Slightly reticent to add my two cents, but what the hey. I've had female partners who lived at both ends of the body hair scale, and I've found them all incredibly attractive - I guess that makes me indifferent.
If anything bothers me about either perspective, it's the politicization of the whole thing. I get it, I understand the arguments, but I really question the vehemence with which some people feel they need to state a position, especially considering that we all live with so many other behaviours and habits that contradict the supposed belief system that makes us either grow hair or shave it all off. We are all modern, confused animals that have to live with contradictions and inconsistencies (the ecologist who drives, the paleo dude who drinks beer, the Christian who covets...whatever Christians aren't supposed to covet) - it's when we pick random, isolated things to take a stand on from the huge diversity that makes us human that I think I really start to wonder. Seriously...leg hair is what we're are all about? That's the stance we choose to take in the world? We do that while, at the same time, caring enough about how we look to dress well, get our hair cut, work out, lose weight - how are any of these other things giving in to societal pressure any less?
Personally, I try to do what feels right for me, inconsistent with who I'm perceived to be or not. I also try not to care about how it is you choose to be you. To my friends, I'm a gentle, sensitive, ecologically responsible, social-justice oriented guy who likes watching UFC, playing contact sports, and eating a ton of meat. On the grooming side, I shaved my legs one year while cycling competitively and have never turned back, and have expanded my grooming to include other regions (ahem). Shaving or trimming isn't about caring what you think or accepting/rejecting a political stance, it's about what I simply have come to prefer, for reasons I could never explain. I like the way I "look, feel, and perform" and don't care if I don't fit into any one particular box.
We're all so incredibly complex that I think it's disingenuous to claim that a body part or grooming practice represents a higher ideal without acknowledging the totality of how we live our lives.
