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How do I get to grips with being different to everyone else?

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Updated October 30, 2014 at 4:44 AM
Created March 29, 2013 at 9:34 PM

haha I know this sounds like a silly question, but I find when I eat paleo im never really terribly hungry..i had eggs with chicken and berries at breakfast this morning and went away for the day with friends, I ate maybe a half bag of nuts and wasnt hungry thereafter...the only thing is I ended up bingeing tonight cus I feel (I dunno why), but scared of not getting enough andyou know people actually eat quite alot (Ive noticed that 2 hrs after eating theyre ready to go again) and I was wondering how everyone deals with sitting with people while they eat their old favourites, or constantly declining food (im a teenager so this shit is difficult-and Ive only started too) and just generally feeling overwhelmed in shops by all this junk food that seems unneccessary when you think about it, but makes you feel like youre missing out on something wonderful...so many social activities revolve around food....and there are few places that are paleo-friendly :s so what do all of you do? (junk food is EVERYWHERE!) I do wanna be healthy sooo much though :s so any tips would be much appreciated (like what do you keep in mind to stay strong)

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1523 · April 17, 2013 at 2:07 PM

its honestly hard when you are a teenage and have limited control over some circumstances. but to use what knowledge you can cultivate to change the things you can in a healthy and balanced manner and also accept and roll with those things you cant is the best you can do. hope you are doing well!

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17136 · April 02, 2013 at 10:49 AM

You don't have to explain, nor preach, just eat your own way for your health. If they think it's weird, that's their choice - true friends will understand and support; social climbers will look for any weakness to use against others - that's how you can tell who your true friends are. And yes, a grassfed burger without the bun is an awesome diet food - a fast food burger, even without the bun, not so much.

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287 · April 01, 2013 at 12:19 PM

and people don't tend to get a sufficient amount of salad that would actually nourish your body. The result is you can eat a footlong sub (which is at least 800 calories even if "low fat" and then get some doritos and drink your coke or sprite with it...and be hungry again in 3 hours... so Its not helpful in weightloss/maintenance....plus it's bread which is just bad for the body... I don't know how people haen't thought of this...

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287 · April 01, 2013 at 12:14 PM

Good point.I think people don't like to hear what I have to say.I mean no one wants to hear that subway is as unhealthy as any other fast food place...People think its healthy because they see salad and its basically "only a sandwich" and consider it to be less fattening. The first issue is that people assume that if something is fattening it's immediately unhealthy, and not fattening=a health ood. The funny thing is, a burger is basically just a sandwich but its seen as unhealthy and Imo a burger would fill you up more because of the fat and protein...there isnt a whole load of meat in subs..

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287 · April 01, 2013 at 12:01 PM

Had some dark chocolate :D 85% is as high as I can take though haha :P I'm hoping paleo will allow me to become less obsessed with food (because you simply don't have to eat as regularly and worry about this and that-it's pretty simple) and clear up my dry and often blotchy skin...AND I've to shed weight too haha I'm really excited to see how it helps me! :) Thank you for your best wishes :)

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1227 · March 31, 2013 at 2:37 PM

So, Erin, How is life going for you today? Have you bitten the ears off of any chocolate bunnies? I believe in chocolate (dark) myself and will eat some today, and some hard boiled eggs probably. No need to go crazy. Wishing you all the best for your quest for good health. You'll be glad you did start to eat well in your teens. I guarantee it. Hooray for Water, my favorite beverage.

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287 · March 30, 2013 at 7:21 PM

haha I've not seen it that way :P It actually makes me want to kill when people go on like you're "starving yourself" or being "unhealthy" because fasting/skipping a meal "slows your metabolism" and yet if you were to ask these people what metabolism is, they would more than likely say "how fast you burn fat" as opposed to literally the sum of all the chemical reactions that take place in one's body....when you see it that way, It makes sense that putting artificial foods into that body would affect it in ways that are much more complex than it's made out to be. People need to think..

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3432 · March 30, 2013 at 11:32 AM

Yea... I've been reading a lot of Carnegie lately. Approach your life in 'day-tight compartments'... I love his books.

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166 · March 30, 2013 at 4:25 AM

+1 for "big girl panties"!

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287 · March 29, 2013 at 11:54 PM

thank you :) would you believe I've never ever met someone in my life who lives clean? The simple fact that I drink water is absolutely crazy in most people's eyes... :s I really hope I find someone who has an interest in their health because it can be alil lonely :P Tanks for the advice :)

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287 · March 29, 2013 at 11:48 PM

oh my god wonderful tip!! I do tend to worry alot about being caught in situations where I'll be stuck :L haha thank you :)

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80 · March 29, 2013 at 11:39 PM

I hear ya, think of it in the same way you view smoking! Some people may say "oh I couldn't go without my smokes" and "what do you do on break at work?" No matter how many questions they pose- you know the choice you are making elevates your health above temporary satisfaction. As for the analogy... for some folks it's tougher to quit the SAD than it is for smokers to cease their habit. Good luck tomorrow ;-)

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287 · March 29, 2013 at 10:28 PM

I often turn junk food down and the main response is "oh I couldn't go without x y z" and "is that not boring?" etc :L Great fun altogether haha :P Thanks though, I may have binged, but I intend on starting again tomorrow :)

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11048 · March 30, 2013 at 1:37 AM

You put your big girl panties on and just do it. A response to "Oh I could never give up x" that has worked for me is, "You could; you choose not to. I eat this way for my health. How you choose to eat is just that. Your choice." (I had to use it on my own mother.) I don't badger people eating differently than I do. I don't proselytize. I eat how I eat. People who are curious will ask me about what changes I have made.

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166 · March 30, 2013 at 4:25 AM

+1 for "big girl panties"!

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3432 · March 29, 2013 at 10:01 PM

Don't know what to tell you. Except that you might be surprised how much respect people tend to have for disciplined behavior.

I don't know your peer group, but I think a lot of peer pressure, social intimidations and anxieties are self-imposed.

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287 · April 01, 2013 at 12:01 PM

Had some dark chocolate :D 85% is as high as I can take though haha :P I'm hoping paleo will allow me to become less obsessed with food (because you simply don't have to eat as regularly and worry about this and that-it's pretty simple) and clear up my dry and often blotchy skin...AND I've to shed weight too haha I'm really excited to see how it helps me! :) Thank you for your best wishes :)

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1227 · March 31, 2013 at 2:37 PM

So, Erin, How is life going for you today? Have you bitten the ears off of any chocolate bunnies? I believe in chocolate (dark) myself and will eat some today, and some hard boiled eggs probably. No need to go crazy. Wishing you all the best for your quest for good health. You'll be glad you did start to eat well in your teens. I guarantee it. Hooray for Water, my favorite beverage.

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4029 · March 31, 2013 at 4:09 AM

Be a model for others, be the rock people can go to for advice.

Ignore the snark and snipes. Swerve away from the haterz.

Keep an open mind always looking for new discoveries and evidence. Keep a skeptical mind looking for holes in dogma and "news". Don't explain your actions with irrational overconfidence. Be well read on it all.

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8100 · March 30, 2013 at 3:57 PM

Erin, think to yourself how much smarter you are than all those other people who are letting Madison Avenue advertisers (or the UK equivalent) manipulate them 24 hours a day into making unhealthy choices so fat cats on Wall Street make a lot of money.

Seriously, there is so much manipulation of food products, not just in the advertising alone but in the brightly colored packaging, the brightly colored food, the extra sugar, starch, salt, and "natural flavorings" ( like beaver anus gland) to entice you to eat these products (not produce) and want more and more so that people make a lot of money selling it to you.

By choosing to eat real, healthy, whole food, you are not allowing yourself to be suckered. Be proud of your choices, not envious of people who are so easily manipulated. You go girl!!!

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287 · March 30, 2013 at 7:21 PM

haha I've not seen it that way :P It actually makes me want to kill when people go on like you're "starving yourself" or being "unhealthy" because fasting/skipping a meal "slows your metabolism" and yet if you were to ask these people what metabolism is, they would more than likely say "how fast you burn fat" as opposed to literally the sum of all the chemical reactions that take place in one's body....when you see it that way, It makes sense that putting artificial foods into that body would affect it in ways that are much more complex than it's made out to be. People need to think..

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3432 · March 29, 2013 at 11:44 PM

Also, I recommend not overwhelming yourself with too many thoughts of hypothetical situations, or even how to maintain 'for the long run'.

Eat right today.

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287 · March 29, 2013 at 11:48 PM

oh my god wonderful tip!! I do tend to worry alot about being caught in situations where I'll be stuck :L haha thank you :)

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3432 · March 30, 2013 at 11:32 AM

Yea... I've been reading a lot of Carnegie lately. Approach your life in 'day-tight compartments'... I love his books.

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1523 · March 29, 2013 at 10:46 PM

make new friends!! ive done the eat breakfast, snack and then come home and binge thing too, mostly because I really was hungry during the day and should have eaten more then a snack but was, like you, with company and places were a good meal wasn't available. makes it really hard to keep healthy that is for sure, and ive had to ditch some friends when I realized out relationships or their sense of fun were based around unhealthy habits or things I just wasn't interested in anymore. i am generally much happier when i am hanging out with people who are more similar to me in diet and want to go somewhere and eat healthy, because, like you noticed, they aren't snacking all the time!

being a teenager is super hard, so I commend you realizing the importance of your health and also asking for help :)

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287 · March 29, 2013 at 11:54 PM

thank you :) would you believe I've never ever met someone in my life who lives clean? The simple fact that I drink water is absolutely crazy in most people's eyes... :s I really hope I find someone who has an interest in their health because it can be alil lonely :P Tanks for the advice :)

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1523 · April 17, 2013 at 2:07 PM

its honestly hard when you are a teenage and have limited control over some circumstances. but to use what knowledge you can cultivate to change the things you can in a healthy and balanced manner and also accept and roll with those things you cant is the best you can do. hope you are doing well!

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80 · March 29, 2013 at 10:24 PM

When you are eating nutrient-dense foods you SHOULD feel full Erin! My heart goes out to all the folks who eat, eat and eat but never truly feel nourished! Start educating your friends/loved ones- when they notice you turning down processed gut-bombs and "fake food"-- THEY WILL START TO ASK QUESTIONS! Take pride in your choice and take the time to explain your rationale. If they truly care about you they will see your sincerity, and who knows- maybe they will start making some changes of their own. :-)

As for all of the junk food, just do some "modern-day foraging". Turn it into a challenge for yourself, see if you can find real food when out with your friends/family.

It may sound clich??, but you can always find strength in the fact that you are doing the right thing. Hang in there Erin!

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287 · March 29, 2013 at 10:28 PM

I often turn junk food down and the main response is "oh I couldn't go without x y z" and "is that not boring?" etc :L Great fun altogether haha :P Thanks though, I may have binged, but I intend on starting again tomorrow :)

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80 · March 29, 2013 at 11:39 PM

I hear ya, think of it in the same way you view smoking! Some people may say "oh I couldn't go without my smokes" and "what do you do on break at work?" No matter how many questions they pose- you know the choice you are making elevates your health above temporary satisfaction. As for the analogy... for some folks it's tougher to quit the SAD than it is for smokers to cease their habit. Good luck tomorrow ;-)

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17136 · March 31, 2013 at 6:19 PM

A better question is why would you want to be like everyone else? What's so wonderful about being a clone?

Would you like to be sick all the time when you're older, like everyone else? Or would you rather be strong and healthy?

What's your health worth to you? And are "friends" really friends if they don't understand and refuse to support your choices rather than learn from them?

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17136 · April 02, 2013 at 10:49 AM

You don't have to explain, nor preach, just eat your own way for your health. If they think it's weird, that's their choice - true friends will understand and support; social climbers will look for any weakness to use against others - that's how you can tell who your true friends are. And yes, a grassfed burger without the bun is an awesome diet food - a fast food burger, even without the bun, not so much.

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287 · April 01, 2013 at 12:14 PM

Good point.I think people don't like to hear what I have to say.I mean no one wants to hear that subway is as unhealthy as any other fast food place...People think its healthy because they see salad and its basically "only a sandwich" and consider it to be less fattening. The first issue is that people assume that if something is fattening it's immediately unhealthy, and not fattening=a health ood. The funny thing is, a burger is basically just a sandwich but its seen as unhealthy and Imo a burger would fill you up more because of the fat and protein...there isnt a whole load of meat in subs..

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287 · April 01, 2013 at 12:19 PM

and people don't tend to get a sufficient amount of salad that would actually nourish your body. The result is you can eat a footlong sub (which is at least 800 calories even if "low fat" and then get some doritos and drink your coke or sprite with it...and be hungry again in 3 hours... so Its not helpful in weightloss/maintenance....plus it's bread which is just bad for the body... I don't know how people haen't thought of this...

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55 · March 31, 2013 at 1:56 AM

Stay strong. I???ve been to plenty of family gathering and lunches with colleagues that are based on eating a lot of bad foods ??? just say ???no, thank you,??? or add ???I???m not hungry.??? because that???s probably the truth, and even if not, it???s a little white lie that???s easily forgiven. It can be awkward at times, but the culture of overfeeding needs to stop somewhere ??? and it shouldn???t interfere with quality time spent with good family & friends.

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85 · March 31, 2013 at 1:22 AM

I'd imagine this would be difficult if you usually hang out with a group of friends, but I was actually able to convince one of my friends to join me when I first started my Paleo/low-carb experiment. I already had the basics down, so I educated him on what I already knew. Then we kinda just learned through research and trial and error on our own. The rest of our friends figured out what we were doing, but I think it was more acceptable to them since we were both doing it, so they didn't try to make us stop or anything. They did tease us a little, but it didn't phase us. I guess I should mention that we were in a kinda unique situation: we were the cooks at a summer camp, so we were basically free to make and eat whatever we wanted. But if we ever went out to eat, we'd get salads, meat entrees, or bunless burgers. You could also just say you have an allergy/intolerance to gluten and dairy.. I don't know how socially "acceptable" that is among teens, or if they already know you don't.

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