been to a number of paleo/primal websites (Robb Wolf, PaleoParents, Cordain, Whole 9, Mark Sisson, No Meat Athlete, Tim Ferriss and others) and seeing good info, but also getting somewhat confused by different recommendations. I haven't figured out the differences yet and would appreciate some guidance.
My background: I was ovo-lacto vegetarian from ages 14-26, and have been eating fish for about 2 years now. I realized that I have been too dependent on carbs, soy and dairy and have started eliminating them (starting with eliminating all dairy except for butter this week and cutting down on carbs and all processed soy.) I do eat fish and shellfish, but don't anticipate adding any other meats in my diet for awhile.
I've been reading different websites, and I am getting confused by different recommendations. Also, it's clear that some people are especially heavy on the red meat (which is fine, but not all that helpful to me at the moment) and others are more fish friendly. Confusing differences include: I see recommendations to eliminate dairy, but on the other hand some are recommending grass fed butter, heavy cream, and even full fat yogurt. I have seen some recipes with parmesan and mascarpone cheese listed as paleo. Then I have seen some acceptance of legumes, and some people talking about 80/20 eating with some "treats" vs people that are completely paleo.
So, where should I start? What resources (websites, books, etc) do you recommend? What about foods to incorporate?
This is my first week and I have been eating mostly fruits and veggies, eggs, fish, and avocado and nuts. And some limited soy (tofu) legumes (split peas and lentils) and small amounts of bread and pasta.
Since weight loss is definitely a goal, I'm looking at decreasing fruits, carbs, avocado and nuts based on some recommendations I have seen. I am also looking at buying some Kerrygold butter, ghee, and possibly coconut oil.